I know what you are going through because I am in this same situation now. I would add that I have to pick up a tub on top of what you have. Don't laugh, but I started with the towels . I got from Frontgate the colors that I wanted and I had them monogrammed . I have the bath mates too . I chose the glass tile that had both colors in it . I want my bathroom clean looking too, so I am going with honed Carrara marble on the floor . For the counter tops and the tub deck my GC suggested the cultured Calcutta marble, he is raving about it . He suggested using it in the shower too as a slab , so low maintenance for cleaning with no grout lines . I could use the glass tile in between two slabs to give an accent . I don't know if I helped you or not , but believe me I have your headache because after I chose the Moen faucets, I found out that some parts like the handheld shower head is plastic , and I hate that. Now I am in the quest for an all metal faucets for sinks , bathtub, and shower. Any suggestions ???

thanks to all who have posted so far, especially Eric. We can probably save/budget down the road for a kitchen redo, or do part of it ourselves. Additions would be a little harder for us except finish work (floors, tile, etc. Can do drywall even but would need to find time to do it). What that kitchen has is a U shaped layout, not too bad except there are overhanging cabinets between a small dining/family space and the kitchen. It's a counter/pass through kind of setup where someone can sit at stools and talk with the person in the kitchen....except the cabinets hang down so the person in the kitchen has to look under them. We would likely tear those out and relocate the stovetop to the perimeter wall and make that pass through an island. Then that entire space could become kitchen/dining. It is possible we could still move out a wall on that (kitchen) side of the house down the road too, we are in Hawaii so all the construction costs are much, much higher than mainland. So jealous of all the posters here who can put on a large extension for less than 50K. Plan A or Plan B will cost us about the same. We don't plan to sell and move anytime soon, but should we need to we're leaning toward sq. footage instead of just extending current bath and upgrading the kitchen. Our neighborhood is about 20 years old so people are beginning to redo those rooms as the fixtures and appliances are ageing. We redid all the appliances about three years ago with stainless finishes, new faucet/sink, and redid the countertop Corian, so the kitchen is livable - just need to clear out some clutter and make smarter usage on available storage space. We could paint or restain the cabinet doors to freshen it up. A few neighbors are creating the "big bang" kitchen now but I'm not certain a 70K upgrade will improve the value that much as a new neighborhood is planned about 5 miles away within the next couple of years. Would we love to live in a "WOW" kitchen, of course. But as with most people we have to make a decision on where it is best to spend the money for now. We could feasibly also add on a 2nd story in future years, but we prefer the single story and if we age-in-place as planned, the new bath will include wide accesses and no-curb shower.

I would get the bathroom done first and then think about the bedroom. You will want your style to flow from one room to another, but that doesn't mean you need to carry the beadboard over, and some rooms can have a little different take on your style. A good place to get inspiration is to look at good examples of colonial / vintage style and avoid the "faux" - which is why I am not so fond of the glazing in the pic. I find going back to the past and avoiding the trendy helps create a more timeless look. Even though I said avoid the "faux" I do mix an occasional Hobby Lobby or similar decor piece in, though I like to walk through the many antique stores in my area to add some truly old pieces. I've picked up pretty, but very inexpensive mismatched china for the walls in my kitchen. (Unfortunately, I am old enough that some of the decor I bought when first married is showing up in some of these places - apparently having hit vintage status.) I also have used the beadboard wallpaper - especially in areas that I want beadboard but either want to think about it, or need to change something else first. I used the wallpaper in my powder room and will switch to the real thing when I eventually change out the countertop. https://www.houzz.com/photos/my-pics-work-in-progress-phvw-vp~45787943 Since you and your husband like projects - I refinished an older wood bathroom cabinet I had removed from another room, removed the door panel and had it replaced with glass: https://www.houzz.com/photos/my-pics-work-in-progress-phvw-vp~45788623 Although it is "faux" the wallpaper looks surprisingly real and might be a way to try a look out as it is only $20 roll. I have real beadboard in my laundry room which is right across the hall from the powder room and I am never hit with a feeling of "this looks so fake next to the real thing". However, I would use the real beadboard in the bathroom.

With all due respect, it's time to retire that bathroom. Please don't waste your hard earned $ on doing it piece by piece. There's a lot to fix/update. I leave it alone until ready to do it right all at once. It is usually more economical to combine the whole remodel than spacing it out. Also get much better results. if you plan on selling ever, do the remodel approximately 5 years before. It will be a lesser offer sold as is. The only thing I do until then is paint. No to coutertops on those old cabinets & layout can be made better in future. I hope that makes sense to help you make the best decision for you.