OT......just because I need to whine !
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I shouldn't do it, but I'm gonna....extended winter whine
Comments (23)Ok, don't lob a snowball at my head but for some reason this year I am not in the whiney pre-spring stage. This winter has seemed to go by fast and while I am of course looking forward to spring, I am not in the least unhappy with winter. We're going through some of our coldest temperatures right now as usual, with overnights well below zero - but I'm ok. What I am most happy about is that suddenly the days seem appreciably longer. I love being able to watch the sunset through the bare trees *from home!* instead of seeing a bit of it as I drive my 40 minute commute home and then have it be darkening as I pull in the drive. Still, a pot of mini roses to fuss with wouldn't be a bad thing at all. I've done that before and ended up with as many as 5 nice little plants that went outdoors in spring to become a pretty border to my front flower bed. Hmmm...I'll have to go shopping after work today. :-)...See MoreI need to whine - nothing's getting done this fall!!
Comments (10)Sometimes it is just perspective. I keep thinking that I am so late getting fall cleanup done. Maybe it was the 70 degree day we had at the start of the week and then plummeting into the 30s. I think I should have gotten everything done before it got cold. Looking through old records I see that we were still raking leaves as late as Thanksgiving other years. Yesterday I cleaned up the last of the leaves (I hope) and DH mowed the lawn. It looks so neat today, unusally green for this time of the year. Since we are having the house resided soon I am trying to get all the beds around the house cut back and mulched well to survive the tromping they will get. Other years I leave much of that until spring. Still have some things that may or may not get cut back. Have bags of mulch ready to spread. Need to corral and add leaves to some plants to help protect from nibbling creatures. If these things don't get done, it's no biggy as all will survive. So, yes, prioritize and elimate those items that don't NEED to be done. And remember that next year you might have more time to do what you WANT done. It doesn't take long to empty a bag of two of leaves to mulch. Maybe you can take a few minutes each day until they are all spread. Move those pots into the garage to keep them from freezing and do one at a time if necessary. Pop those potted perennials (in the pots) into the ground or move them to the east side of the house and pile some of those bagged leaves around and on top of them. Mine survive that way here in z:4 so expect yours would also. Or put them in a cardboard box with crushed newspapers and leave them in your unheated garage. All in all, do what you can and let the rest go. There's always next year....See MoreThe whining. How do I stop the whining?
Comments (12)'I don't hear you.' Say that kind of thing with utter calm. Don't respond to or mention whining at that point. Give him a chance to self-correct. 3 1/2 year olds are not very sophisticated and can have behavior habits and patterns like anyone else. He may not 'get' what you mean, so if you get more whining you may have to clarify. Again, with utter calm and no animation, this time try 'We don't speak like that, ask nicely.' Basically tailor the message to your needs. It is mainly essential to be utterly consistent once you decide to not hear whining. He has to get used to this new reality _as well as_ change his habitual pattern. There will be some 'testing' but that's a good thing. Be clear about what you want. Things that can interfere with success in this area are inadvertent rewards or intermittant reinforcements. He learns that if he whines 'enough' it turns into a game and you act silly and make him laugh and he feels better (everyone does with a good laugh). You can replace that pattern with one where, when he speaks well he gets not only a more timely response to his requests but also a hug (or you could act silly then, because he probably really likes that and if it gives you both a laugh then you both will feel better). It's hard because even though he's young, 'you' cannot stop his whining. He has to stop his whining. You can do things that will encourage it, and you might feel somehow responsible for it (his behavior) but it is not yours to control. You can change your behavior and maintain consistency so that his behavior will then change....See MoreOT: Whine, whine, whine.
Comments (24)Well, I needed some vibes and I sure got them! You're all amazing. (a la HGTV: Auh-MAY-zing!) It's actually in my elbows, which is radiating down between the forearm bones. In a way, thank GOD it's not carpel tunnel or in my wrists. OTOH, I teach therapeutic yoga and have things to help relieve CT, but you're right. The joints are too stressed. My muscles can handle lifting these stupid doors. My joints and tendons aren't as strong. I recall feeling my left shoulder separate, which thank goodness healed, but my right elbow is the workhorse. I've been fighting the idea of rest because I just don't have that option as a whole. OTOH, I just this second remembered I"m going to visit my mom on Sunday for 4 days. I don't have any doors to lift until then, and my drill can wait. Meganmca, I also sleep on my side with my head on my arm, arm outstretched. Earlier, I realized I can't have the forearm hanging off the edge of the bed or I'm crippled from gravity the next day. Now I'm trying not to straighten it. I'm not a fan of braces, either, although to restrict movement, vs. supporting a weak muscle is pretty OK. Unfortunately, I'm way past that. As far as shots? Not if I can avoid them. I also deal with students who've masked their pain and done so much more damage. Once you get a shot, people seem to become reliant on them. Baltra, you teach yoga? I cannot tell you how many times I have to say that to my students. In sports? Pain, no gain! In yoga? Pain? No gain. Ci_Lantro? I've heard of Tiger Balm. I'll look for it. Arnica is fabulous for the muscular part of this, also. Rhome410, are you actually suggesting something so radical and heretical as me sitting still? Are you INSANE? Hell might freeze over. And I will just not be held responsible for global climate changes! Lazygardens, that's a nightmare! Not only am I working inside, I'm a gardener tentatively returning to my gardens after couple of years of Twilight Zone emotional trauma. There's as much to be done outside as there is inside, of not more. I hope you're improving, vs just in a holding state of nerve and tendon damage. How awful. catlover5, pets are my saving grace. My little stinkers. If I do sit still, it's because on is in my lap. I learned a long time ago that their time with me can be brief, so if one wants some loving and petting, everything else in this world can just keep their pants on and wait until they're done. I don't put them down, I don't shoo them away. They are my peace, where my gardens used to be. You guys could all be star yoga students in your united advice. What kills me is that you're telling me stuff I already know [smacking head with hand] As I have a nice, big, glass of red wine. Did I mention BIG? Bless your hearts and thank you....See Morekathy_t
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