Why does he not like it? What do you like it? There is no way to take sides without info.

Also would help if you posted pictures of the rooms in question and tell us which color you have chosen. The floor color and color of furnishings is very important when choosing a wall color. In a bathroom the color of everything else in the room is important.

I love white paint and I have it in my house everywhere except the bedrooms. I kinda agree with him it’s stark in bedrooms. However, they are many shades of white that might be warmer and might appeal to him. Just prime a wall and paint some different shades on it.

Can you do the painting yourself? When the cost is only materials and your own time, it can be worth doing yourself. Agree to repaint if he really hates the white after 6 months. Paint isn't forever!

My husband has trouble imagining things. Can you show him photos of white bedrooms and bathrooms you like on Pinterest?

Could you paint one wall with the color you have chosen? Then you and your husband could live with it for a few days. Easy fix if it doesn’t work for both of you.

Maybe he thinks it will be stark and perhaps if he sees the subtle differences in white it will help. If the issue though is that he wants “color”, that’s different.

I loved the look of the warm white used in my living room so slowly repainted kitchen, hall and master. It’s so versatile when decorating and when wanting a change, easy to just update accessories (big advantage). In regards to the bathroom, I think it’s dependant on the counter, flooring and tile. Suggest trying to find inspiration pictures of white bedrooms and bathrooms that somewhat reflect what you are working with, to help with decision.

I learned early on it was best to go forward with my likes decorating wise and ask after. My DH doesn't visualize such things well. I get a lot of resistance about plans and only compliments on actual execution.

It may well be that you need to “prime” your walls before you paint them the final color. Prime the walls in the color white that you desire. That way, your husband will see your vision. If he still is opposed to your color choice…then, well…discuss it!

Marriage is all about compromise, and since you both live in the house, you're both entitled to a say in how it's decorated. My husband has some very clear ideas many times on how a project should go, and thankfully there haven't been too many times when I thought he was wrong. There's no way any of us can advise how you can convince your spouse, but offering the tonality options, as Maureen demonstrates above, may expand your discussion. There doesn't have to be just one shade of white; in fact, there are so many that your next discussion might be how to narrow down the choices. Good luck.

Maybe show him inspiration pics of what you are envisioning. ETA: is he against it because he'll have to do the painting and doesn't want to do it or does he have another color in mind. My ex never cared what I wanted to do in the house...may my choices so much easier. ;-)

Agree with others: I might be on his side because I don’t know what color HE wants.

Just saying that you want white isn’t convincing me. I’m not going to go along with you just because you’re The Wife. No offense.

First, why is he opposed to it? What color does he want? How much light does your bedroom get? I painted a lot of my house white but the difference between a room that got a lot of natural light vs a low light room made the white totally different. I ended up painting the white in the low light room because it was just so sterile.

Men are visual, dont try to talk him into the wall color, SHOW him pictures of what the room can look like. Instagram reels are a good source as well as pinterest.

Arguing with your husband about a paint color and then asking strangers to help you win him over doesn't sound logical.

Im not trying to argue about it thats my point!! Yes he will be the one to paint.

we have a flat roof territorial home in AZ and thats all i see is brown and these rooms havent been painted in a long time and i would just love white for it calms me and looks so clean and bright. He said no to white and i just can‘t get him to change his mind thats all. Some of your ideas were definitly helpful and i thank you.

Why does he not like it ? and what color does he like though? You got to ask him the whys of his choice. And also if you really like to paint the room white, then let him know what's your reason of choosing that color. Communication is the key.

How about not calling it white (booooring), call it SW Alabaster, or whatever color. Alabaster is a beautiful color.

You can always threaten to move to the guest room and paint it white! Do it for psychological health reasons; it calms you (and maybe it will convince him.) In fact, maybe doing what you like in another bedroom will show him you're not crazy; especially if someone besides him can do the grunt work.

M riz said what I thought - communicate with what is specific - Get to reasonable back and forth. Get your inspiration photos, and write beforehand maybe, what you like. If he would, have him to it too. Nothing wrong with asking here, since helpers of every shape and kind abound in this world- good thing!

I don't like to brighten paint in a bedroom

Doors are okay painted white or a darker color

You know what else will help @Sharon Levandowski ? Changing out those dark curtains and making your bed wonderfully comfortable. You know when you come back from a long day on vacation and you open the door to your room and like magic the bed is made and it looks so comfortable, and the room is bright and clean and smells wonderful (depending on where you stay lol)? Doesnt your man want that for your home? Someplace that you look foward to after you lock the kids down? IDK about you, but I could talk my husband into anything if its going to make our time together more peaceful lol

This is the listing photo from when we bought it a year ago

 I like also snowbound paint color

"Yes he will be the one to paint."

Maybe it is time you took over the painting! I'm not young and just got out my painting gear after not having painted in roughly 10 years and the new house has 12 ft ceilings, so even more work. I painted like crazy for a week and I'm taking a break for a week and will tackle the 2 remaining hallways, powder and laundry next week. It was new construction and the builder had done the original painting, but I had picked the wrong color for the main living areas and it was really bothering me. Much prefer the space now that it is getting repainted in a lighter and brighter color.

then how about a Swiss Coffee type of white?

Why not get a can of primer, tint it swiss coffee (yes, you can tint primer to any color you like) And then YOU get out your little brush/roller and paint one wall of it. show it to him.

You aren't being very clear. people have asked you "what does he think when you say white? " Like stark surgical white? Men don't know colors (most men) Think '8 color crayon box'. You have to show them the 'white' you're thinking of.

Prime the wall in the one you like. if it's too white for him, then maybe go over it w/a creamier white or a linen color.

Remind him that colors like this can "make' you feel cooler on those hot summer nights.

show him pictures of white bedroom walls you like. You can't just expect him to know what your vision is.

is this what you had in mind? since you live in the desert, what do you think about these two room ideas?

or show him this one. Ask him if he would be willing to do one wall of his color, and the other 3 a soft white

Our bedroom and my son’s old bedroom are both southwest facing. Wanting a proper guest bedroom, the second one desperately needed paint. The rest of the home is creamy white (after years of color in various homes) and I knew I wanted crisp and fresh white for guests. I used BM simply white and it’s dazzling. Now I’d like the rest of the home this color. Point is, whites vary and really can make a huge difference, and one room isn’t a huge commitment.

After seeing your pictures, I think a warm white in bathroom will work well and create a fresher feel. In regards to your bedroom, suggest something like BM Pale Oak. More importantlly, be sure to lighten the bedding and accessories, which will have the most . impact

There are so many shades of white. A white-white is not going to work in your bathroom since the tile is beige, and that may not even be what you're thinking of, but it may be what DH is envisioning when you say white. As another poster said, SW Alabaster or Greek Villa are nice warm whites, BM Soft Chamois or Acadia are others. You can get peel and stick samples from Samplize.com. Why don't you get some so both of you can see what the options are without painting sample splotches on the walls? I like to sample on my walls, but my husband has the patience of a saint when it comes to things like this. :-) Maybe the peel and stick is a better idea for you. You can then move them to different walls and from the bathroom to the bedroom to get an idea of how they will look in different light. You can go lighter without going white.

Please keep in mind your choice of lightbulbs will change any paint color as well.

White is popular these days and it is a classic - but white is not the only paint color on the planet.

Also, beige is ”back.” https://www.kylieminteriors.ca/is-beige-back-you-might-be-surprised/ 

And, imo, one of the ’updated’ beige colors would most likely work better in your space(s), than most any white would. Plus, maybe save your marriage.

Here are a few of those:

A few more... most of these are also on the list I included above.

The current beddng is making the room darker than the paint is. If it is a matter of the doggie - you could get a large throw/blanket for the dog to lie on - and put that throw/blanket over some lighter bedding.

Or get a canvas painters’ drop cloth, and wash it a couple of times, to soften it - and let the dog lie on that. You can get a couple of them and switch them out. Gives you the look and feel of a nice linen, and is durable. People make slipcovers and curtains out of these canvas drop cloths.

https://www.amazon.com/CCS-CHICAGO-CANVAS-Furniture-Protection/dp/B010O5HZVW/ref=asc_df_B010O5HZVW/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=198077767340&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=13144678404301690654&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1022759&hvtargid=pla-350648945185&th=1

If your husband doesn’t let you change the bedding, etc. - maybe consider sleeping in another room. Or another house. :)

Thank You ALL very much !! How nice of you to take the time ! I appreciate all coments. I will post what we can agree on and keep you updated. Again thx.

I can't wait to see updated pictures. I really feel the room needs lighter bedding also.

Yes i agree with that for sure.

i need to share that my husband said cornice has to stay put. Paint first then discussions later about the rest. 🥰

Really? If i didnt want some dusty, outdated cornice in my room, its gone. Im all for decorating to please each other. My husband had his office and media room to himself to do with what he wanted. I had to decorate around two chairs in my greatroom that he had delivered out of nowhere. It was ok tho, because its a give and take. He never went to the Ralph Kramden school of marriage thank God. He has no interest in making me bargain for things. There was a post a couple of weeks ago with a similar problem. Her husband designed the entire kitchen including paint and she hated it, but he put a lot of work into it, sooo. Good luck, I truly hope you can get the bedroom of your dreams.

Thank You for your kind words and yes its a challenge !! Were both retired now and after 40 years together we know what we like and dislike.

This house was our costum built 19 years ago and hes still in love with everything i did 19 years ago. He doesn’t like change. Its all good and we will figure it all out. Why i turned for help was to get other opinions on why white would work.

THANK YOU all !! Very much appreciated

Sharon

Hi Sharon, I suggest here that the two of you talk about WHY you each want or don't want white.  You may find a middle ground that would make you both happy. Just tossing out ideas to show the possibilities... He may not like bright white because it makes the house look unfinished, or like you are getting ready to sell, or because he has a bad association with a different home, perhaps parental, that was all white, or maybe some work space. You may like white because it is a cool clean "color", or because the pictures in Houzz are so full of all white everything it's too hard to be creative with other colors....oh, wait that's MY issue. :-) I noticed you have all warm colors everywhere. Maybe you want some balance of warm and cool?

But really, maybe ask the dog to get a tie-breaker.

Maybe part of the reason why you want to have white is because all you see is brown... but then you have brown as pretty much the only color- brown walls, wood, textiles, finishings. While different color walls might help you relieve that. Maybe consider swapping out some of the rest of that brown for other. Colorful complementary towels, rugs, bedding, drapery.

Yes well we have to decide on color this week because i i hired someone to paint for us.. I got samples do will talk it out. Thank You KL and Beesneeds.

What do you mean by "my" bedroom and bathroom? Do you and husband ea. have your own? If so then what's the problem, just do what you want! If not.... well.... compromise is the name of the game (you have my sympathies).

As others have illustrated above, you can have a much lighter, brighter version of greige than you currently have - but the possibilites are endless and I think you would have benefited by having a color consultant come over to talk to you BOTH. And help you narrow down some selections, of which you buy sample sizes and paint large posterboards (at least 4 x 4) that you move around the house and view at different times of day. You will see that some of these lighter shades that fall midway between white and a darker midtone (like you now have) will probably be the sweet spot that both your husband and you like.

Sometimes the paint shops have consultants who charge a fee which is then credited towards paint. Even if you had to pay someone a hundred or 2, still would be money well spent in relation to cost of buying paint which you later have to paint over because you dont like!

Yes your right we share our master bath and bedroom. Thats a excellent idea. Will see if they have a consultant that can assist ! Thank You !

@Sharon Levandowski any new projects? How are you doing?