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haydayhayday



I had to go into the City yesterday.

I got lost in a neighborhood and asked a nice Black Man for directions.


And, gosh, he was more than willing to help me out.

"I live in this neighborhood, and I should know.... I'm so sorry"

He takes out his cell phone and starts looking. All the time saying,

"I'm so sorry". I kept repeating, "No reason to be sorry".

We smiled a lot. A car comes up from behind and I had to move on down the block.

At the intersection I ask another Man, (White, if that matters to you.), for the directions. Before he had a chance to help me, another Black Man who was nearby pointed me in the right direction.

As I'm driving away, the very first man comes running down the street, cell phone in hand, calling out the same direction.

I smiled.

Just another day in the life.

Hay

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queenmargo


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foodonastump

I live in this neighborhood, and I should know....


Gosh I know that feeling well. I live in a small neighborhood, maybe a dozen streets in total? For years we’d drive around looking at houses and dreaming of moving here. I always got lost. Finally moved here a year ago and I still panic when someone asks me for directions. Walking the dog has helped. Once recently a van stopped and the driver asked me, “How do I get out of here?” I asked which way he was headed and he said, “Please just tell me the easiest way out of here and I’m good from there.” I laughed, knowing full well his frustration. I pointed him in a vague direction and described a couple lefts and rights to look out for, but darned if I could be specific.


He thanked me and I never saw him again so I trust he made it!

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Ann

I love the ending where the first guy came running down the street after he figured it out.

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Izzy Mn(4)

While living in the Dallas/Fort Worth area friends and family would come to visit and that would be the time we would explore the cities more also.

On a whim we decided we should go to Reunion Tower. The big lit up ball that dominants the Dallas skyline, we didn't have a map. Before GPS. We took the wrong highway exit and couldn't figure out how to make our way there, we could see the building was close by, probably less than 1/2 mile. Finally we asked someone at a gas station. He thought for a moment then said quite seriously you can't get there from here. We thanked him for his help and drove on.

That has been a insider family joke for decades. You can't get there from here!!!

Yes, we did get there.

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rob333 (zone 7a)

And why did the story need skin color qualifiers? Are we all merely humans yet?

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queenmargo

And why did the story need skin color qualifiers? Are we all merely humans yet?

It is a tough morning, lol

That was the point Hay was making with this thread.

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rob333 (zone 7a)

It was? You're reading that very differently than it was presented. Show me how they were all human beings? Here's how it could've gone. And why the post is more about hay than the neighborhood.



I had to go into the City yesterday.

I got lost in a neighborhood and asked a nice person for directions.


And, gosh, they were more than willing to help me out.

"I live in this neighborhood, and I should know.... I'm so sorry"

They take out their cell phone and start looking. All the time saying,

"I'm so sorry". I kept repeating, "No reason to be sorry".

We smiled a lot. A car comes up from behind and I had to move on down the block.
At the intersection I ask another person, for the directions.


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lurker111

I wouldn't suggest trying that in south Dallas. Yeah, I lived in Richardson for 4 years in the 80's. I've heard that Richardson is a bad area, now. It used to be where all of the Dallas Cowboys lived. Very nice at the time.

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haydayhayday

Rob:

"It was? You're reading that very differently than it was presented. Show me how they were all human beings? Here's how it could've gone. And why the post is more about hay than the neighborhood."


"Show me", you say?



Rob, you've walked into the three hours and ten minutes movie three hours after it started.

No wonder it doesn't make sense to you.

I wish I could have posted links to show you the beginnings of the tale, but, alas, someone doesn't want you to see it.

You had to be there while free speech got clobbered.

Otherwise, you're late to the party.

The party of hate and tyranny.

It is difficult to have a conversation when most of it gets obliterated.


I feel your pain.

Hay


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queenmargo

I saw the beginnings of the tale, so it all makes sense to me;)

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foodonastump

So did I. People getting all in a huff because Kate posted a thread about a judge making racist comments. How dare she.

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queenmargo

LOL- here comes the experiment, lol

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foodonastump

No more experiment, I got what I needed! ;)

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JodiK

I concur with Robin. The story required no racial qualifiers, yet there they are... written above in living color. The question is... why were they necessary?




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haydayhayday

We got back a few of the missing parts of the tale that you missed, Rob.

Be aware, this is just a very short part of the tale. Most of it is long gone and you'll never know.

Someone is protecting your very sensitive eyes for you. You should thank them.

https://www.gardenweb.com/discussions/5865154/racism-racism-racism-racism-racism-racism-racism-racism-racism#n=14

Hay



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haydayhayday

jodik:

"the question is... why were they necessary?"

Another person late to the party.

I wish I could tell you.

Someone didn't want you to know.

Thank them.

Hay

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haydayhayday


FOAS:

"So did I. People getting all in a huff because Kate posted a thread about a judge making racist comments. How dare she."

Kate can post all she wants. I'm all for a diversity of opinion.

I've NEVER caused a post to disappear. NEVER.

"How dare she."

That was never a problem.

My trying to respond to it was a problem for some.

So much of a problem that two of the subsequent threads I started disappeared, too.

"How dare she?", you ask?

Hay


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foodonastump

Missing comments on the original thread but enough to where you can see people took issue with her thread.

https://www.gardenweb.com/discussions/5864595/pennsylvania-judge-accused-of-calling-black-juror-aunt-jemima#n=27

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foodonastump

I've NEVER caused a post to disappear. NEVER.

You’re not in the minority there. You’re also not in the minority in having some posts flagged from time to time. Most of us ignore it or just make casual reference to it.

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rob333 (zone 7a)

jodik, the answer is, they're pushing back to say it's ok to racial things. I got it, as well as you did.

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blfenton

I saw the beginning of the tale and Hays comments didn't make sense to me until I wondered if she/he was talking to the judge and showing him/her how misplaced his comments were and that all people regardless of colour or ethnicity were great, normal people

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haydayhayday

"Missing comments on the original thread but enough to where you can see people took issue with her thread."

We're all here because we want to debate the issues. Theoretically.

Issue with "her thread"?

Hardly. I was in there, ready to debate it.

Some didn't seem to like hearing anything but one voice.

Theirs.

"We're all here because we want to debate the issues. Theoretically."


Bring it on. I won't try to shut you up.



Hay

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haydayhayday


Rob:

"jodik, the answer is, they're pushing back to say it's ok to racial things. I got it, as well as you did."

Movie critics who see 10 minutes of a movie and can tell you everything you need to know.

Hay

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rob333 (zone 7a)

hay, it boils down to there is no need to define someone by their race, gender, sexual orientation. Period. You can push back all you want, it won't make it any more reasonable. Even if you like the black dude who could've been a person in your story. Until we're all just people, it's an us against them mentality and the world continues on unequal ground.

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haydayhayday

Rob, it really is simple:

If you didn't see the movie, you and I can't discuss it.

It really is that simple.

You're very late to the party.

Most of us were headed out the door when you stumbled in.


Hay

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foodonastump

Issue with "her thread"?
Hardly. I was in there, ready to debate it.


Not “hardly.” Actually there was a distinct theme of “why keep bringing these issues up?” I believe that’s the part of the discussion you were engaging in. I could be wrong. If I’m wrong, then the only part left is the actual story. Which side of the judge calling a juror a drug dealing Aunt Jemima were you prepared to debate in favor of?

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haydayhayday

FOAS:


Not “hardly.”....

....

...."

Funny. You're telling me how I should have responded?

That's the nature of the problem.

You think, just because I start a thread, I get to control the conversation after that?

Threads evolve....

You need proof of that?

You got eyes?

Go look at your just now posted comment. What's that got to do with my asking directions?

I got work to do.

It's all yours.

I promise not to delete anything you say.

Have fun.
Hay

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foodonastump

Funny. You're telling me how I should have responded?


If that’s what you got from my comment then I hope your “work” is more successful today.

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haydayhayday

The so-called "bottom line":

Your bottom line:

"Which side of the judge calling a juror a drug dealing Aunt Jemima were you prepared to debate in favor of?"

Still at it, huh?

I'm just better at rising above the fray and seeing the real underlying problems.

Me, right now, I'm just asking for directions.

Like how to extricate myself from the recurring nonsense.

Funny.

Hay


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foodonastump

Left

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haydayhayday

Thanks.


In that case, I'll take a right.

Can't fool me.

Hay

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queenmargo

LOL

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Ziemia(6a)

maybe find out how to be an anti-racist?

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margaritadina

''rob333 (zone 7a) hay, it boils down to there is no need to define someone by their race, gender. Period.''

How the heck do you define people then?

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queenmargo

How the heck do you define people then?


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foodonastump

How sad. I’d like to think that people’s physical appearance describes them, doesn’t define them.

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lurker111

maybe find out how to be an anti-racist?

That's just as bad as a racist, if not worse. Why not be normal and expect everyone else to be normal?

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JodiK

Don't let the obvious get to you, Robin... when people show you who they are, believe them. I think some have shown themselves quite clearly.

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If this is your idea of a "party", Hay, I'd rather not get the invite to begin with. Have a nice day.

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haydayhayday


Jodik:

"If this is your idea of a "party", Hay, I'd rather not get the invite to begin with. Have a nice day."

Invite or not, without having a clue what was being discussed, you barged right on in.


"Don't let the obvious get to you, Robin... when people show you who they are, believe them. I think some have shown themselves quite clearly."

Obviously, you still have no clue.

Hay


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rob333 (zone 7a)

How do I define people margaritadina? My friend. Family. Coworkers. Fellow congregants, neighbors... Try it, you may find that it brings you closer rather than drives them away.

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haydayhayday

"Try it, you may find that it brings you closer rather than drives them away."

And, if you add a smile, you'll likely get one back.

Works for me.

Spreading love, not hate. One smile at a time.

Works for me. "Try it, you may find...."

Hay

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rob333 (zone 7a)

causing divisiveness is spreading hate.

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haydayhayday


Rob:

"causing divisiveness is spreading hate."

Yep.

Keep smiling as you spread the word.

Hay


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haydayhayday

Rob, what do you think about this thread.

https://www.gardenweb.com/discussions/5663234/three-historically-black-churches-burn-within-10-days#n=57

It's an old one that just got updated a few days ago. Be aware of that and note the times.

You can't see all of my recent comments, ( I never made any when it was an old thread. ), which is too bad. What is it that people didn't want YOU to see now that it's been updated?


And you can't see some of the older comments. (Why would they disappear, you ask?)

"causing divisiveness is spreading hate."?


Still a very relevant and interesting thread...until it gets totally obliterated. Go quickly.

Hay


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