The dreaded weight plateau
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Dreading This Post - Tell Me About My Cabinets
Comments (53)I agree with Igloo - problems only keep persisting because customers do not hold people accountable for their mistakes, so more mistakes are made the next time and so on. It is up to US, the customers, to stop this vicious cycle. Odie, the cabinets have to be level for the counters. That being said, the bottom of the pantry does appear lower in the pics. With black toekicks this may be very noticeable. You might end up having to paint them yellow if your floors are not level. Sorry, just a fact of life. Drawers - Yes and no. They do not have to be the same size rails and stiles as the doors - they must be in proportion. The PROBLEM is the BOTTOM RAIL of the BOTTOM drawers - that SHOULD be the same width as the rails on the doors and they are not. Tell him to replace just the bottom rails and it will all be to scale - right now it is NOT in proportion and it does look wrong. Your bottom drawers are deeper than the middle drawers, so the rails are not even to scale on the bottom drawer on it's own, and glaring next to the doors. You may need new rails on both the top and bottom of the bottom drawers - I think that is the only way it will look right. Have him do a mock-up and paint it the same color so you can see how it looks. Apparently he made the middle drawer to scale and just transfered the same rail width to the bottom drawers - bad move. OHH Yeah! DEFINITELY BOTH rails on those bottom drawers! I just looked again and it looks WAY out of scale, especially right beneath the middle drawer (which is correct). Here the problem is the proportion of flat panel (negative space) to the frame - too much negative space in the bottom drawers, made worse because the stiles are wider than the rails. Oddly, in the shot of the cabinet next to the D/W it looks alright, but from the other angle it is way off. I'd have ALL the bottom drawers fixed, though. Because that cabinet is narrower it is not so bad, but it is obvious that the bottom rail does not match the bottom rails on the doors. Actually, looking again, because that bottom drawer is off, it actually makes the drawer above it look too elongated - the middle drawer is correct, but the narrow rails on the bottom drawer make it appear as a square when in fact it should also appear as a rectangle. Just count your blessings that the top drawers are slab fronts! (As I take it as a sign from Above that yes, going Mid-Mod over Craftsman is the right move!) BTW: I'm not a fancy moulding person either, but that moulding actually does look good and to scale on your cabinets. D/W and range panels - you said you specified 3/4" panels and thought he jipped you. Not so! The 3/4" are the SIDES of the cabinets! That trim is there only to create the same reveal as on the rest of the cabinets. Trust me, this is a good thing - you will have a visually tight fit around the appliances, but there will be space for airflow between them and the cabinets, so that is good. You will never see the gap once the counters go in. The only thing that might concern me are the counter supports over the D/W space. One is plywood, the other solid wood. My only concern would be that the solid piece will expand and contract more with the moisture from the D/W....See MoreNot sure... w/ a little dread!
Comments (14)mattie: That's the thing. I think he felt guilty that he was going and maybe regretted not taking her because we had discussed him taking her on Saturday but he decided not to. He did forewarn her about pestering to buy things because I told him privately before we left, that if she incessantly asked for things that I was going to pack up & come home.. I am not going to spend the entire evening listening to their usual "daddy can I... " and "NO, stop asking!" I don't know what he told her but she didn't let me hear her asking for much, except when he ran out of money. (and money isn't THAT tight... DH is tight with spending his money.) It would have been a good idea for him to give SD a set amount of money. I was buying things like a picture & mousepad with DGS's picture that says "Love You Daddy" to give my son when he returns. I got a few things that were personalized like that & took lots of pictures for my son. My daughter took SD on rides. I have come to accept that SD is who she is. None of my influence seems to rub off on her, nor DH's mother who also tries. SD wants to wear make up, talk to boys, wear skin tight clothes, listen to songs with nasty lyrics, watch movies she is too young to see, and she eats WAY too much. (personally, I think the eating is a problem because it is probably how she deals with her feelings & she is full of frustration/anger/resentment regarding her situation with her mom & us.) She is there for summer, her mom is not working & is staying home with the new baby, and SD has been spending lots of time with grandma's & babysitters. & her mom lets her do all those things she wants.. eat whenever and whatever and however much she wants, stay up as late as she wants, showers/brushes teeth when she wants, and apparently wear make up like her older sister & the tight clothes. I do agree with finedreams that trashy isn't always the clothes. A lot of it is the attitude BM & SD & SD's sister all have that they are hott & sexxy chicks. The worse part is that none are all that attractive. BM smokes/drinks/partes & looks years older than she is... even when she was younger not pretty. All of DH's other ex girlfriends are pretty & with BM, I don't get it except that he was fresh out of his divorce. SD's sister is kinda plain/homely and looks exactly like BM did at her age. and SD has changed her looks a lot in the last year. She started combing her hair into her face to cover her eyes, she started wearing glasses & chose black frames that make her look like Waldo and with the way she combs her hair, she looks dorky/goofy. & the added weight does not help. I am not saying that to be mean, but I think there is a psychological reason she is changing her appearance so drastically... she doesn't even look like her school picture anymore. (kinda like these kids that dye hair black or colors & dress weird...) she is heading that way & BM lets her do what she wants which sends a message to SD that mom doesn't care about her enough to guide her. I see the trainwreck in the distance & so does DH but he feels helpless because SD is adamant in being this way. She lies, sneaks & defies us. We take her to counseling, she lies & manipulates the counselors. It IS very frustrating. It goes much deeper than DH being a clod about planning things & being tight with his money. I have thrown my hands up because now I have my DGS to worry about and take care of. I can't fix SD's life, neither can DH... she has her mind set to get her mom's attention and until she wakes up or realizes how much she is hurting herself and is not going to get what she wants from her mom... she is not going to be receptive to our influence. She just rebels at it now. (and if it were up to me, I think I might send her back to live with her mom full time & she would see that her mom does not really want her there... but sadly, she already sees that mom does not want her during the summer. It is probably a strain on her relationship with boyfriend so she sends her to grandma's house or with babysitters. But, it's not my decision, I am just a stepmom)...See MoreHave you ever had a birthday that you dreaded?
Comments (40)Thirty was happy for me. We were able to adopt our DS after six years of marriage and surgery that left me unable to conceive. This year has been an uneasy one because my mother died at this age -- in October. It was an awful year for her, slowing dying of leukemia, and for me as her only child. DH had mixed feelings when he reached the age at which his father had died of a heart attack. Because DH had never been told he was adopted, and because all of his father's brothers also died of strokes, he'd been allowed to assume he would have the same fate. (Another example of his adoptive mother's nature.) Now DH has lived 25 years longer than his father did. And ding-dong-the-witch-is-dead....See MoreThe dreaded nose marks from eye glasses
Comments (19)RN, They aren't narrower through the bridge, comparing them to my "regular" eyeglasses, but the nose bridge piece extends a little bit further, so there's more of the piece to sit on your nose. It's hard to explain, but if a store near you sells the same style in regular and Asian Fit, try them both on and see if you notice a difference in how they sit on your nose. Of course, either way, the optician should be ensuring the ends of the arms of your glasses have a slight bend downward around your ear, which is done for the fitting, to ensure they'll stay on better. Also, if your hinges have become loose and there's too much play in the arms, of course they'll be prone to sliding down. But if even brand new glasses fitted for you don't stay up well, you may find it resolved by the Asian Fit ones. The optician told me that he often recommends them to anyone who complains that no plastic frame glasses sit properly on their nose. My daughter got Versace Asian Fit glasses as they also fit her better than the Versace regular. http://www.smartbuyglasses.com/designer-eyeglasses/Versace/Versace-VE3205BA-Asian-Fit-GB1-261658.html...See MoreZalco/bring back Sophie!
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