Do boys need to play sports?
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Comments (21)Arcy, I can speak for no one else, but I can say that I find a very important part of my job as a parent is to teach my children boundaries and to be mindful of how their actions affect others. If somebody has a nice lawn, they had to put effort into that and that effort should be respected by not indiscriminately walking on it or allowing their pets to use it for restrooms or whatever. I also strive to teach my children that being part of a family means balancing the needs of all family members. Some things can be prioritized, like just putting up with bald patches in the lawn until a kid is older, or choosing plants that can handle errant balls better (I think I have seen lists to this effect). I can tell you that in our family, my husband and I need to garden. It helps us to deal with the stresses of life. My vegetable garden is often a spiritual retreat that keeps me from teetering over the edge. My kids can still walk through the flower beds to catch lizards and butterflies, to look for ladybugs but they can do this because they have learned where to step. My nephews only get to walk through the beds if they learn where to step and if not, they need to find something else to do outside. As part of full disclosure, I do not have lawn. It is not practical where I am. I also know that I am very fortunate to have 5 acres, there is somewhere else for the kids to play. If not, I would have to find other ways to meet all of the competing needs of my family....See MoreKids playing sports...
Comments (2)Of course, if you did give in to the urge, you'd only succeed in embarassing your 11 y/o. I've seen coaches generally not using good sportmanship. But I know I cannot change that person, only the way I cope with it. If it was bad enough, I would just file a complaint with the powers that be. Otherwise, confrontation with the individual will never make it better. We don't enroll our kids in sports just so they can be superjocks. Part of the lesson is learning to deal with difficult people and learning to stand up for themselves. An 11 y/o is old enough to say "coach, I really want to play more." It's about gaining the confidence to speak up on one's own behalf. I disagree that a volunteer coach in some way has the right to favor their own child b/c of the time he/she is giving up. The volunteer coach is there to coach all the kids equally and should be grown up and objective enough to do that, no matter what their papa/mamma bear instinct might be saying. When on the field, court, etc. the coach needs to see all kids equally. They would be doing a disservice to all the kids, even their own, to do otherwise. Kids are separate from their parents and should not be penalized for their parents behavior. And they should not be penalized for their parents lack of time or skill to coach. Some people really just wouldn't make a good coach, and they know it. We should try not to judge what the other parents give in their time or money, most of us try our best. And if we cannot control our judgement of the parents, it should at least not extend to the kid. I just completely disagree that the coach in some way deserves to favor any player, even their own kid. And DH and I have coached, been team parents, kept score, run the concession stand, you name it, and we're not even close to done with our years on teams. But none of that entitles us to favortism for our children. But I do agree that the consequence of a player not coming, or not trying hard, in practice should be less play time. That's just not being a team player. And I agree that the older the players get, the less the equal play time needs to be heeded. I agree w/Popi's ages on that issue, teenages. DS#1 is on a roller hockey league right now in which he is among the youngest, he's 13 and the boys go up to 18. He sits the bench a lot, especially in a close game. Even though no state championship or scholarship is on the line, even though we all pay the same amount of money to the league for them to play. I'm OK with the coach playing all the kids some of the time, but the best kids most of the time. DS wants his team to win and if the other boys playing is going to make that happen, that's how sports works. Of course younger kids are learning the fundamentals of the game, the play time should still be equal. But now that DS is playing "with the big boys" he needs to improve his skills to earn his play time. For the most part, we've had good experiences in team sports with our kids. Right now we have a hockey player and a gymnast on teams. We've also done soccer and basketball in the past. Generally I've just met other parents who are trying their best and there is mutual respect and concern for all the kids. I have not yet felt like any of my kids needed defended on a team, I've felt they were being treated fairly....See MoreSports Themed Boys Bedroom
Comments (9)Oceanna - I LOVE that thread (as well as the other eye-candy threads you've posted). Thanks for reminding me of that one! I'll go through it, hopefully, at naptime today. amj - yes - it's from Pottery Barn. I love it but it's way out of my range. If you get it, please share so I can live vicariously through you! Sandra - good points about not creating a themed room specific to a team (Yankees or Longhorns). I think I really do like the colors in the photo I posted plus it's grown on DH. I think I would just display his team gear. Just - that Packers room is great! And of course, the colors are perfect. I know many adult Cheeseheads who would kill for that room. :) Here are pics of DS's room. It's bare right now because I'm washing their bedding. It's also bare of any furniture for a couple of reasons: the room is relatively small and the beds are huge. The beds were loaned to us by some friends from church - they are Barn Door bunk beds that are almost 30 yrs old. Those beds are solid! I would love to paint them the blue in the PBK photos. It's not in our budget to get new beds, unfortunately. When DS is older, we'll bunk them. The dresser we have doesn't fit in the room so we'll have to wait to put that back in until we bunk the beds. We also need a 4' turning radius for DH as you enter the room because of his powered wheelchair. Twin DS & DD currently share the room - I've tried to get DD to sleep in her room room but she always ends up back in DS's room in "her" bed. They can't seem to sleep apart from each other yet. Here are pics of her room (work in progress). Eventually, we'll be getting rid of the carpet & putting down wood or laminate. I am dreading taking down the wall paper border but it has to be done. Any tips? I've never worked with wall paper before. His room is going to be a big project between maneuvering the beds (which would have to be taken apart - I can't move them at all) and prepping the walls. I am hoping that once the wall paper comes down, the ceiling will look higher. DD's room looks so much more expansive despite the full-sized bed, dresser & dark paint. So...that's what I have in pics!...See MoreOlychick
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