Reevaluating old friendships?
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re-evaluating the garden in fall
Comments (30)Reading campanulas thread about rambling roses makes me think of all the well meaning worried looks and wrinkled foreheads of the na-sayers & doubters who gaze in obvious criticism upon my many cactus plants and ask how I deal with all those stickers as if I am a crazy person who has a love of pain. Having dealt with both plants, I'd take dealing with cactus any day, all you need is tweezers as opposed to bandages and heavy bleeding. We have an acreage south of the city that has a wooded area that has been overtaken with rambling roses making it dangerous and a lot of work just to walk though it as you look for ways to get from one spot to the next. It reminds me of the Disney movie Sleeping Beauty and the evil spell cast by the witch who surrounded the castle with a forest of thorns. In short camps, my hat is off to you because that sounds like one horrid job making a sissy cactus grower look like piker by comparison in the pain department. We must really love certain plants to put up with such ordeals. Agaves will draw blood but they don't ramble so at least you can watch your step fairly easily. There is a serious arctic front headed our way next week from the typhoon. Here we sit, completely unprepared with trees still wearing their green leaves, most of them not even thinking of going dormant yet are getting ready to be hit hard by January temperatures. Indian summer will turn into deep winter overnight. Maybe the leaves will just fall off and there will be no colors this fall? The shock value may have me reevaluating many things come spring. We had this happen once before, a blast of bitter cold which hit before plants had a chance to harden off. Even the crepe myrtles got knocked down the the ground and had to start over from the roots. Frankly guys, I'm worried not to mention a bit bummed out right now as I sit here in dread. Many dwarf evergreens and conifers will grow here but somehow it always strikes me as cruel, sort of like having a St. Bernard dog fenced up outdoors in July and August panting non stop just to survive the heat. A really severe heat dome will often put them down or nearly so. We lost quite a few in 2011 and 12 around the city. Between that and that traveling nematode or whatever it is that has killed so many pines, there were 100's of dead trees everywhere and it was quite expensive to deal with....See MoreUPDATE: pass the friendship garden box
Comments (55)last I heard from whitemagic was last friday the 28 dec she said she would get it in the mail on monday. I send email today to see if she can take time to let us know what is going on . I hope the box has not been boxnapped . I have given her till sun or monday to cantact me of what is going on with the box . if I have not heard by then I will put togeather another box to finish out the rest of the players . & hope that white magick will just return the box to me when she gets settle into her her home . if this sounds fair to all please let me know . sue...See MoreRECIPE: Is this still ok to drink - year old Friendship tea?
Comments (7)I make this in huge amounts - all of my grown kids request it. Our family thinks it's the true cure for sore throats. One kid even has his college coach pleading for more. Even the grandkids like it, but then it's almost straight sugar! The trick is to find inexpensive orange drink mix. My local IGA guy will order it for me - like I say, I make huge recipes of it throughout the year!...See More"Little things" that end friendships
Comments (85)I can only think of one "friendship" that ended badly...a few that drifted apart/away for no reason I could ascertain. The one bad ending was a young woman who had dated my son. They were oil and water and eventually broke up, but remained "friends". I was never friends with her when they dated. But she had a bad break up with her next guy and was using my son as support. He asked if I would reach out to her, as he trusts my skills with people in crisis. It was a little awkward at first. She is a good person, but as shallow as can be, a status seeker, with no real ambition but to marry well. The one thing we had in common was a love of dance. She was a former dancer; I had season tix to the ballet, so I started asking her to join me. She was a very considerate friend, thoughtful gifts, etc. and could be a lot of fun. But I was always biting my tongue about values things that were just so far out of my way of thinking, that it was kind of a lot of work for me. Like filing bankruptcy on credit card debt, then spending money on a Brazilian wax! Leasing a car she couldn't afford, etc. My son actually introduced her to a successful professional that he knew through his work. Nice enough guy, but kind of boring, but he had $$. Just what she wanted. She glommed onto him and he didn't stand a chance. Anyway, long story short, they became engaged, but she was so manipulative about every aspect of their relationship, all about the status and $$$, including the over the top wedding plans. A bridezilla, for sure. Refused to allow his niece and nephew to attend HER wedding because she didn't want kids. WHAT??? He made her sign a prenup, but she didn't care. Ugh. So after watching her shenanigans (not worth listing here, but they were pretty awful) and thinking she is so desperate and pathetic, I just couldn't play along and keep my mouth shut. I wrote her a letter, not unkind but sort of laying out the wide disparity in how we moved through the world and telling her I couldn't do it any more. Wished her well, said goodbye....See Moreblfenton
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