The right backsplash will help to deal with that; trust me I see clients all the time where the counters are cool toned and the cabinets are warm. Stay away from white subway tiles! Look for options where there's some variation in tones or commit to a real color to side step the issue.

It’s divided: some don’t mind clashing whites, some prefer more matched tones. I prefer to have the whites match or to do the cabinets to match the veins in the counter. Backsplash should always match a color in the counter.

Why don't you post a picture of your kitchen. It's just too hard to envision without images.

So, if I understand, you anticipate having:

espresso bottom cabinets

off-white top cabinets

calacatta romano countertop (is that quartz or natural marble?)

What are your floors?

Did you bring samples home?

Off-white cabinets could mean anything from grey-ish to yellow/cream-ish.

Additionally, you said, pictures are from the store. Light May be different but this is what I have.

You're going to need to provide images of this stuff in your own house. If you don't have the samples, etc, in your own home, I would honestly cancel all the orders before it's too late, and think this through. You'll get very helpful people here, but they need pictures to work with.

What grover said. Get samples in your house now.

I would halt the order on the stone if possible until the cabinets are installed. Then you can look at samples in real light, in your home. If you can't put a stop on the order, the right backsplash and paint color might help to marry the two.

Thanks all.

Our whole house is under renovation and lights are not fixed yet. Floors are light. I’m attaching the picture. As soon as I have pictures in the house, I’ll post them again. Im on my way to the store. The cabinet color is called “Swiss white”. Countertop is a quartz. calacatta Romano.

The first thing I would change is the espresso cabinets they are dated and IMO almost all stuff that color was cheap crap from china where they mixed woods and it was the only way to hide the fact. A nice walnut with the white would be very nice.

the store lighting seems similar to what we have.

I saw again that calacatta romano is warm white.

The white cabinet door sample looked too white, so I guess off white is a good choice after all?

what kind of backsplash should we go for?

If the creamy & dark doors & counter above are what you chose, it'll look great.

On my screen, the espresso cabinet door looks black. The off-white cabinet door appears pinky/beige (warm), and the flooring and quartz countertop, very pretty, are cool in tone. I'm going to be no help because I bet they don't look like that in rl. If I were you, I'd choose "cool" tones or "warm" tones, and make a decision right there.

Backsplash: don't even think about that until everything else is in. Including your lights. Why do you need to worry about it now, before the cabinets are even installed? I have a feeling you're going to need a lot of help with that backsplash, to blend all of these different elements, and the backsplash may just be the perfect way to have them all make sense.

This is looking like a real challenge at this point.