This was my problem too. My KIT is open to the BR and FR and these rooms have stained trim. I really wanted an ivory kitchen, but I compromised. My new cabs have the same stain color as my old ones to tie in with the existing judges paneling. I painted the hutch and island. Could you do a combo of finishes? Can you post pictures? If people could see the KIT, they could give you better suggestions. On the right, you can see the stained paneling going into BR. The back of the kitchen leads to the DR which has painted trim, so this door has to be two toned to match each room when it is closed. The stained crown at the back of the KIT hasn't been installed yet, but it will be next to the painted crown of the hutch.

First of all, that is a *gorgeous* space, I am envious! And thank all that's holy that you rescued it from the dreadful taste of the previous owners--all those different woods and floor, four or five different shades of red, ugh! I love the new flooring, it's beautiful. I think were I in your shoes, I'd first try adding a lot of cool tones to the room(s), to see if I could tone down the warmth of the wood that way--and yes, do you like the countertops & hardware? That would be the first to go for me, if I could possibly swing it; I'm not a fan of granite/quartz anyway, but I especially don't think those tops work for the cool beachy casual sort of look you want. Maybe a white or light gray granite/quartz at least, if you like those materials? Perhaps soapstone or concrete? Or a pale (or bright! That could be fun) solid-color laminate, even; I know a lot of people dislike laminate but I'm fine with it, personally. And some silver or nickel hardware? Of course, you could try re-staining the cabinets rather than painting them. Do you want to DIY this or hire someone? A pro would be able to tell you the best way to tone down the warmth of the wood. None of which means I think it's wrong to paint them. I'm not a big fan of wood cabinets, personally, so if you want to paint I'd be all for it. A cool white or very light gray, maybe? The island in a different color, a darker gray or blue, or even something like a barely-lilac lilac (as in, gray with a hint of lilac; I don't like lilac as a rule but I think in this space it could be interesting, and different from the other grays that are everywhere [including my house, lol, because I have always loved gray] if you're looking for that. Something about that island bothers me, though. I feel like the outside of it is really...unfinished looking. Like it needs some pilasters, or beadboard or planks or tile, even, just...something. Maybe some vertical trim pieces every six inches or so, to mimic the Mission-style doors on the cabinets? It just looks to me like the carpenter was meant to come back to finish it but didn't. And honestly, I'd probably rip out the stair railing(s) and banisters and replace them with square ones, like @Horner Millwork suggested. The contrast between the Mission kitchen with all the right angles and those little round banisters & spindles looks odd to me. Then you can get new ones in whatever paint or finish you want, and I think it will look a lot more modern and sophisticated than those grandma-looking ones on there now (no offense to grandmas!). Maybe even a metal? I don't know what the rest of your furniture looks like, though, so I'm just spitballing that, basically. I hope that helps! Can't wait to see what you decide!

Here is a photo with a floor with color and grain similar to your samples next to oak cabinets. It's too busy and the stain undertones clash. You need to start looking at a different part of the flooring store. Try samples with less prominent grain and not as much stain color variation. I hate to keep raining on your parade but light gray paint and white/gray stone will not look good with orange oak. You are mixing warm and cool colors. Even though gray and wood tones are both considered "neutral", they don't usually play nice together. Here is an oak with light spice stain. It is from Bruce.

20K to paint everything in the house (kitchen cabs, vanities, all door trim, window trim and all of the baseboards)? I think the oak vanity is fine. the front door and back slider is fine The bannister is ok. All of the door trim and window trim? yes to painting. (again, if changing any of the flooring, you may just want to get new door/window trim that has a more modern look to it) As for the baseboard, if you have any plans on changing any of the flooring, then just get new baseboards. don't bother painting what's there. They're too small short) anyway since you said you wanted more of a modern look. update to a 5-6" simple baseboard molding for an updated look: Plus, we aren't talking about quality oak trim here. It's not the solid oak from the 20's. it's 80-90's crappy laminate honey oak that they put in all new homes. As for the kitchen cabinets and island. Do you like the layout? The door style is very dated (especially if you want modern) It might make more sense to have them refaced. those heavy chairs around the island? just, no. The backsplash? also a no. The window above the cabinets, yes, and yes to painting those, if you can't replace them. Don't know if they are low-e, but during the summer it might make a diff if you got new windows that reflected the heat a bit better.