Well, I would consider trying to change things about myself to a certain extent. I agree with what some of the other posters said. To maintain a healthy, long term relationship with someone, change is often necessary-change in behavior in certain areas as somebody said. And many people try to improve themselves in life anyway. But I would not try to change my basic character or personality. And the part of the sentence that says "for someone not willing to change" is a huge red flag to me. I wouldn't try to change myself ONLY to hang on to someone that was not willing to change or improve himself.

Ok, I think you've been watching WAY too many HGTV shows! LOL Seriously? You don't need to spend your money on something like that when really it makes no difference to a buyer. That lighting is fine and as a Realtor, I can promise you, anyone interested in buying the house will not walk away if they don't care for the lighting. They'll just choose to change it to something THEY prefer after they move in. You'll spend all that time, effort and MONEY for absolutely nothing. Besides, who's to say what the buyers would prefer? Maybe they'll like that lighting just fine. Maybe they'll hate the lighting you choose, ya just never know so better to hold on to your cash and let it be.

that fireplace is as farmhouse as it needs to be, in fact I would say it blends with most styles. The pendant light would put the fan there and then on either end a directional light, or a "recessed" LED that can be aimed. the majority of the task lighting here will come from lamps.

All: - Yes, that room is massive, the whole house is... ~10K sq ft on four levels. - No, the sellers did not remove any load bearing walls (I know...I can spot these things), the house was overbuilt even before the sellers bought it, with steel beams running throughout and 10ft ceilings on each floor. The pictures do make the room extra roller skaty...but it is still a big room. The kitchen is actually quite large, the scale of the room makes it look smaller. - Yeah, that soffit is...a bad design choice. - You should see the basement...marble. on the floors. and on the walls..the sellers did not do that btw, they just didn't redo it, it was already there. - We've been looking...and trust me real estate is hard in this area...and very very expensive. Edit: Forgot to mention. The house also is extra quirky in terms of layout. - Main floor - 1BR/1FB (and that kitchen/great room) - Upper 1 - 2BR/2FB (Each floor is ~2500 sqft, so these are two very big. very very big master BRs) - Upper 2- 2BR/2FB with a second family room that rivals the main floor great room in size) - Basement - 2BR/2FB with an open area that rivals the great room in size). That is most likely the top reason it hasn't sold, aesthetics are probably second or third. While I'm not happy about the layout, I'm willing to make it work, hence my interest. Oh and @Circus Peanut - I'm quite a handy person when it comes to DIY. I can build furniture quality pieces given enough time (which I don't have) even though that's not what I do. I write software...for crying out loud...