I've been looking at high end roofing tile websites and one of them has a color expert that made recommendations for house paint colors with their orange/brown roof tiles. Here is a link to some of the schemes they recommend that may give you some inspiration: https://www.davinciroofscapes.com/blog/exterior-color-schemes-autumn/ You can color match to Sherwin Williams brand paint.

Your light gray colors are the wrong tone. the ones you have listed lean a little pink/taupe. your stone is more tan/golden. if you go w/something too light, it's going to look washed out. these are the tones of your stone. This evergreen fog color would look great w/your shake and the stone. I love this color on your garage doors (so some other sage green color) if you want light, try the neutral ground on the siding w/the tan shade on the trim. or vice versa. darker grays that have that green/brown undertone. all of these pair well w/the stone. I love the black w/the wood idea. Iron Ore or Wrought Iron. no cedar shake, but this has the stone facade w/the dark colors and trim so you get an idea. Your cedar would actually lend a lot of warmth to the party. if you want a little warmer, what about these? (Copper Mountain on the front door) Caramelized on the trim, the bronze on the siding. Urbane Bronze is another nice color for the siding. either of the two light ones for the trim/garage door,,,Cajun for the front door. Any of these Protege Bronze, Urbane Bronze, Nettle or Nocturne will give that dark shade, but since they all have brown undertones, will work well w/the stone and the cedar. Some other neutral tones.

Here are a few inspirational color combinations. I just cant figure out what colors they might be. And what features to paint on my house. If i go with a white, what do i paint the fascia near the roof, what about the features around the windows, what about the garage doors - this is sort if my dilema. I want really soft muted colors. Like the colors on the gate/ wall. Anyone have suggestions.

A gray roof like yours is neutral, so you can do any color. The first decision is do you want saturated color (like the deep blue) or a softer color (like the gray-greens)? Just making that decision will help. Your house has an adorable cottage-y feel so anything goes - which makes it harder but more fun. Scour Houzz and Pinterest for cottage house photos and see what you are drawn to. Start an inspiration folder just for the outside paint. Redoing the porch and columns will definitely help. But make a note to paint your porch ceiling Haint Blue, which is a fun tradition. (You don’t have to be Southern to do this.) Your house is perfect for that.