OT......children's manners: what is non-negotiable ?
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Comments (9)Hmmmmmm x 13 for this one ! Lots of ins and outs with this as it is a complex matter. I gots to break it down and see where this leads. Follow along if you like... ~ Would the school allow multicoloured hair or would they make a big hoo-ha about it and call you at home and pull her from class while the matter is settled one way or the other? ~ Hair is hair and one can have it cut, styled or coloured as they want. It is, after all, THEIRS. ~ Your DH and you both agree about the no make-up although other parents allow it. ~ You agree that your daughter should try different things with her hair if that is what she wants. Your DH says NO. You yourself have had the experience of trying different styles and colours with your hair. I will guess that your husband has never tried blue or red colour for his own hair. He may not personally understand how much fun something like that could be for an XX. Just to try something for the heck of it. I am thinking more that he is a little in denial and not ready for his little girl to grow up. No make-up. No hair colouring. No dates until she is well into her 30s and even then the date better send in his resume and references! :-) Is there a temporary dye she could try over a weekend? It just may be that she would see herself with blue hair and she herself may think "What was I thinking?" She could then wash it out and the matter is settled until the next idea comes around. You may try some coloured hair extensions and your daughter could have all kinds of fun with her hair and it would not be permanent at all. I don't think your DH would object to your daughter having some temporary fun with her hair that way over a weekend...giving him a chance to see how much fun it is to put in and so on...giving him some time to get used to it. If he is still upset over the hair colour change the hair can go back to the natural colour for school. To force the matter either way will cause resentment for someone. A family sit down and discussion will be the best. It can't be that Mommy is right and Daddy is mean! You and your DH need to come to some agreement/compromise and your daughter will understand why you both came to the decision you have made. *Can I try blue hair for at least a week? * What colour would you like my hair to be if not blue or the natural colour? *Can I have a kitten? *Can I try hair extensions instead? I am still thinking your DH isn't ready for his daughter to even think about stuff like this. She's just a little girl, after all, and always will be in his eyes! CleOH...See MoreWhat breed wouldn't work with you ?
Comments (35)No big dogs. 40 lbs max for me. I like dogs that I don't have to buy a truck to transport. I don't like dogs with smashed in faces much. Although I have met some I like personally, I don't think I could stand to hear them wheezing. They seem to have such a hard time in hot weather. Don't like german shepherds much, they kind of scare me, I have known so many over the years that were vicious. Would never ever own a dog that was even part pit bull. Exceedingly yappy dogs, like schnauzers, and chihuahuas. Although I don't mind dogs that bark, just those non-stop high-pitched yappers. I like the terrier breeds and I like (and have owned several) dachshunds. Longhaired ones because they are more mellow than the smooth haireds. But unfortunately the american breeding trend is to breed them smaller and smaller miniature sized. WAY too small for me. So I doubt I will get another unless I can find a breeder of the standard size ones (rare in america). No teeny tiny dogs that you could kill if you accidentally stepped on it. cicidae: Most shih tzus that I have known have such great personalities. My aunt had two, my co-worker has two, my sister has one. So friendly. Owned a border collie. Great dog to train, too high of an energy level unless you have a big fenced in yard. This goes for most shepherd breeds and hunting breeds as well. No retrievers, for some reason that oil on their skin makes me sneeze. And I live on a river so those retrievers would not get out of there I am sure. Nice and stinky. Cocker spaniel: that breed has been ruined by overbreeding. I have known several that have severe personality problems. Completely untrainable....See MoreCyber-manners and real estate
Comments (31)I misunderstood the original post, because I saw Real Estate I guess...I will admit to looking things up out of curiousity but I was also raised that any discussion of money outside the family was really inappropriate. I have trouble even talking about getting paid at work, and once went almost 5 months without a paycheck in one office, because I didn't want to talk about it. I think a lot of people have given up their own privacy and it has dragged the rest of us into it. I assume there is a satellite that knows where I am at all times and all my other info is out there, and that this information is tracked and sold for various purposes. My tenants all tweet and so I have seen pictures of people mooning on the roof of my (rented out)house, pictures of one of them passed out on the stairs, and references to the "r@pe room" (basement, which is a little creepy); and the "sl_t shack" (meaning the house in general when one of the girls is alone for the weekend.) It's all that twenty-something Northeast crude boy/girl humour and behavior, but instead of it being between friends, it is between a large group of cyber friends and anyone else who uses google. I found the twitter trying to look up the proper spelling of one of the roomate's unusual last names, when I didn't have it on hand....See MoreBuyer mad over a wicker shelf -- what to do?
Comments (74)I am an attorney and I say you advise your now former agent in writing that the sale of the property is a closed issue. If it was not included in the contract, it does not go with the house. Once she signed off and the sale was closed - that's it. There are no "go backs" and "do overs". Your former agent can appease her all she wants, but you are done. A court will only accept as evidence - what the contract says. We call it the "four corners of the contract" - other stuff like what she thought, or what she said or what someone else said - is not admissable evidence. And there is a universal rule - anything involving land, must be in writing. So if she wanted a wicker shelf, or anything else, it had to be in the contract and she should raise the issue at closing or she has waived it. (Claiming it was a fixture is a load of cr*p too. A fixture is defined as being permanently attached to the building that actually affects or has some function relavent to the building - like a light, or say the mirror in a bathroom that is attached to a wall - not an obviously inexpensive temporary shelf). I wouldn't put up with the harrassment. Under no circumstance give anything that was not spelled out in the contract or agreed to in writing. This person makes her way in life and gets what she wants by being a jerk, hoping to pester people into getting what she wants usually for free. A huge waste of energy but apparently she has been successful at it. Do not fall for it. Do not be a nice guy just to shut her up. Too many people have already done that - and that is why she thinks she can continue to get away with it. I had an acquaintance like her ... ignore her and she'll eventually run out of steam. Move on and tell your agent (in writing) to quit bothering you or you will report her to her broker. Or ask around your friends, find one with a son or daughter who just passed the bar and pay them a hundred bucks to write a letter. You should not waste another moment of your time with this....See MoreKath
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