I am wondering if anyone would like to attend the funeral
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Hmm, would you attend?
Comments (46)"The pocket book size does not matter when it comes to manners...if you invite someone to dinner the invitee pays." WHOA! Hold up there a sec, podnah. Do you perhaps mean that the invitER (the one who does the inviting) pays? (Which is what I was always taught when I began dating: you ask someone out, you pay or go Dutch. They ask you out, they pay or you go Dutch.) Pocketbook size DOES matter, a great deal, and it can be outright humiliating. I have lost friendships over this, where my friends were much wealthier than me and expected me to keep up with them and their lavish expenditures. (Some friends, huh?) Frankly I find it extremely rude to invite guests to events both you and they know they cannot afford to attend, and it's often embarrassing for the invitee to get these "pity invitations". IMO it is a lot classier to tailor your invitation to what your guest(s) can afford, if you are expecting them to pay their own tab. After all, having a guest is all about making your guest comfortable, isn't it? (Isn't that the message of the gazillion threads on "what makes a good guest room/bath/suite"?) If you're buying, by all means - take 'em to that joint with the $1000 gold-leaf hot fudge sundaes if that's what turns your crank! LOL...See MoreAttending Family Funerals
Comments (33)Sometimes you wish family had stayed away. Three of my DH's cousins came from two states away to his mother's funeral. The casket was closed, but they asked to have it opened because, " We haven't seen her such a long time." (She had been in a nursing home in our town for several years before her death in her mid-eighties.) Following the funeral luncheon at a restaurant near the cemetery, they came to our home to wait until their flight departed. Two seconds after establishing that he wasn't inheriting from her will, her nephew was on the phone, ordering a taxi to the airport. My MIL left *nothing* to any of her relatives. She had been generous for decades, helping with school expenses, mortgages, hospital bills, gifts to her siblings, their children and their children's children. She had given this particular nephew a large diamond for his bride. I invented stories to accompany some of her possessions when I sent them to some of her relatives, saying I was sure she'd wanted them to have the necklace/figurine/whatever....See MoreAnyone attend events at Brooklyn's Barclay's Center?
Comments (2)The Barclay Center is located on top of a transit hub. There are 10 subway lines and the Long Island Railroad. I would avoid car transit at all costs. It couldn't be more convenient. Any Hyatt in Manhattan would be great, that depends on what else you want to do in NYC. Union Square would be the quickest subway ride to the Barclay. There are now may new hotels located in Brooklyn, but no Hyatt's. If you want something in walking distance (within 1 mile) let me know. Just a quick warning about the Barclay; the steps inside the venue to the upper section are ridiculously steep. I have seen people afraid to ascend or descend as it does feel uncomfortable. If you are on the floor this won't be an issue. What else do you want to do in NY? How long will you be here?...See MoreHi, I am wondering if anyone can help identify this sofa.
Comments (7)The sofa is also known as a Gondola Style. Short of some label or tag to give you direction it will take you a good bit of quality research to identify the piece. If you do not find concrete means to identify the sofa you can only refer to it as Adrian Pearsall Style. As I mentioned there were many interruptions of the Adrian Pearsall Design. He generally used beautiful wood bases, some simple and some more sculptural than others. Like today, on the rare occasion an original design emerges, many designers/manufacturers jump on the popularity train and produce their look-enough-a-like versions. I think you will find most versions of that sofa, that are for sale, are attributed to Pearsall or called the Adrian Pearsall style. Using a famous designer’s name is a quick way to get buyers interested and his name means they can ask more $$$ just for the hope it may be real. But if it were authentic and could have been proven then the seller would have done so and doubled or tripled their price. On the lamp, it could be Sonneman. Most of Sonneman’s lamps, I have seen, have longer lengths of tubing prior to where the sleeve and socket are added. Look for the obvious designer labels, and lighting manufacturer company labels like Louis Poulsen, Flos and Artemide to see if it is from the right time period. Check for natural wear markings that occur over decades. I sold on like it about 5 years ago for $50. I could not find anything proof it was any other than an authentic reproduction of a once popular design. Let me add this, My passion in design, personally, is Mid Century Modern. My house is decorated throughout in MCM pieces from that era. The majority are very nice versions of the famous MCM designer pieces or original pieces from unknown designers and they thrill me. I have a passion for the style but not the budget for over inflated prices of the originals. If these pieces are for your own design pleasure and you do not wish to spend the amount of money it will take to acquire the authenticated originals, please do let their pedigree dampen your enthusiasm. Hope some of this helps. Good luck on your research....See MoreVladimir (Zone 5b Massachusetts)
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