Yes, do not water so often as this can end up causing root rot. Just be aware that large leaf plants like hydrangeas will wilt during the first summer (or two) as the plants are not established. Established plants will still wilt during the summer but not as bad as in the first summer or two. They recover by nighttime on their own. What to do: If you see extreme wilting then water immediately. Otherwise, check the soil moisture by inserting a finger into the soil to a depth of 3-4". If the soil is almost dry or dry, water. If the soil is moist or wet then postpone any action until next morning. If still wilted in the morning, add 1/2g of water for a small shrub. Having a lot of mulch helps conserve moisture so make sure that the plant always has 3-4" of any type of acidic mulch. When watering, water early in the morning & water the soil -not the leaves- from the root ball outwards towards the drip line.

i'm so sorry for your loss. what you are experiencing is completely normal in the grieving process. your loss is so fresh and this is about the time you will be coming out of a fog and coming to the realization that she is really gone. if you aren't comfortable with one-on-one bereavement support, there is a wonderful online place (groww.com) where you will find a LOT of support. they have a live chat where there are people visiting pretty much 24/7. i could not have gotten along without them when i lost my husband 3 years ago. all of us grieve at our own pace and in very different ways. believe me, after 3 years, i STILL have nights when i wish i could go to sleep and not wake up. it's a long process but it's doable. your momma would want you to go on, live your life and remember her with the wonderful memories you have. it isn't easy by any stretch of the imagination but you can do it! (((hugs))) to you in your sorrow. nina

Snookums - I read a bunch of responses then just jumped ahead to put in my .02 cents. I've learned a few things having been married once before my current husband. #1 - You may have a spouse that is never satisfied. #1 was like that and it's part of their demoralizing way of controlling the situation and getting you to jump through hoops. LESSON LEARNED - No one spouse can carry the burden of making the relationship work, making it happy etc. Refuse to be the burden carrier if this is the case. Couple of suggestions: You could say, or have the attitude that his level of satisfaction regarding decorating, home improvement is level A but since you like it at level C that you will bring it up there as you see fit. You're not asking him to agree to it, you're just telling him. What about the next time something needs doing, he hasn't done it after 2 askings that you just go ahead, hire a handyman and have it done? When he squawks tell him, hey you had your chance to do it, you obviously didn't deem it important so "I took care of it for you. Aren't you glad honey, I took that load off your plate." One of two things will happen, especially if you do this every time, he'll either begin to do it himself if he doesn't like spending the money or he'll be fine with it as you've handled it. If he's not fine, then he has to do it by deadline A or again, you'll take care of it. As many have said, when throwing his fits, walk out of the room or refuse to respond telling him when he wants to have calm, rational, nonacusatory conversation, he can find you, until then, you've got other things to do. With DH #2 of 13 yrs, he has a higher standard when it comes to some cleaning issues that bug him and don't bug me. He's a busy body and I just tell him, hey, I'm willing to bring it to this level, if you want it better than this or whatever, then you can take it from there. Yes, at times I do feel a twinge of guilt but that is my own fault for even feeling it. Luckily I have a very DIY DH, mostly because he'd rather do it than spend the $$ and he's very talented in many areas and can do it. So I'm grateful. Plus nobody could accuse him of being lazy. Does your DH have a high level of frustration when he can't figure things out, get them done etc.? Maybe this is his throwing smoke so he doesn't have to deal with that issue (thre real fire). Better to not do task, than feel frustration or inadequacy over not being able to do it. You follow? Again, you doing it or better yet handyman could be an answer here. My house is my haven from the outside world and I'll be D&^@ed if anyone is NOT going to let me make it that way. Keep doing what you're doing girl!!!! We're with you. :)

hollysprings, their insurance company did not call me. When I called the appliance store the service manager did say to call him back with a list of the damage. That's as far as I've gotten with them. I called this afternoon and he did not return my call. Not a good sign. I'll call again tomorrow and if he does not call back I will call the owner of the company. Thanks once again chiefneil. I've put those hoses on my to do list as soon as this cluster flower levels a wee bit. I have not heard of these. Good grief deee. Thanks so much for that link. It's a very scary link but very informative. Why do we have homeowner's insurance should be a thread here. On my to do list as well. Thanks dilly. That's one of the thoughts that crossed my mind the next day. Thank goodness I was home and not at work for 9 hours. That would have been a disaster. flwrs_n_coThanks for your luck and best wishes. Luckily my basement is not finished. But there is stuff down there and it's a royal mess. A hero are you jejvtr. One more thing off my to do list :) Update: I called my local insurance agent yesterday, as they were closed over the weekend. My local agent (not the national big insurance company) who I have been with for 30+ years told me NOT to file a claim with them yet. She will put the notes in my personal file but not share with the insurance company until I contact her. She said: my claim, my deductable. I would lose the no claim discount. And who knows what underwriting does once they get a claim. For all the negative reasons listed above by some of you, she strongly suggested against filing saying that the appliance store has insurance and that's who I need to file the claim with. She gave me a list of things I needed to do and was very helpful. Called a water damage company. They are coming tomorrow afternoon with a moisture meter, industrial fans and dehumidifiers. I'll get the bill and forward to appliance store. Called the cork floor install guy and he is trying to fit me into his schedule ASAP. He is more concerned with mold between the subfloor than to cork because it is a glue down. I'll keep you posted. Thanks everyone. I know you are strangers but you have been a life raft in the dark sea of water! Just keep swimming...