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Comments (73)Thanks guys.. sorry, it's been another long few months. It's nice to read when people survive this. There are people on a cancer board I go to that have been clean for 5 years; so I'm hopeful. Carla, it would be less stressful if some people would get my hint that they need to repay their loans. We lent 2 family members money; and no matter what update I give; neither has offered to start paying their loans back. That's on our to do list this next week; figuring out who still owes us what. If I'm right, it's about $3,000. Deb, how are you doing? From what I remember of your dad; I think he had it worst due to when he was treated. Radiation is not as harsh as it used to be. My teen has been having mouth issues; she had 4 impacted wisdom teeth. 2 were removed in October before we started his treatment, another was done in late February; that one was the pits. It was top right wisdom tooth; her jaw was so painful she could barely open it for a long time. I ended up finding another oral surgeon who managed to get her jaw to open enough so that she could have tooth 4 pulled on 4/1. Poor kid then had issues again due to tooth 3; and finally in the last 2 weeks she's healing. He went back to work 4/13 - light duty, driving a yard van at the port. He drives the truckers around to pick up their new cars (Mazdas) so they can load them on their car carriers. He's been getting up at 2am; going to sleep about 8pm - 5 days a week. He had to take his truck to the shop; once it was done he drove it to the port to get the trailer worked on. They couldn't keep his truck running so he had to bring it to someone else to get fixed. He picked everything up last week; finished out the week in the yard van & today is back to the life of a trucker. I don't know if he'll be able to handle it & I'm going to worry all day. As most of you know; truckers that deliver cars have to drive the cars up on the trailer; then walk back down. Delivering, he has to walk up & drive down. I hope he is able to do this. He fell a few years ago from the top deck (as did another guy) so I worry. He's looking pretty good. He's had pain issues from sitting around so long and now using his body. He still suffers with lack of saliva; and his throat. I think the things that saved him with swallowing was him being stubborn during treatment. Most people put water through the feeding tube because it's painful to swallow; he hated doing that because he'd have to pee too much. You wouldn't believe the amount of people that have swallowing issues; have to have their throat opened.. he is very fortunate. He's also fortunate that he doesn't have pain where his neck dissection was; but it's still early to tell. The Dr said that how ever he is at the 1 year mark is a good indication of how he will be; that's 4 more months. He has a CT scan of the neck within the next few weeks. I don't know why they are doing a CT instead of a PET scan. I also don't know why they are only doing the neck; because IMO, they should do lungs too. From what I've read, the lungs are where it most likely goes next. I'm nervous because I've read a lot of posts from others with his cancer; around this time is when stuff would pop up. A few weeks ago we started getting large bills.. apparently at some point his insurance got maxed out. I've been pretty calm about it; he, not so much. For some reason they are not covering about $500 of the original ENT's bill from August; which should have been paid 1st. Then there are multiple things at Jefferson; from the hospital, oncologist, ENT & radiation. I'm in the process of sifting through insurance papers verses bills coming in. If I need to apply for charity care, I need to do it asap. He also found out that we will need to be a trailer by September; of course I worry who will give us a loan for that kind of money when he hasn't worked in 7 months. All in all, I would not change my decision to treat there. His life & outcome are worth more then what ever debt we will have. So far he's doing well; and hopefully will continue to do so. I hope by this time next year it's just a bad memory. Happy mothers day. Hope everyone is enjoying their roses! My garden is starting to bloom & I'm trying to enjoy it. I'm not sure how long we will be able to keep this house; it all depends on what shape he will be left in. IF he can't drive the truck we'll have to consider selling. Pics of the garden.. taken with my blackberry. I haven't had time to upload from the new (bought last year) Nikon D 5000. I miss having a digital, not sure I like this camera. Garden2010...See MoreBreast Cancer Survival Tips
Comments (14)Happy, I haven't had breast cancer but my youngest sister has. She was diagnosed with metastatic BC with multiple primary tumors (very aggressive) when she was 28 YO, 3 months after the birth of her daughter. That was almost 12 years ago and I'm so happy to share with you that she is living a healthy and happy life today. We will celebrate her daughter's 12th birthday in March with joy in our hearts that our beloved sister is here. Here are a few things she and we as her family did: -She scheduled her chemo sessions on Fridays, so her support team could really be there for her when she was feeling the worst. She would go in early, and I took care of the baby that day. Her husband was available all weekend and so were our other sisters (we are 5)and our stepmother, to be 'on duty' Saturday and Sunday. As a realtor weekends might be your busy time, but you can try to schedule your chemo so you will have a couple of recuperation days if you need them. -We focused on specific tasks. People will always ask 'what can I do to help' or say 'just call me if I can help'. And too often when you are sick and your energy is at a low ebb, it is impossible to be on top of everything, much less to be the case manager for yourself! So, instead of thanking folks, you can practice accepting with grace :). Don't be afraid of setting up a schedule for your friends, especially at church, to bring over meals a few nights a week while you're doing chemo. It can be hugely comforting to know that dinner will be on the table without you having to plan, shop, prep, cook and clean it up. Plus I don't know too many women who won't feel more than happy to prepare something tasty and bring it over to help a friend; as nurturers, it's what we do and it makes the giver feel terrific to help in such a concrete way. Or tell them you could use help on any number of ordinary things that might be a drain on your energy: running errands, picking up medicine, etc. As long as you are specific, my experience is that people are more than happy to do things. Picking something up at the pharmacy or the grocery store is easy when someone is out running errands. And, the more folks you have who can do X, Y or Z ror you, the fewer X-Y-Z energy and time drainers you have to worry about. Emotionally, I won't ever presume to say I know what you are experiencing. I do know that my sister told me, years later, that it meant the world to her to have people she could talk to about the darkest fears she was feeling. As the oldest sister, I wasn't that person...I was busy case managing all the stuff I wrote about above :). But she talked about the emotional aspects to another sister--for her, that was her safe person. I hope you find yours, and that you can have a listening ear able to be there for you. And last but not least I know that breast cancer treatments have made such tremendous strides that it is a much, much less fearsome disease in terms of life outcomes. Again, I don't presume to be able to tell you how to feel or not to worry. But breast cancer is a treatable disease and doctors have a huge number arrows in their quiver now that they didn't have even when my sister was diagnosed. Ann...See MoreThe last stages
Comments (5)Elspeth, First of all let me tell you that I truly feel your pain. There is no pain that can match the pain of watching your child die. I've been exactly where you are now; however, I did get to spend everyday (24/7)with our son for three months before his death. That was a true gift from God that I will be thankful for forever. I remember your first post and have thought of you so often. I'm sure you already know this, but please, please do not take any of his negative actions or words to heart. He really can't help saying or doing those things. He has a terrible battle going on inside. He loves you and he knows you love him. I can't tell you how very sorry I am that you and your son must go through this. Please remember that you will be in my thoughts daily. If I can help you in any way, please email me....See MoreRadiation therapy for 13 y.o. kitty
Comments (6)My heart goes out to you and your kitty. I just lost my 8yr old kitty to cancer (see post 'update on my cat with cancer'). I know the ordeal that you are facing and the emotional struggle of trying to provide the best option for your cat. There is no black and white answer, I'm afraid. Every day or hour you may have a different decision. You have to decide what you can live with after your cat dies. If nothing you do works, which was my case, will you be content that you at least tried everything possible? Or, would you rather try the "hospice" approach, and just try to make him comfortable until there's nothing left to do? Both are acceptable decisions. It's a very personal choice. Unfortunately, finances are a big part of what is appropriate care-- as I am sure you are finding out. I am by no means 'weathly' but I do have a good job and live modestly. I made the decision to spend the money to help my cat and hold off on other items that I needed this year. If I had spent the money on a Channel or Marc Jacobs bag, people would applaud. Why is it not acceptable or 'discouraged' to spend money on your pet? It's stupid. What I learned was, no one really can tell you the outcome--even the specialists. You have to decide if you want to end any 'potential' suffering or try everything you can and pray that it works. The very expensive oncologist gave me hope and indicated that there could be a positive outcome. It didn't happen and I lost her 5 days after her first chemo treatment. But, your situation could end very differently. I don't know if anything I'm telling you is of any use. All I can tell you is pray, go with your gut and tell your kitty how much you love him every day. In the end, you will do the very best that you can do, but you may still question your decisions anyway (I sure am...). Good luck. I wish you the very best....See MoreOakley
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