Our first Grandbaby will be born by the end of the year!!!
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Comments (22)Wow..he was born all grown up! I enjoyed all the pics,what a handsome guy! Congratulations!! I remember when my son was born he weighed 8lbs. 2oz., and at the time he was the biggest baby in the nursery. Then 5 years later my daughter was born and weighed 10 lbs.,also the biggest in the nursery !we had to trade in the newborn stuff for 6 and 9 month sizes. That was also the last time I weighed 97 lbs. hehe :) Enjoy being a grandma, there's no such thing as too much spoiling!...See MoreFirst-born child syndrome
Comments (5)I'm 58, and a firstborn. Your description fits me to a T. I've always been the one to be there for everyone else--even when it meant I had to sacrifice. You cannot change him. No one can change or 'help' someone else unless THEY recognize their own problems and WANT to change themselves. I will say this, just in the past few months, my eyes have been opened wide. As I said, I've always been the one who everyone could count on--can't tell you how many people I've helped move, or babysat their children, or helped with home repairs, or cooked for or...... you get the picture. And for the last 12 years, I took full charge of taking care of my mother--while all my siblings were able to go on with their jobs, their everyday lives, etc and I worried, did the dr's runs, addressed health issues, etc. Well, I happen to be in the position of needing a little help right now. Asked a favor that would have take only a morning out of sis's life--she flat out refused, and then DENIED that I'd helped her move twice (I definitely did, and was even PREGNANT the move she's apparently conveniently forgotten about). Well, no more. I've been pushed to the limit. But no one could get me to that point. Heaven knows, my poor husband has tried and tried for years to get me to stop feeling responsible for the world (or at least my family). Right now, I'm living life for me. It's my time, and I'm enjoying my newfound freedom from taking on the responsibility for the entire family. But he's not going to get to that point until HE gets there--if you get what I mean. Just care about him, and be very careful that YOU don't fall into the trap of taking him and his help for granted....See MoreOT Our first grandson was born on Sunday
Comments (18)Thank you everyone! They came home from the hospital today and we went to see them again. We have been staying with DD in Columbus and driving to Dayton to see DS and family. It's closer than going all the way home. I wish my kids lived closer to us. They want us to move closer to them but I'm not ready for that yet. Linda...See MoreLoss of first born Adult Son
Comments (13)jamesdasmum, the feelings you are describing are not at all unusual. After I lost my 20-year-old son three years ago, at the suggestion of my counselor, I started attending group meetings sponsored by The Compassionate Friends (an international grief organization that supports parents, grandparents and siblings following the loss of a child). I was very surprised to hear other parents describe the same feelings I was having. At one meeting, every mother in the room acknowledged that they had hurt so much, they didn't want to live. The group meetings have been a respite for me from the awkward or painful comments of others who do not understand the depth of the pain mothers, in particular, experience when they lose a child. It became a forum where I could ask questions or just listen, eventually discovering how normal my suffering, feelings, and experiences were. As I looked around the room and saw people who had similar experiences but who were further along in their grief, I realized their sense of humor had returned, they had plans for their future, they were once again finding joy in living. It gave me hope. From your comments, it appears that hope is missing from your life. Life WILL get better if you put in some effort. If you are not already seeing a counselor, I would highly encourage you to start there. Not all are the same, but generally the interactions can give you positive feedback about the thoughts and feelings that are controlling your experience of grief. Also, determine if a chapter of The Compassionate Friends is nearby and call them. I answer the phone for our local chapter. I'm on the phone for more than an hour with every caller. I love to tell them how the hope that returned to my life can return to theirs. Most are so desperate for change they attend one or more meetings just to see the future version of themselves. Life will get better, jamesdasmum. You can hurry the process along by associating with others who have lost a child. After we lost our son, my address book changed dramatically. Most of my friends have also lost a child. Life is good again....See More
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