Is this your furniture or from realty staging? Your carpet and tile floors seem to be cool on my monitor. Therefore, they are in contradiction to the warm trim and walls shown now, and if they are staying in place, it will be tricky to combine warm and cool so they play well together.

I love the trim & vote for warm white walls.

Such a shame you cannot paint the trim a nice white. The wood does greatly limit your options. I have to agree that in this case, since the wood is staying, you should go with a warm white. Hopefully one day your husband will be more open to the idea of painting the trim, the room has so much potential.

Thanks all. That’s not my furniture, that was furniture from staging prior to purchase. I have white, cream, gray furniture palate. I was considering a light grey for the walls because I read you should contrast if you’re keeping wood trim- but it appears you are all recommending complimentary rather than contrasting tones.

U can do a light gray in ur stone.

Here is one of my idea books which has some rooms with wood trim:

https://www.houzz.com/ideabooks/59566423/list/wood-and-white

This is my wood kitchens idea book with both new and older, refreshed kitchens that also might give you some color ideas:

https://www.houzz.com/ideabooks/75202366/list/wood-kitchens

IMO we need to know what your furniture looks like and I agree white trim is the way to go there but if you can’t win then a nice warm white for all the walls .But then IMO you get to choose new furniture to work with all that wood trim But to be honest I would wait untill all the floors are done to match no wall to wall carpet and are you planning to keep the kitchen as is. A lot of this is dependant on your style we have no idea what that is . You look like a young hip kind of girl so we need to really see your style.

Dawn-If your husband really liked this home and really wanted to purchase it after seeing the previous very warm, lots of yellow and orange, furniture and walls, then he really likes warm colors. You say your furniture colors are cool. I would suggest a switch to white trim and warm colored (doesn't have to be yellow or orange) beautiful wood floors and some pieces of warmer wood furniture, add some accents in red and ochre for fabrics. My husband loves wood. Our home was filled with golden oak trim when we purchased it, all of it got replaced with white and we put in hickory wood floors that actually have some yellow and orange in them. It turned out beautiful and we're both very happy.

yeah, nothing gray and of this decade is going to work w/all of that thick, heavy 1990's oak. Plus, that fireplace is very warm toned, autumn colors. Modern grays will clash w/that.

how about you make him a deal and keep the wood slider, but remove the fluted arch above it (just take it out and drywall) and paint the trim around that slider?

The baseboard needs to be white, regardless,,,,ditto the crown.

there's a reason they don't use oak trim anymore. (and i'm not talking about vintage craftsman homes. that's the only place oak trim looks good)

the staging photos looks like grandmas house. Is that your style?

hubby needs to compromise a bit too. show him pictures of painted oak trims, before and after. there is a slew of them on Pinterest.

as for paint colors, warm grays, no blue grays, warm whites, soft sage, soft blues,,,etc. but without seeing any of your furniture, it's all a guess.

No gray. If the wood is staying, stick with the warm tones.

You can stain the wood with a dark stain color it would look contrast to your white wall and also the richness of wood grains stays.

I love your stained trim. Its beautifuil. I dont however like those yellow walls with the stained wood. Pick a paint that does not have a yellowish tint to it. A nice white would look great in there (not cream). Beautiful room.

Wood trim alone doesn't make a room cozy and inviting. I would paint all that trim and freshen up the house.

I like your woodwork! It is out of favor because it does not look its best with the ubiquitous GRAY. It works with almost every other color. I would try to run your same wood flooring throughout the entire space.

We have two homes, one with all white trim and one with natural wood ( pine) trim. I much prefer the one with the natural wood trim. No doubt this is because I like warm colors. My favorite paint colors are SW Nomadic Desert and Kilim Beige. These colors work well with either trim. Curtains, rugs, and art are very important in making your colors work together. Try it! If you eventually decide that you CANNOT LIVE with the wood you can always paint. The reverse is not true.

grapefruit - are those pics from your home? Lovely!

If DH absolutely won't let you paint the trim, will he let you stain it darker? That would be a compromise imo - You can stain the trim really dark to get rid of the yellow/orange tones. That would update it so the home would not appear as dated. Something like dark walnut with a tad of ebony mixed in should get you to where you can add your gray/white furniture to the mix.

If the wood must stay, definitely warm white walls. No gray... Then you can layer in some camel accents to incorporate the wood color.

Jhmarie, no these are not from my home. We are currently at the one with " white trim"! :)

@Dawn Ulery please share floor plan so that i can help in better visualization with possible wall color and layouts suggestions.

Soooo.... hubby agreed to paint trim white! But we will not be able to restain the flooring or cabinets in kitchen etc. Can anyone here recommend an online designer that I can work with for a whole house color palate? Someone I can pay to look at all the rooms / floor plan and help me decide what colors to paint where to make my style idea come to life ? I’m concerned with trying to still incorporate the wood flooring, wood doors, fireplace etc. How much would you expect to pay for this kind of review and design recommendation? This house is in the Pittsburgh area so I guess I could also hire a designer locally too- I just want a consult though- so I have no idea how much something like that would cost.

White trim with wood doors and cabinets is a common style - I have it in my own home. You can start with doing searches on Houzz and other image sites for "White trim, wood cabinets" or similar. This look works better with paneled wood doors than flat hollow core doors. Pull together some pictures that you like to give a designer some direction. Any good designer should be able to work with a wood and white combination. The combination of warm woods and white is what I am seeing in many new design pics.

This is actually not a new pic - an elegant older home showing a classic, timeless look:

From This Old House:

The wood kitchens idea book I posted earlier has many wood kitchens with white trim.

Many of the things you dislike about your home - arched window and thick wood trim were what made this house more expensive and on trend when it was built. Just goes to show what is the "bees knees" one decade is not a few decades later - and then the tide turns back.

I like warm white or light off-white walls with wood trim, looks modern. I would paint first walls and then see if you need paint a wood trim. Depends on your furniture...I went through jhmarie ideabooks and I like looks with white/warm white and wood.

jhmarie - The pictures you posted look nice. However, OP has honey oak trim which is not the same as pics. Honey oak is a very dated 80/s/90/s style - If husband has given permission to paint the trim, I don't see any reason to leave the doors in this color. It still reads too yellow/orange to do what OP wants with her modern gray&white color palette.

Yes - except that paneled wood doors have lots of joints. Wood moves with changes in temp and humidity which can crack the paint at the joints. So doors with little upkeep, become major upkeep, especially if painted white and there are kids running around. Some wood paneled doors of that era were made with MDF rails and stiles with veneer. These would be much more stable as to movement and hold paint better. Often you can tell by looking at the top edge of the door and seeing if the stile cut edge is MDF with veneer or solid wood.

Mostly this wood tone is considered "dated" because HGTV says so - a marketing ploy. Just as now many are saying white / black gray is becoming dated - lets get everyone to spend thousands to change out perfectly good because it is "dated" - make people feel badly about their stuff so they will buy new stuff - marketing 101. Many here spent major $ converting to the white / gray kitchen, and I expect they will love their kitchen even when the next generation of House Hunters say, "Oh no, not another white gray kitchen!" My young adult daughters dislike white / gray kitchens because that's been in every Parade Home they've seen for 7 years.

If one does not like something and one can afford it and it will not be too wasteful, by all means make changes. My house was originally a tribute to the 70's - harvest gold and all. I painted the dark stained pine trim white, replaced the harvest gold carpet and vinyl with hardwood, and replaced the cracked hollow core doors with new wood paneled doors - and since I did that in the 90's, they are oak - natural oak but would be called "honey oak" by all the viewers of HGTV. (It was actually "golden oak" which was more ubiquitous.) I have lots of friends and relatives with oak trim - none intend to change it out. They are fine with it, but I also live in the midwest, slightly rural and it is just not that big of deal here.

These pics may more mimic the OPs wood tone. However, wood tone is hard to capture on a computer monitor and lighting can majorly affect wood tone. If it looks too "honey" and you don't want to spend the money painting, try changing light bulbs out to LED - I believe it is the 4000 range that tones the wood to more brown.

Wood trim combined with a white kitchen:

Similar to my home. This is very doable - but may not be to the OPs vision:

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My house - not very posh, more cottage, but we like it:)

upstairs hall:

https://www.houzz.com/hznb/photos/my-kitchen-in-progress-phvw-vp~45783770

https://www.houzz.com/hznb/photos/my-pics-work-in-progress-phvw-vp~88642832

some main level doors:

https://www.houzz.com/hznb/photos/my-pics-work-in-progress-phvw-vp~93784236

Lighting effects:

Hi @Dawn Ulery, we can help you by creating a mock up of your room and customize it with furniture, paint color and decor so you can virtually see what your house looks like before making purchasing decisions. A designer will help make the rooms look as close to your actual room in the mock up and will also help you pick furniture. Do check our website for more information.