Thanks everyone! Looks like I need to go back to the stone yards! I thought maybe the polished jet mist, not my honed so much, would tie in more with the Bianco antico. The Antico in person is much whiter than it appears in the picture,, and there are a lot of pewter/gray tones in it which I thought might tie in with Jet Mist. Mydreamkitchen, thanks, you definitely pulled off combining the 4 finishes beautifully! I tend to agree with Steph2000s rule of thumb about either having 2 counters or 2 cabinet finishes. Mainly because I am scared of combining more and having it look incohesive. My kitchen also will have a fireplace at one end which is currently brick and is another huge choice I have to make. We want to add built ins and possibly cover the brick entirely, or add a mantle & new screen, etc, so I do want to keep things more simple. I don't think I want to give up a stained island, so that leaves me with trying to find a counter that works on both. Would you do jet mist everywhere, even on dark cabinets? Would you do Antico everywhere, even though its a bit busy? Legallin, sumac, buckeye....you all said you were planning similar finishes, would you mind sharing what they are/inspiration pics you used?

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I think both samples look good. Just a word about the painter’s preference: in NY, my painters all preferred BM. Here in TN, it’s SW. As a consumer, I find way more SW stores here and I’m starting to think the availability of one over the other is the only reason. I’ve used both in my homes and they work well. Sometimes, a certain shade of a color is just too perfect, so I drive further for the BM color if I have to. Professionals have preferences. Stick to warm white or ivory. Your countertop doesn’t need to be changed. Yes, pulling a grey from it might be a “better match” but it is your house and you should use the colors that make you happy. My previous yellow kitchen got a lot of wrinkled noses but I didn’t care. I painted a quarter sawn oak kitchen white, with a lot of protests and I still don’t care. It’s refaced and the oak sides were painted without any hint of the wood underneath. Good prep and primer will cover your oak completely. Here is my kitchen in SW Creamy.

If you want to do aquas and orange accents, I think the Naval would work best. I don’t think you’re restricted to crisp white on the backsplash at all. In fact that could be a good place for you incorporate the aqua/blues combo. But I agree you can play with that last. The Gale Force is very pretty but it strikes me as more organic and earthy, maybe best with the burnt orange and teal instead of aqua? It’s pretty but more subdued. Given your first choice, it sounds like you enjoy having fun with color. Try not to let one ”miss” scare you. The SW Naval and BM Hale Navy are a hit because they work with a variety of decor.