I haven't seen it in person.... only in photos and blogs. but I think your best best is to just paint the walls in simply white eggshell....bc next to the simply white trim in satin or semi-gloss, they will look good. It sounds like you want a subtle difference in whites...and just the finish alone will give you a subtle difference bc of the sheen and how they reflect light.

where it looks very close to Pale Oak It's not. There is ample difference between Origami White and Pale Oak. Same hue family but compare Value and Chroma, that's where you see it. White on white color schemes hinge on Chroma. There needs to be a difference in Chroma of 0.20 (ish) +/-. Plenty of space between Extra White and Origami to work.

Well the problem is they are ready to paint my cabinets so it's time sensitive... a cool white seems to be best on the cabinets with our selected counter tops... we are also sadly building from a far! We definitely want whiter trim.

Here is KM Swiss Coffee on these cabs. a bit diff than your wall color from DE, yes? KM Swiss Coffee appears to have a pink undertone rather than a yellow Almost identical to SW White Flour (and BM Swiss Coffee has the pink undertone too) Compare it next to Dunn Edwards which has more yellow to it. Do you see the diff? 2000K lighting is horrible for selecting paint colors. it will cast a orange/yellow hue over everything. You can't pick a trim color w/that lighting. You will over compensate and pick something cooler when all you need is a cooler light. 4000K, as mentioned earlier, is what you need. look at the diff in a 2000 to a 4000. trust me. get this lighting and get a sample door. You haven't mentioned the countertop, have you? what color is it? As for the cabinet painter, he should be able to paint a sample door for you! not a big deal. You need to have one in hand when choosing a countertop. the last thing you want is a white quartz and your cabinets come back a very warm, yellowish white!. I had mine painted and chose Simply White. The painters gave me a sample door to show what the lacquer conversion looks like and ended up going one shade brighter. But my walls and trim are Simply White and they look identical This is all natural light. It's not a cool white. just a neutral, fresh white. This color trim paired w/your Swiss Coffee walls would look nice. would look similar to this wall/trim duo or you could try SW Alabaster if you want something a tad warmer head over here to create your own color palette https://kellymoore.com/mycolorstudio-color-palette Here are two palette w/KM Swiss Coffee and coordinating colors: These are nice and would look great w/your flooring I like these w/blues too. Are you doing an island? https://kellymoore.com/mycolorstudio-color-palette