Have you seen the "painted stone' color from American Woodmark - Waypoint Living Spaces? Yes it is gray and yes it could be a little too much, but it certainly would be outstanding !!! I have seen many kitchens combining the warm and the colder tones and they loose all effect... add the color in the backsplash with the subway tiles!!! Here the beautiful doors for your beautiful granite click doors Waypoint

IMO the counter would be my first change , adding molding to the ceiling in that small space will feel like the cabinets are falling on your head. You do not show pics of the rest of the kitchen . But I would keep to one color fro the cabinets and if that counter has to stay then for sure no greige. If you are changing the sink you might have to really hunt for a sink that fits that cutout.

Laurie, I too love your inspiration picture. No one I know can afford to renovate their home every 10 years and keep up with the latest trend. I have found the key is to pick out what I will be happy with in 10 years or 20 years or longer and getting what makes me happy. I wish picking the perfect cabinet color was as simple as saying BM Simply White or SW White Duck, but to get just the right white is a bit trickier than that. If you have a sample of your back splash I would take it to the BM store or the SW store and look at all of their whites next to the back splash. Pick out a bunch that are close to the lighter colors in your back splash. Then go outside in the sun and look at them again - eliminate the ones that are not quite right. Sunlight will give you the truest vision of the color. Whites are quite funny and can appear too blue or too green or too yellow or pink next to other colors. If you will be using a satin or gloss finish the cabinets may appear lighter than you expect because light will reflect more from shinier finishes. Keep this in mind when selecting the color samples. Get a pint of your final selection and paint another sample before committing to the color for all the cabinets. After you find 6 ish good candidates order a few samples from https://samplize.com/ or buy a few sample cans and make your own samples. I like using 140 lb water color paper for samples from Michael's. Heavy enough not to curl or warp. Get a pint of your final selection and paint another sample in the same gloss you will be using for the cabinets before committing to the color for all the cabinets. You can always use this paint as a first coat if you decide that it is too light or just a bit off.

Definitely remove the valance before deciding to do anything else. It's difficult to suggest color options without seeing adjoining spaces. I assume your kitchen opens to your family room. How is that space decorated? What colors do you love? I probably would not paint your perimeter cabinets. It's a huge expense and your cabinets appear to be in great shape. Have you priced a repaint from a professional?