I totally agree, but be prepared for a possible backlash. I got reamed out harshly by the OP for saying the same thing on another forum.

The only reasons I can think for not responding is that some people just don't realize they should, some people feel "entitled" and don't feel they have to, and a few people simply forget.

I'll keep trying to help people anyway, with or without thanks or a response, but it is really frustrating.

It would be nice, meyermike. But think of it this way, if you go to a garden center to seek advice, you don't usually return several months later to update. So maybe they think it's like that. Maybe they don't realize that providing feedback actually helps others. They just think of it as, "I got what I needed."

I don't expect to get reamed out for asking for one to find the time to give us updates. It would be nice. Or maybe I will for anyone that does not see my good intentions here .

You wonder these things and it's a part of curiosity and experiencing joy around here to see others benefit and see progress...Nothing wrong with that. Not saying people will or they will not, or should, but what I am saying is that it would be very nice and that it is a [problem around here. I think everyone will agree on that?

Woodrose, I was raised to have common courtesy for anyone that did anything for me with a thanks or acknowledgment. But I realize that not everyone is like that. So not expected on my end)

While I am at it. it also very helpful for members to state what zone they are in before asking for help.

Popmama, don't laugh, but when I worked at a nursery, I gave all the advice in the book. many would actually call back to thank us and if you did not hear from them they either brought their plant back or it dies anyways. lol Crazy world.

You have a point Mike! To come back and share the results with the people/community would be really nice. I should do it. More often!

All my plants are alive & kicking thanks to people sharing knowledge & time, answering my questions.

Maybe start a thread, to show with examples, how we improved with help from the others.
Michael

I think some people might not really be all that interested in plants, as impossible as that sounds!

A lot of the one time posts are people who received a plant as a gift and take a shot at keeping it alive. If the plant dies they loose interest and move, on without thinking anyone would be interested in their results.

Another thought is that plants grow and recover so slowly that it could be months or more to see results and possibly they think no one would remember the original post.

Mike.. i'm going to admit i'm guilty! But i've had my father in the hospital, taken to a facility, 3 days later taken out (our family's choice) very bad care.. gone back to hospital a few days later.. 2 weeks after came out and been helping my siblings care for him along with appointments and taking care of my own family and aging dog.. have had a lot going on these last several months (about 10 months).. i get you though.. i truly appreciate everyone's advice here and have been reading a whole bunch here and there but actually haven't been on in over a month i'd say.. for that i want to apologize.

Chuy

Mike, i think i can write 10 post a day with all the stuff i do daily but i restrain myself and do maybe one a day. The only guy that beat me is you. your record will be broken soon.

Watch out i am coming!

mike i know what you mean and yes it would be nice but i think that most people only have a small interest in plants they try they fail and they give up and dont return! and those whom life gets in the way im still hopeing that brian is alright because its not like him to just disappear but i love that we have some who are a constant presence and am so thankful for those people who have turned into great friends :)

lol bob id love it post away! gives me interesting stuff to read :)

Jan, 100% agreed with you. Well put.

Bob, yes please post away. Never get tired of what you say.

Everyone else, great ponts made and by many whom have bene here for years. Thank you.

Chuy, I am sorry to hear of what is going on. Be strong and things will be ok. Wishing you all the best...

Michael, exactly))

This is actually why I hesitate to start a post. I feel obligated that if I start a post, I monitor the post, update it and respond. I would never intentionally abandon a post I started but life gets in the way and sometimes it is days before I get back to Houzz.

My wife is a hoarder so I try to stay away from my clutter piled HOUZZ

I hear ya.

For me it's mostly that life gets in the way.

Plus, the functionality of this forum annoys me to no end (for example, every other dang forum I use, you can quote a person) and half the time I can't even find my original post in a timely fashion. Frustrating.

Sometimes I simply forget what solution I tried by the time I think about doing an update.

A lot of ex gardenweb users have left all Houzz forum, trying other forums. These members are still around somewhere else. You see them everywhere.

Houzz is left holding the bag.

Been on forums for over 50 years, going on at 82, have seen it all. I have a small group here that are very good, excellent ones that i enjoy. i just hang around them. I am very good on my own, d don’t need any help, just hanging around, helping out once in a while.

Citrus forums, 3 or 4 of them, like to grow more better but have the same problem, choosy members,seeing them than they are gone to whatever forum.

I am very happy with a small group.

Btw, my yard smell citrus flowers for weeks, some are going in fruitlets already than later i get to enjoy my enjoyable labor and get to munch on a variety of samples. Got to love it.

LOVE IT! Heavenly scent. I just want to sit outside and breath it in.

Don't worry about it. Let people live and go as they wish. It is still called America (at least for a few more days)

Hibiscus has a fair point, I often have trouble even finding my own old threads because of how poorly designed this site is. And I've only been here for like a month!

I do always try to give updates because the only thing worse than finding a dead end thread for the exact issue you're having is the one where they replied "problem solved!" but don't say how 😅.

Alex, which forum is perfect to suite,s you? i only know of one that comes close. you are right, a perfect forum atrack more members. with all the problems, i am still here, my requirements are not that much, most members are not much to go back on older posts.

I don't know that there is a universal "perfect forum", imo what works best depends on the particular community and how they use it. That said, there's a number of basic features which almost all of them support and this one doesn't. Quoting, pinning threads, etc.

A lot of things are just confusing or slightly broken -- images attached to posts often show up all at the bottom out of context, sometimes don't post at all. Tagging people half the time shows up as @null for me and I need to guess who it's referring to. Notifications are a mess and I get notified for things I've already read way after they've been posted. The editor adds strange line breaks and sometimes removes them when you edit a post.

It just feels to be lacking a bit of polish and attention... but hey, I'm still here so it can't be THAT bad haha.

I am just doing the best i can, can live with it, if not Silica usely set me straight......and others. This is all basic stuff. My morning coffee time starts at 4am, got to have something to read. This forum usely don,t have anything to read that early, except stuff from Steve. i don,t think he sleeps at all.

Brian and me usely have longer debates, allways have good stuff to read, miss that guy!

Not everyone’s life is conducive to returning to a website on someone else’s schedule. i know i have failed to get back as quickly as i would like. life happens. it isn't personal.

I'm new here & just submitted a question. I promise to report back if I get advice!

I forgot about this thread. Lol. Or should I say I have not received an e-mail when anyone posts. This could be another reason too.

I can believe you guys keep stoking this guy. His rat infested living quarters makes me gac. Plain nasty.

Bob use some charity when writing about your fellow man.

Cilica, i don,t want to go in detail, there are women in this forum, that find certain pictures too objectable. Citrus pictures are most welcome here.

I consider myself being a regular on this forum, enough explanation.

So being a regular makes it ok to be a dick....

Monyet, It's not Cilica, it is Silica. Thank God for members like Silica and Ken and many others who make this forum great.

Mike, Silica is a valuble member, very positive with a lot of information, need more of members like him.

Mike, where did you get it, that Silica i am referring to? He has never showed pictures of his bedroom and anywhere else inside his place.

I have no idea what’s going on here

Bob, you need to look in the mirror. Your mad at me for calling you out for being an a$$hole. Are you just an internet tough guy? I doubt you would be so rude to someone's face. I think you need to do some reflection on being a better person. Just because your unhappy is no reason to take it out on other people.

Pathetic, I'm done with this, I apologize to everyone else for the turn this thread took.

Ken it’s fine. No worries. You have good intentions always )