Are you working with a designer? There should be loads of options for stained cabinets. You could even mix and match stained wood with painted wood if you want to lighten things up a bit. I'm assuming you're looking at a big box store, so these are Shenadoah that Lowes sells. Not oak, but cherry and maple, but just here as an example.

I wouldn't worry a whole lot about matching your kitchen table. It's okay to use different woods on furniture in a single room. In fact, it adds interest. Rooms are uninteresting when everything matches.

If you have a sample to take with you to wherever you're getting your cabinets, that is best. Otherwise take a good photo and ask if you can bring samples home.