Embellishing a wedding invitation as a gift
Joaniepoanie
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Invited to too many showers/weddings!
Comments (5)Kimberly--let me tell you a story. Dd is getting married next April. She and I just met with the planner at her venue along with her future MIL (a wonderful gal, btw). Grooms father is one of 14 kids and grooms mother is one of 8. By the time we invite all of them, their spouses, and their children (grooms first cousins) ..uh boy. We are inviting my brothers and sisters and DHs brothers and sisters. And their kids (daughters first cousins). But this group is tiny compared to the grooms. But, how do you decide???????? We don't want to slight any family. As a matter of fact, I started having palpitations just thinking about the shower. I will draw the line on the guest list for that one. Just look at the invitation...decline it and don't send a gift. I am hoping we get lots of declines ;-)...See MoreCan you invite people not asked to wedding to post wedding bash?
Comments (7)Yep yep yep. You are lovely friends, giving a party in honor of your friends who got married. You are being careful not to make the slightest suggestion that anyone expects guests to buy gifts, or even any acknowledgement that they might. Also, don't worry about whether to call it a post-wedding reception or something like that. In fact, if I were doing this, I would just word the invitation something like, "Please come to/You are invited to to/Mary Smith requests the pleasure of your company at [or whatever the formality of the occasion dictates] a party in honor of Cuthbert and Petunia Jones [or Cuthbert Miller and Petunia Jones, if they have different last names, or I guess also if the invitations go out before she changes her name]/date/time/place" You don't even have to mention anything about the wedding on the invitation. I wouldn't. Anyone close enough to invite to the part presumably knows that they are getting married, and that's obviously why you are honoring them. The less you refer to it on the invitation, the less likely anyone will think that the idea is to rustle up some gifts. But it seems to me that anyone as nice as you probably travels in a circle that doesn't assume nastiness, and the invitees' response will be more like, "Oh, isn't that nice of Mary to do that. I'm glad we'll all get to celebrate, even though it's going to be a small wedding. I wish I'd thought of it myself." I don't see anything wrong with this even if they had had a big wedding. So there! :-)...See MoreWedding Invitation - weird, or just me?
Comments (23)Since I am looking at this subject as a mother who has just recently completed a guest list with my daughter and her fiancé for their wedding, I would like to give your nephew the benefit of the doubt. Tough job. Who knows what was going through his mind when he invited your mother but it was probably meant to be kind. We are more worried that we will be offending people that feel they should have been invited. But you can't invite everyone you know. DD and fiance said from the beginning that the bride and groom's Aunts and Uncles and their spouses would be invited. And their kids and spouses/guests. Otherwise you are gonna pi** somebody off. Well the groom has 14 paternal Aunts and Uncles. And 8 maternal Aunts and Uncles. Big family. And my DH and I also have lots of sibs. Cuts down on the number of invites and you find yourself crossing people off the list. Anyway, I guess my point is...I think that most of the time there aren't that many invitations to go around and if all of you...and your mom got one, it' probably sincere. Call me naive too :-)...See MoreYou're invited and don't forget to bring a gift !
Comments (39)I agree that what makes this feel over the top is the sheer number of things in such a short time. But I agree with a previous poster that, although I, too, think some of them are kind of silly, especially the gender reveal stuff, none of them is unprecedented or bizarre. Like, why do you put the word “registry” in quotation marks? Surely you have heard of bridal and baby registries before. Many people don’t like them, but they are not considered rude per se; it’s only pushing them on people who have not asked for them or expecting guests to buy only gifts that the recipients have chosen for themselves that is considered rude. You don’t have to send a gift at all, although it is certainly customary if you attend a shower or a wedding, and if you do send a gift, you do not need to limit yourself to registered items, cash, or gift cards. You can choose or make a gift that you want to give. In other words, if you don’t like the registry, just ignore it. I can’t help but notice that you complain both that you ARE invited to events and that you WEREN’T invited to an event. People send invitations not only us gift grabs, but also to show people that they consider them connected and want them to feel included. What is your own motive when you send an invitation or share news? I assume it is not just to get gifts. Well, these are people you don’t even know, but you are ascribing only the worst possible motives to their having sent you invitations and announcements. That said, I would be rolling my eyes at some of the stuff, too....See MoreUser
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