I have silestone capri limestone, which is very light and very little pattern. Mine is not honed. Capri limestone does not show dirt or scratches and, most importantly to me, it looks ok without buffing every time you wipe it down. I had dark granite at my old house and it wasn't that it showed dirt so much as it showed wipe marks so you had to wait for it to dry totally (even after wiping it with a towel it wasn't dry enough) and then buff it or else it didn't look nice. I think that dark ES would be the same way. I chose capri limiestone because I wanted a counter that I could wipe down (when someone knocked on the door-LOL!) and then walk away, and capri limestone has been like that. As for honed, I know that some honed ES colors require more maintenance than others, but the manufacturers are pretty good about telling you which ones those are. I think capri limestone would look great honed. We have a medium dark heavily patterned silestone in a bathroom and it does not show anything.

When we quartz shopped, I remember some patterns came in a honed version. But I found that quartz is not nearly as shiny as granite, and the shine may vary among manufacturers. We had very reflective Caesarstone installed, then damaged on install, and replaced with Pentalquartz. The PQ is much less reflective. Kind of a satin finish.

I have also done the search for an alternative to soapstone. None of the man-made countertops have remotely the same look. Not bad, just very different. And, as was previously mentioned, there are maintenance issues with the honed finishes on quartz countertops. I think Raven may actually been withdrawn. Jet Mist varies widely in appearance. Some slabs look like authentic soapstone, while others have a powdered sugar appearance. Again, not bad, just different. There is also an interesting stone available through a supplier in the Midwest called Aqua Grantique. Maybe you should Google that.

I had Caesarstone Honed Pebble installed in my kitchen (and a bathroom too) over three years ago and I love it. I did not want a polished counter in my kitchen, it was too shiny for me. The matte is so soft and calm looking imo. I also love how my counters feel. The matte finish is so silky and smooth compared to the polished. I did a lot of research before I got them, like alerievay1, and my advice would be to read the info from your specific manufacturer as to how to clean your counters, since it will likely differ from their polished counter recommendation. And get samples to test. Big ones if possible. It's so much easier to clean a larger sample than a smaller one. I was able to borrow some large samples from a nearby counter shop and the ease of cleaning of these samples compared to the smaller ones I had already gotten was surprising to me. I'd get samples of both honed and polished in the color you like, along with samples of other colors you're not interested in but can use to compare in general. I do see fingerprints and smudges, but not that often. Mainly on one side of my island where people tend to lean on it a lot. Those easily wipe away with a wet sponge or dishrag. They aren't glaringly obvious though. They are subtle and only noticeable at certain angles or when the light is just right. I do not have an issue with water spots. I have CS raven (polished) in one of my bathrooms and water spots show a lot more than on the honed pebble. As for staining, I have no real issues with stains. I was concerned at first since I'd read how honed quartz stained so much more than polished quartz, but relaxed pretty quickly once I realized my counters were super easy to care for. To clarify the staining, I should say that on occasion I've had "stains" not come off right away. We cook a lot of Indian food and sometimes turmeric stains the counters and leaves a bit of color behind. I'll wipe the counters down and all the color doesn't come off right then. It'll be subtle but still there. But by the next day it's gone or goes away the next time I wipe the counters. So I now know not to worry, all "stains" are not permanent. I've seen this a few times w/red wine too but it's rare. And again, the "stain" is never permanent. And I don't use some fancy cleaning method. Usually just a wet sponge. On occasion I spray method cleaner on my sponge or dishrag and wipe with that too. Here's an older picture of my kitchen. Still looks the same :-)