Worried: I wouldn't call our relationship loveless. I love him very much. I believe he loves me. He says often enough and tenderly enough. Yes he has control issues and I have issues dealing with his control. But things have changed a lot since our confrontation and he does try to listen more. As for if I'm happy well at this time we're trying to deal with this situation so I wouldn't say there is a general feeling of happiness. But we're not directing the unhappiness toward each other. When he's not working we are together a lot. Problem is he's working a lot. Lucky for me that whether he's really working is easy for me to know the reason for his trip is work. That doesn't really prove whether he could be cheating although when I've asked him if he is/has he says no. He doesn't act withdrawn but I'm aware that he still could be. I enjoy being with him and he seems to enjoy being with me. Our sex life is everything I could want and he sure seems satisfied too. But he is also very affectionate outside of sex. I pretty much can't keep my hands off him and if ever want to get him to not act angry just touching him usually does it. Doesn't change his mind much but does change his demeanor. But he doesn't speak roughly to me often anyway. Like I said in my first post I almost wish he didn't treat me in the manner that he does because then I could easier resist him. Thanks to Mkroop for pointing that out as manipulation but Lawd! It's still hard to resist him even when armed with that knowledge. Granted in the past that has been because I just let him have his way but that has changed some too. I guess I really need to look up that word narcissistic to see what else is involved other than control. One positive I have gotten from all of your posts is speaking up for myself and not being afraid to oppose him. I don't know what my fear was with that other than not wanting to be a nag for fear it would drive us apart and our marriage wouldn't last. I remember hearing one of my sisters say that he husband was the boss until she started having kids. Now she is definitely the queen bee so I guess there's hope for me yet. This post was edited by wifey1281 on Wed, Dec 5, 12 at 7:32

Sorry I didn't post sooner with vet's diagnosis. She was running a low grade fever, blood & bacteria in urine. So vet gave her antibiotics (bubble gum flavor!!) She takes like a champ. So this was all on Thursday. Friday she did good but Saturday morning started sqatting all over the house again. Called vet as soon as they opened. They said it is still too soon to think the antibiotics aren't working. Wait it out the weekend and call them Monday am. If by then, no change then they may need to do an xray and check for blockage or stones or change meds. She spent the day on the lanai (couldn't chase her around all day) and she loved it. Didn't want to come back in. And a squirrel was not so happy. He hung out upside on the screen 4 ft above where she was laying. Today she is fine again with a few more days left on the meds. Hopefully this will do the trick. Squirrelheaven - my vet is very reasonable (i think). Spaying is only $40. This last visit was $84 - 29 exam, 35 urinalysis, 20 antibiotics.

Zone systems (zone boards specifically) are designed electrically to have proper sized transformer. Again with the VA rating? Yes, this isn't voodoo magic. If the electrical loads (24v) are not properly sized to the transformer you will have erratic system behavior. For that reason, I would NEVER choose the Nest for those kinds of applications. The odds are low that it will work and / or for very long. Heavy system loads. These loads change thru out the season. If you want something to work, shouldn't it just work any time rather than sometimes? It's one thing to get a system to work in 80 degree weather, it's quite another to keep it working under a 95-100 degree heat wave. This comment is primarily directed at a HVAC zone system. (in case others without a zone system read this thread) I haven't had any issues with Ecobee, but I don't see this kind of T-stat all that often because Ecobee is primarily designed for use in commercial type applications. I am a Texas licensed HVAC contractor and service the Katy, Texas area. TACLB28416E

I love love live the way my Graff fixtures look. Sadly it has been one technical issue after another. Don’t try to blame the rusty water coming out of one of the two lavatory faucets on my pipes. Mind you I have lived here seven years and never had problems. After many many hostile correspondence from them I figured out that the setscrew that held the aerator and was not stainless and had rusted. Therefore all the water coming out of the aerator which was also rusted is Rusty. It ruined the pop-up drain my sink in the faucet spout. Then I had my gorgeous tub Phil installed they sent me a stainless handle even though it’s a polished nickel fixture. They had to send me a new nickel handle. Then after it was installed the spout would never stop dripping. Then I had to have the plumber come back and graft sent a new cartridge. The plumber came back the third time to install the brand new fixture that Graf sent. This one drips from the spout but not quite as badly however anytime you turn the Fossett on the hand held shower pours water and it gets all over the floor needless to say. So they are two for three of screwed up products.I called them on this last issue and they are claiming that this was tested before they sent it to me, however it arrived sealed in plastic in the original packaging so I’m not quite sure how they sealed it. They are now suggesting that it is clogged with debris and buildup and that that is why it is not working. I did not realize it was not working properly until the same day it was installed. Prior to that it was sealed in plastic in the original packaging. I absolutely adore my fixtures it is what they use in high-end hotels in Saint Barts. But if I had to do over I would be using Brizo all day long. I am super super bummed and I’m getting ready to pay for I can’t remember if it’s my fourth or fifth plumber visit