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Comments (2)Yes, I didn't try that exact number, I don't think, but I got someone who passed me off to the local USPS consumer dept. When I got the live person here in town, they were not helpful. Not even sympathetic to my plight! GGG I ended up writing a letter and sending it to the head of the USPS Board of Governors who oversees postage increases. But then I thought I would also send a copy to my 2 state senators which you can do on an email form -- copy & paste style. I cited that the USPS told the public that is was a nominal rate change, yet on the things I mailed most often, it was over a 200% increase! That I feel they snuck in exhorbitant charges, even though their assigned task is not to make a profit. Mr. James Miller, Chairman USPS Board of Governors 475 LÂEnfant Plaza, SW Room 10300 Washington, DC 20260-1000...See MoreLiving with depressive person?
Comments (13)My first thought to "start in fighting your way back" was to find a friend to walk with every day. Better yet, several friends would be even better. Actually, they can simply be neighbors, who may turn into friends as you walk together. It will help you not only get exercise, so the extra weight starts coming off, but will help you be among other people to simply walk, and talk every day. I then wondered if that walking buddy were your spouse, would it begin to help you in your marital issues? Everything I read, and hear from doctors, keep repeating that exercise if the most important factor in heading off depression. I imagine that we also begin to feel better about ourselves, when we being to lose some of that extra weight. And yet I wonder for those who truly hate to exercise, does it still have the power to make us feel better if we hate doing it? But we also know people who look great, but still struggle with depression. Perhaps it still comes back to personal problems like their marriage, or a parent, or family situations they too have no ability to change, and feel powerless to solve the problems, and yet these same people are a part of their life that they must deal with, and the behavior of these other people has a continual impact on their lives. And it is discouraging. And at some point, discouragement can turn into depression, where it begins to become difficult to find joy in anything. But I do believe that at some level, there is a thought process that we can refuse to entertain. Where we make a conscious choice every time a disturbing thought plagues us, we first think if there is anything we can learn from this that we need to learn? For example, I had a situation where a relatives behavior was hurtful over an extended period of time. But I would never speak up, or confront this person, because I hate confrontation. I just kept letting it pass, and trying not to let it bother me. And she continued this behavior, and her behavior kept escalating. Now, the feelings I had toward this person built up to such a point, that I found it difficult to be in the same room. I learned from this that my failure to respond and speak up, instead of nipping it in the bud, helped create a much larger problem, than it should have ever been allowed to get to. Yes, I was innocent in that I was the victim of the behavior that was meant to hurt. But I learned that my lack of response was wrong too. Because I did not "have a voice and use it", this snowballed into something that has been hard for me to forgive her for. It went on too long. It (on some level) damaged my good feelings for her. Had I spoken up, and nipped it in the bud, it would have been easy to forgive and move on. Does that make sense? And so by reflecting on the problem, I learned something I needed to learn. That in some way, I could have (and should have) handled a situation very differently. I thought I was being nice. Taking the high road. And perhaps that would have been OK if I were able to actually let the comments go, or consider the source, but I was not able to. I replayed them over and over in my thoughts, getting angrier and angrier at her, but never letting on that I was angry with her. And she kept at it. Until I could not even be around her. It would have been so much healthier for me, to nip it all in the bud, and speak up. So I believe that we first look at what is bothering us, and consider if there is something we need to learn here about ourselves. To actually consider what we can do differently that may help a problem. But there do exist those problems that are like frustrating puzzles, that we are powerless to change. We try different things but nothing helps. And we get discouraged, because they affect our life, but they appear to not have a solution. Several pop into my mind. The sibling who is unemployed, or leeching off and elderly parents savings, and you cannot do anything about it, and yet you worry one day that when the well is dry, and your elderly parent(s) broke, that it will be your problem. The leech that used up all their money will not offer to help them at all. Or a spouse that gambles all of the family money, leaving a family high in debt, and facing losing everything. Or a spouse you adore, and your young children adore, who is involved with someone at work. Or a sibling that abandons his/her children and runs off with their new lover, and if you don't step up to the plate, the kids (who you love) will end up in foster care. You already have 3 children, and now you are supposed to raise his/her 4 kids, so you end up raising 7 kids, while your sibling is living the high life??? These are problems people face (just a few that pop into my mind) that we did not create, but can have a huge impact on our life. And discouragement, and depression can often follow. So if we become depressed is it a "chemical imbalance" or simply life's problems can be overwhelming, and we feel powerless to change the situation? IMO, I think that depression can be a manifestation of problems that lead us to feel hopeless in changing them. I do not believe that all depression is a chemical imbalance, in fact I think a lot of people being treated for a chemical imbalance, have problems that seem unsolvable, and a sense of hopelessness overwhelms them. If they can try and re-direct their thinking, to positive thoughts, I believe they can help in their recovery, so that they do not "spiral" down into actual depression. If you have examined a situation from every angle, and learned what you can from it, than the next time you find yourself dwelling on a problem, make a conscious effort to re-direct your thoughts to happier places. Does any of this make sense?...See MoreDoes cottage living attract a certain person, or do you change?
Comments (42)Welcome, Sabrinaflorida Dave in Idaho, Jannie, Patty Cakes. So good to see so many folks coming in. I have been slightly MIA because of my job. Going to be a busy week. Dave which end of Idaho are you? Hope you get to see the northern lights tonight. Supposed to be a good show the further north you are. We are only about mid Idaho so might not get to see them. My husband has thrown a wrench in the shelf project for a bit. He informed me we will be getting a pellet stove or Monitor stove or some other form of back up heat soon.He has not decided which. It will have to go in the living room which means something has to give. And it might have to give towards my studio. WWWWAAAAHHHHH Why not into his garage??? Heheheh Wish the gun cabinet which is a monster would go away. Would make a perfect china cabinet but I already have two of them and do not have a space for it in the dinning room. So it might become the shelving in my studio. NOT my idea of a good idea so you all keep good thoughts some one will buy it. Dang as I had that shelf system all worked out even some down on paper and it would be so perfect in my room. Not giving up on the idea yet. Just depends on which stove he decides on. Chris...See MoreLiving with a non-plant person
Comments (26)Omg, you think he really pulled them on purpose?? Did he wonder why the weeds were labeled? Hahahah! I'd be suspicious, too, Jane, but you're hilarious! Did you do something to make him mad? Lol Yes, it looks quite bare, though not ugly. I could imagine that with the flowers, the bed would look more complete. It must make you seethe every time you look in that direction, though! This is what we were saying above -- not really better when you have a partner who also grows something. I wouldn't care so much if he wanted shade plants--he can have those spots but we'd have to throw down if he wanted full sun spots. This reminds me of a time I sent my guy to Lowes to buy bark. This was when we lived in San Francisco and all I had were two small balconies FULL of plants. He said he wanted a plant, too, and I thought it was so cute so I said is find him the room to grow it if he wants to take care of it. (I can be kind of shortsighted once in awhile) So I told him to pick one while he's at Lowes and I'd show him how to grow it. "We can repot it together!" He came home with my many bags of bark. I asked if he got his plant and he said yes, it's in the car seat belted in...how cute, right? I couldn't wait to see it. What did he bring home? A god-%#£# Oleander.... He tells me he chose this one because it was cute, has flowers and didn't look like anything I already had. (duh.) I didn't have the heart to tell him he would have to move out if he wanted to grow this thing, so we repotted it and I begrudgingly moved my blueberry plant to give his god-%#£# Oleander space. I never asked but surely, he read the label? The thing would be enormous! Who buys a plant they don't know without reading the label!? Since he made no mention of its size, I made no mention of its size. From that day on, he came out every evening to water it with a full cup of drinking water after dinner, and initially, I told him he didn't need to water it daily. He'd tell me he can FEEL the plant needs water and pours the cup of water in--and the thing wouldn't even rot! In fact, it looked bigger every day. If I did that in the middle of the evening every single night, things would mold, melt and combust. Thankfully, within a few weeks he lost all interest so I could begin its demise. He would peek out every once in awhile and ask "How is my plant doing?" I'd tell him it's not good, he would tell me to water it and I said I would. That thing took 5 months to die in the corner of my balcony in full shade (like, I opened the storage door to cover the atrocity altogether) without a single drop of water. When I told him his plant died, he tells me, "I guess you can't grow every plant." I agreed. He's been talking lately about wanting a Venus Flytrap after watching some plant documentary...I can live with that. Much better than an Oleander. I mean.....he might as well have brought a Sycamore tree home!...See MoreSammy
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