Life can sometimes be indescribably horrible

HamiltonGardener

Sometimes a situation grabs your heart and eats your mind. This one has for me. No matter what happens, I’m a lucky person. I feel bad for this family.


https://ottawacitizen.com/news/local-news/man-killed-in-massive-401-crash-was-trying-to-salvage-family-trip-to-disneyland-after-devastating-house-fire/amp

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elvis

Oh, my. There are no words.

I am grateful for my life.

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Jennifer

Well, this is one of the saddest stories. How can one family ever recover?

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tryingtounderstand

This is heart wrenching. The 401 in that area is renowned for horrific collisions. Area mayors have made attempts to work with the province with a view toward reducing collisions.

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mudhouse

I don't know either, Jennifer. I guess one day at a time.

Years ago I had a relative in a rehab hospital, and I got to know an elderly woman relearning how to walk after a bad fall.

She was in the rehab hospital, and her elderly husband was in a local Alzheimer care facility. He managed to escape from the facility, and was lost in the surrounding desert for days. They recovered his body, and the woman's son traveled from out of state to make funeral arrangements for his father. The son arrived in town, and had a fatal heart attack. I got to meet the woman's daughter, who came and eventually moved her mother to another state. Their loss was incomprehensible to me.

I'm glad that GoFundMe, churches, and charity organizations can help families get through such terrible things. It does make you grateful for the people you love.

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mudhouse

HamiltonGardener, I sort of feel like I should apologize, for posting the above, because I don't want to distract from the Ottawa family's loss, at all.

But when you posted "Sometimes a situation grabs your heart and eats your mind" that was a perfect description, and I recognized that feeling immediately. It just eats you up.

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miss lindsey (stillmissesSophie,chase,maifleur,others(8a)

I admit I couldn’t bring myself to read the article; I got the gist from the link name and didn’t want the details :-(

(mudhouse speaking only for myself I appreciated reading your story, I think it was completely acceptable to share it.)

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HamiltonGardener

Madhouse,


I have no ownership of a thread or people’s thoughts. Your story is appreciated.


miss Lindsay,

Maybe best you don’t read. It’s even worse than the link title shows.

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ohiomom

No one knows what tomorrow may bring. I make a point of telling my loved ones every single day that I love them, if you don't there may be no second chance.

On my very worst day, someone is having a worst one.

Peace

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Chi

Stories like this make me question my faith. I don't know why such bad things are allowed to happen to good people. It's not right.

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Cookie8

tryingtounderstand, it really is a horrible stretch. Every squall seems to bring on a fatality there. I hate passing through when it snows there. I did see another death happened but only just read his story here. Horrible.

The conditions yesterday were complete whiteout. Plus, it came on in a snap.

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Zalco/bring back Sophie!

Chi, bad things happening to good people is a given. My faith requires me to act and mitigate the harm. My faith does not suggest the world is paradise, free of terrible suffering. Whether the harm to people comes from people exercising their free will or the harm comes from natural disaster, I believe grace is available to help us through horrors.

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Chi

"I believe grace is available to help us through horrors."

I don't see how grace helped him through his horrors.

I'm not trying to turn this into a spiritual debate but it just really bothers me when stuff like this happens to good people while many evil people get to live a full life. I can make sense of it as a roll of the dice without religious influence, but if it's by design, it's pretty crappy.

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Zalco/bring back Sophie!

It seems to me his family are the ones who will need to rely on grace to get them through their losses and on to more secure footing.

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lionheart_gw (USDA Zone 5A, Eastern NY)

Wow, that's just sad. A bunch of disasters hit this family one after the other. People can transcend the fire and even the loss of a senior dog, but then to have all that closely followed by the tragic loss of the family's husband/father/son is just asking too much. It will be quite the process to get to some level of normal after all of that.

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blfenton

I have never wept tears as a result of something posted on this forum - until now.

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lily316

Wow-what an awful story. That poor family. I agree with Chi. Why do these horrible things happen to nice people just trying to live a good life while evil people sometimes live to an old age with no consequences? Charles Manson comes to mind.

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Linda

It can happen to anyone, good, bad or indifferent. It just gets in the media more if someone perceives the family involved to be "good people".

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Iris GW

Stories like these make me glad I have no faith. Random bad luck is a better explanation than any greater being being involved (or not involved as the case may be). :(

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Cookie8

I have never done a gofundme. I usually donate on after such (funerals, illness) as to charities and the like. I have been very fortunate to not know people who are in such circumstances as this family.

Being the first time, are you completely blasted with new solicitors? Or does gofundme keep sending you stuff and you just unsubscribe? If so, I will look further as I know local banks and institutions also take donations in such tragic situations. Thanks for help/info on this.

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dublinbay z6 (KS)

Like Lindsey above, I can't bear to read the story. Enough details are available in these posts to leave me completely horrified.

There is no explanation for why such things happen. They just do. We have to focus on how to continue on--each in our different ways.

Kate

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mrskjun(9)

A heartbreaking story. Prayers for his family.

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Carro

Prayers for his family. These stories just get ya in the gut.

Life is precious. That's why they call this the present.

God bless his loved ones.

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HamiltonGardener

And, his wife is expecting their fourth child in April.


The part hurting my heart the most is that he had recently put out some feelers online to pick up some extra part time work to earn money through the slow season.


I have been looking for a casual labourer in that area to do some part time work for me.

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Chi

"And, his wife is expecting their fourth child in April."

And it just gets worse and worse. I'm thankful their community is rallying around them. Their GFM is up to $173k and they will need it all. I don't know how she will support herself with 4 young children, no home, and their primary source of income gone.

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