PAR lights have no business being used in a family room, unless you have a high vaulted ceiling. The beam spread is just too narrow and concentrated to be useful. You either want a BR40 or BR30 bulb, or one of the fixture/light combos, such as the CREE Cr6. They'll give you a nice wide beam pattern -- anywhere from 90 to 120 degrees. For kits, I'd go with something like this: http://www.golights.com.au/lighting/downlights/led-downlights/led-downlight-kit-alluminum-dimmable-18w-90-degree-ip44-premier-sunny-lighting Here is a led BR40 bulb: http://www.ebay.com.au/itm/Philips-423756-14-5-Watt-BR40-LED-Indoor-Flood-Light-Bulb-Dimmable-/400480586367

The problem with all of this lighting is that each one is more than likely different color rendering from each other. If you could post a photo of everything, that would really help. Well with 6 inch cans, you can dim them down, and keep them at a certain level. The 4 inch cans don't give out as good of a beam spread and there are not a lot of good choices for 4 inch LED cans other than the Cree lr-4 and a few other brands, but their pretty pricey. If you think 6 inch cans are too big and unattractive, you have ruled out the best lighting choice for your kitchen. Every client that has used these lights loved the looks and performance. http://www.halogenlighting.com/led-recessed.html Mike

I'm not into trends, so we pretty much do around our place as we really want it. This year I put 21 Lithonia LED recessed throughout the dining/kitchen/living/hall. Wife wanted the chandelier eliminated in the foyer, and installed a 5" recessed there. The dining room is set up with a ceiling fan/light, 4-5" recessed on a dimmer, then 2-3" recessed on another dimmer. The living room we added a ceiling fan/light, and 4-5" recessed lights on a dimmer. We're very happy with the outcome. I must say, when I was determining where to place the lights, the ceiling looked like a grid. I shot drywall screws into the ceiling, & ran twine from end to end. Two of the lights we ended up adding was in the hallway after I put a 5" recessed light there. We added 2-3" recessed at each closet. In the enclosed space, the recessed just don't light up like a globe does. Next is the bathroom. I can run all 21 lights, & still be under the watts used for our 4 bulb vanity light. Makes it seem all worthwhile.

@PebblesAnn F: "I am similarly left on my own for choosing sloped ceiling lights..." You must first determine or decide: The slope of the ceiling Whether you want 6" or 4" fixtures The color temperature you want (only if using a 4" fixture because the light source is integrated; no separate bulb) Six inch housings, trims, and bulbs: IC926 Series 6" Standard Slope Incandescent Housing (scroll down for trims) IC928 Series 6" Super Slope Incandescent Housing (scroll down for trims) Four inch housings with light source, trims 4" Internally Adjustable LED Fixtures You would choose one of the IC4AL housings, specifying the brightness (lumens), color temperature, and beam angle You would choose a slope, trim type (adjustable round, fixed round, square); cone color, and trim color If you didn't want to make such decisions at purchase time, you could just go with the canless, white HaloRLS4099FS1EWHDMR 4" and new-construction mounting frame (also 6") adjustable-slope, multi-color-temp fixture (Amazon).