No wonder you are confused. My head was spinning after reading all of the opinions! I was following the original post, but this is my first look at your follow-up. I agree with the others about finding another shade for first lamp if you decide to use it. The present shade is too short and it is the wrong style. My suggestion would be to take the lamp into a lighting store that sells shades. There you will have some expert advice as well as the option to "try on" various shades, much in the same way that you would try on clothes to determine the most flattering fit and combination. Think of the gas you will save! These are some guidelines for shades that I have found useful: 1. Match the base  think size, shape, style, color. Your goal is to match the mood of the base. 2. Compliment the base  the shade should make the base look better without competing with for attention (like that patterned shade on the metal lamp) 3. Hide the switch  the shade should just barely cover the switch (usually the height of harp + ½ inch). Try different sized harps, or add a shade riser to fine-tune. 4. Sizing Rules of Thumb: (1) Shade height should be about ¾ the height of the base (2) Bottom of shade should be wider than widest part of the base. (3) Shade width should be approximately equal the height from bottom lamp base to the top of the lamp stem, (just below the socket cap) I like both lamps. I think either one will be beautiful, but I would not use both of them in that room. Rather than another ginger jar, it would be nice to use a different architectural form on the console. I like the console very much. I do not like the metal/glass (marble?) lamp with the patterned shade. I would look for gorgeous buffet lamps. I am thinking wooden with an antique gold finish (very simple, but elegant). These are high end lamps, but use as examples. If you want the console to appear more sophisticated, remove the dried flower wreath that is resting on the books below, and remove the wicker basket with the greens from the top of the console. Replace it with a grouping of three (the magic number) similar objects (candles, boxes, ceramics, etc.) of different height and proportion. Good luck and keep up the good work. I am amazed by your shopping energy and resourcefulness.

I'm in a similar position, but I have a pedestal and need a round table top. I've been scouting craigslist for a pine or mahogany top to attach to my pedestal. I hope to find a pedestal table, discard the pedestal and attach the top to mine. I plan to paint the pedestal and stain the top, so I don't have to match the wood species. If you're looking for a walnut trestle, that would probably be too specific to find on craigslist. This company in Maine makes a variety of trestles, but they're pretty pricey... Here is a link that might be useful: Trestle tables

Instead of a drum shade you could choose a tapered shade with a narrow opening at the top. There are some lamps that are completely closed at the top, usually with metal or glass shades (probably because an enclosed shade could get too hot with a high wattage bulb for other materials). There are lots of Tiffany-style table lamps with dome or closed tapered shades, if that suits your style. Another option would be to get a tall lamp with a tall shade. Something with this kind of proportions: Another option would be to use a swag lamp rather than a table lamp. It gives you a bit more flexibility in placement, and might open up new opportunities.

that's what i was able to dig out but i'm sure there are more things like what shade works best for what etc also, task lighting(for reading, writing etc) might differ from more ambient lights like these ones. in terms of hom mmuch wattage you need, whether needs to be movable to be directed, etc meanwhile hope it helps somewhat