I personally would not play matchmaker. However, I might throw a barbecue and invite all of them plus some couple friends. They are grownups and they can decide for themselves. I try never to get in my friends personal business. It can turn into a no-win situation fast.

I hope this doesn't come off snarky, but most of my adult, 35-80 year old friends seem to meet people on- line or through shared interest groups. And some claim they want a partner but never ever seem to do anything about it.

Have a big party. More than just the singles, add some other couples, too. But let the singles know that there are other singles there. Just drinks and nibbles, open-house type party, certainly not a dinner.

I like the idea of a party where folks can meet and mingle as desired. And who knows? Maybe some are really up for a new friendship that doesn't have to necessarily lead to anything serious. I wouldn't play matchmaker, but I probably wouldn't hesitate to facilitate adults meeting adults.

To my mind, waiting for the "ideal" man (or woman) is just a way to avoid intimacy, since no ideal exists. We can have our minimum standards, lol, but "ideal" is illusive. There is no telling for taste in partners. I would totally have some group activities, invite them all, let them winnow the prospects. And I would NOT provide info about any of them if asked. Stay out of it and let the chips fall where they may; as if they'd met online or in a bar or wherever. You never know, though, someone you love might end up loving someone your hubby loves!

I agree with everyone, have a party and see what happens

Yeah, have a party and see what happens. Make it clear it will not be all couples. MIL will not attend events if she is the only single person. This is very frustrating because my sister and BIL were here visiting other friends, too, and she would not join us because she is single.

But OMG, what is out there. I met DH at age 40, so I was single for a very long time. It is very hard as you get older. The weed would bother me way less than someone who is a gun nut, etc., --you know where I am going with this. Although I hate being around smoke.

I agree with the above. I didn’t get married until I was 43. If I had a nickel for every “perfect” guy someone had for me, I’d be rich. I’m happily married, but I enjoyed being single. My married friends had difficulty understanding that.

Just because YOU don’t care for the stable, retired guy that smokes weed doesn‘t mean that your friends don’t either. Agree with the above - have an informal get together and let them have at it.

And really, there is something "wrong" with literally every single one of us. By the time we reach a certain age, however, most of us know what we're willing to overlook. :-)

When I was young I stupidly tried to match make two friends and I have never wanted to do it again. It's very difficult to know what someone else is looking for in a partner, even if you know that person well. Personally, I would absolutely avoid trying to directly match anyone. But, there's no harm in having friends over for a casual gathering where they could mingle and meet. No pressure for anyone and no need for you to be responsible for pre-screening. If any of the singles feel a connection they can exchange information. If not, then hopefully everyone will enjoy a party and meeting some new people.

I concur with the others, about no actual matchmaking being attempted. But if you're up for it, I agree that hosting a get together with the singles invited among your married guests, would be a nice opportunity for the singles to mingle and maybe meet someone of interest. That way, if any of them actually start seeing each other, but the relationship doesn't last, at least you didn't specifically try to set up anyone, they simply met at your social gathering.

I love matchmaking! Two of ‘my‘ couples are still together. Love the party idea. You really can’t predict what women/men will go for.

Speaking as a single lady, I appreciate introductions or better yet a chance to meet in a more casual way, like a party. However, I really like it when a friend has vetted the guy first. They know I would not be interested in a daily weed smoker, for sure.

truth be told, I kinda like my single life.

Many, many of my married friends on the eve of their weddings, have told me, "He's not the kind of guy I imagined myself marrying." Plus, your friends might just want someone they share interests with to hang out with. That's all I was looking for when I met the love of my life. I often throw parties to bring folks together. Folks of all ages, sexual orientations and marital statuses. Friendships are harder and harder to grow the older you get, so bringing these folks together is not necessarily a bad thing even if they don't "hook up." Lots of older women I know "keep company" with men they would never marry. At a certain age, that's enough for you. So what I'm saying is, throw a fun party, it's a win win for everyone. Except for maybe you if you hate parties. Enlist your friends to help!!

And then for your friend, it could be becoming being friends with another woman at that party. They could then share their social circle of eligibles with each other.

Sounds like the perfect reason to have a Super Bowl party!

I've thought about throwing a party but DH does not do well in social situations, unless it's a very small group of people he's super comfortable with. We're not in a party ready situation right now anyway, with far too many pets in the house to try to accomodate allergic people.

Unfortunately too many people I know are still so hung up on physical attraction. One evening at a show with 2 girlfriends (two of us married, one single) we ended up joinging two single guys at a table. We got to talking and one of the guys obviously enjoyed our single friend, but she didn't care for his looks so he ended up talking and dancing with some other gal. My friend, once she realized she'd lost a potential suitor, said that she much preferred the other fellows looks. However, the other guy was not interested in her at all. The first guy was a hoot, he'd told us stories and I would have ranked him highly in dating potential for her. Guess you can't save some people from themselves!

I might arrange for some casual meetings-maybe outside our home. Say invite some folks to meet at a brew pub and see what happens. DH won't go, but I could host. Something to think about anyway.

I've been to one or two SMALL dinner parties that were obviously set ups between me and one other male person. This is not a good idea, because that puts a lot of pressure on the two people. On the flip side, remember the set up in "When Harry Met Sally" where the two end up with the opposite date. My folks met on a blind date. However, it was a four person date, with two men and two women. And my folks did not get into a serious relationship based on that date, it was just how they met. They got together a year and a half later, the blind date was just the introduction part. I think it would be awkward for your husband's friends to meet you and a girlfriend at a pub without him there. That's kind of a sticky wicket as far as getting his friends together with yours, if he doesn't like to socialize. Could he possibly bite the bullet and join you and another set up couple on a dinner out? That way both friends would enjoy being with you even if they didn't hit it off. BTW, that's how my parents blind date went, they didn't hit it off, Dad thought Mom was out of his league and he was correct, but his pluses won out over the long haul. I was once at a summer picnic party where everyone was asked to bring someone. Lots of people who didn't know each other, lots who did. Maybe that could be an option for you, when the weather permits. Living in a small house, I often organized get togethers at my local park. It was nice and had a party pavilion you could rent very inexpensively.