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Comments (10)Well, I got on without being asked to log on and my mouse functions are working again so I guess that lets the kid and iVillage off the hook. So that leaves me with Mozilla/Firefox. I really am not in the mood to figure that out tonight. Why does iVillage ask for logons in Mozilla/Firefox and not IE??? I think it will be easier to figure out why the TV turns on at 4:30 or 5:00 am. Not cable, just the TV. It blares static for a couple of minutes then turns itself off again. Very strange when you are sleepless. I tend to suspect the lady cop behind us and down one. I wonder if her garage door opener is over juiced. Of course I didn't ask where the kid lives. He might have been playing with the opener or the remote control Hi Fi. Those would have a timer on them. What else comes to mind?? When I was running a computer/ electronics store the local kids came up with some wild ideas and of course had to show them off to me. One of those ideas was good enough for an invite to one of the big schools for one of the kids. He decided on a tech school. The other half of that partnership, after rewriting the software for one of the local hospitals for peanuts, decided to go for a degree in English. Then they rewired my store so I could control various systems from my desk in the backroom with one touch of a button. Sandy...See MoreWhat do you think of my fall order?
Comments (7)Tammy, I am sure you know that with some nurseries you do not have to pay upfront just before they ship their plant. Pickering, for example never charged me till they assembled the order in February. Palatine charges half the amount when they send the invoice and charge the rest when they ship. Of own root vendors I seem to remember that Chamblee's charges only before shipping. So you may have some ease on your pocketbook by reserving your roses now and pay them only in February or March depending when you want them shipped. I also ordered - after long hesitation - Tradescant. I couldn't resist the color of the blooms; no excuse just an explanation if an explanation is needed for rose purchases on this forum.:-) So I am happy to hear that it likes heat and does well in the southeast. I have no idea where I will plant it yet, and even less, how I will tame it. Based on my experience with WS2000 (that bleaches out to pink in full sun), I assume that Tradescant would not like full sun either but would be better in early morning sun and some shade afterwards. Am I right in this assumption? I am worried about its sized too. I saw one in town and that was a monster covering a pergola. Barbara, would you be willing to give more detail on the height and width of Tradescant? Pickering, for example never charged me till they assembled the order in February. Palatine charges half the amount when they send the invoice and charge the rest when they ship. Of own root vendors I seem to remember that Chamblee's charges only before shipping. So you may have some ease on your pocketbook by reserving your roses now and pay them only in February or March depending when you want them shipped. I also ordered - after long hesitation - Tradescant. I couldn't resist the color of the blooms; no excuse just an explanation if an explanation is needed for rose purchases on this forum.:-) So I am happy to hear that it likes heat and does well in the southeast. I have no idea where I will plant it yet, and even less, how I will tame it. Based on my experience with WS2000 (that bleaches out to pink in full sun), I assume that Tradescant would not like full sun either but would be better in early morning sun and some shade afterwards. Am I right in this assumption? I am worried about its sized too. I saw one in town and that was a monster covering a pergola. Barbara, would you be willing to give more detail on the height and width of Tradescant?...See MoreHow to gracefully get out of invite?
Comments (39)runninginplace, those were my thoughts exactly. However, golddust did come back and state that for her company, the party *is* during work hours. Which does make it odd that one employee refuses to attend. I'm trying to figure out how you do that--go to work and not attend the party that's right there, at your workplace. But there are some religions that don't celebrate Christmas and some that don't celebrate any holidays, and perhaps this employee is a member of one of them. I'd also like to address the article that Hilltop mentioned, about employees having to be a team both at work and not at work. Having to support each other outside of work. I'm sure that point of view has some value for employers. But for employees? Thank you very much, but I'd rather chose the people in my life to whom I go for support. Not rely on the person sitting at the desk next to me, who is there solely because someone thought they could do a certain job well. No way in heck would I trust that person to support me off the job. I don't know them well enough to trust them. And you really can't trust that a co-worker won't tell stories about you and your off-duty activities to your supervisors. I'll chose my own support system, thank you very much. The whole idea of that article creeps me out. I try to be friendly with my colleagues, but I have yet to find a real friend at work, in the 30 + years that I've been working. Mostly, I have to be very careful about revealing too much of my private life, in order not to be teased too much or be considered "counter-cultural." Yep, drinking tea rather than coffee is counter-cultural. Enjoying science fiction makes me weird. Not liking to get drunk makes me weird. Not liking football and basketball and baseball makes me weird. Sewing and crocheting makes me weird. Reading a lot makes me weird. I have a feeling that not wanting to participate in the March Madness basketball pool at one job is part of why I was the first person laid off when bad economic times hit--I wasn't a team player because I chose not to participate in something that a) I knew nothing about, b) didn't care a hoot for and c) would cost me $25. Something that had nothing to do with work in the slightest. I think I'm perfectly normal and a good employee. But I have received more flack about all of the above (and more) and that's one reason I don't like socializing with co-workers. And why I would certainly never rely on them for support outside of work-related issues....See MoreRIP Sean Connery
Comments (17)I'm not excusing abuse. Just because you understand some of the conditions that create it, doesn't mean you condone it or even tolerate it. But abusers learn abuse by being abused, by not being valued or respected in their youth, at home, in school and usually early on at work. It creates a viscous cycle that is hard to break. Particularly since much of the world operates on abusive foundations. Abusers egos are fragile due to the trauma of their own abuse, which they rarely can overcome. It take a lot to break the cycle, and abusers almost always end up alone but with a string of failed marriages and business ventures behind them. Same with narcissists. The two often go together. Very hard for that kind of person to change, but it's a spectrum. Acting is the perfect place for an abusive person to hide, which is probably why so many Hollywood marriages fail. Acting is hardly the profession to tackle abusive behavior, actors are objectified and used for the ego gratification of others, which is part of the personality of abuse, not valuing others innate humanity, but using them as objects. In movie making, the actors are the puppets used to make money and that is the bottom line, will it sell. Some artists in the acting profession try to beat the system, but it is a popular system . . . FWIW, I never liked the Bond movies. Inane childish fantasies, like "gag me" silly. But that's just one gal's opinion. The best Sean Connery movie I ever saw was "Robin and Marian" and that one is pretty dark . . .try watching The Molly Maguires if you can stomach it . . . It's possible to like a person who is deeply flawed . . . from a distance. One hopes for the best for them, that they can grow spiritually, as in Christian love. One hopes for their true redemption. That's not the same thing as tolerating or condoning abuse. Expect the worst, hope for the best. Just forgiving and not giving in to hate yourself. Hating someone is a waste of energy. Sounds like Sean Connery's first wife got over it and moved on. Living well is the best revenge. We need to not idolize the abusive behaviors. Sean Connery made his fortune on glorifying low grade (silly for the most part) violence. And people ate it up. Some of his more mature movies had a more nuanced approach to battling violence. I think he was probably a complex man, not a caricature. He acted for our enjoyment, the rest we should leave to God....See Morelisaam
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