I love wind’s breath in the bedroom but it’s almost too cozy and warm for the rest of the house. Pale oak looks very cool and grey in my north facing rooms though and I’m just not quite sold on either as a whole house colour. I don’t want anything darker than these two but would go lighter, however I’m not interested in an all White House.

Let me know if you have any recommendations!!

Have you looked at Edgecomb Gray? It's similar to Pale Oak but less gray. I have EG in my master bedroom where the light is from the north and west, Pale Oak in a room with a strong southern exposure where more gray isn't a problem. EG is darker than Pale Oak, but maybe it will have the mix of warm and cool that you're looking for. Winds Breath ended up looking very slightly green when I sampled it, so that's why I didn't end up using it. Also, I am just not a fan of the whole house one color idea the way some people are. One color, no matter which one it is, never looks the same under all lighting conditions. I do try to keep it to two main colors and then do something completely different in bedrooms and bathrooms when it's suitable. However, when areas are open to each other without cased openings in between you don't have a good way to transition. I think if the LRV of the colors is close and the colors somewhat similar no one else will ever notice they're not the same color anyway. We're always more critical of our own houses than others are.

I can't vouch for the presenters' accuracy but here are a couple of videos that attempt to answer your question:

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