Boy ,it's hard to find shoes for me .
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Shoes or no shoes -- for heaven's sake, BE NICE about it!
Comments (8)How is, "Oh, dear, I just noticed that your boot heels and my floor don't seem very compatible! Could I get you a pair of slippers to put on, or maybe a rug to put down? Thanks so much for understanding." any less "honest" than "You *&^%%#!! inconsiderate boor!!! Every civilized person knows that no decent person wears shoes indoors!! Get your ^%$#!! hooves off my wood floor!" ? If getting the message across politely and letting the other person be gracious isn't enough, then it isn't just the floors at issue: it's the need to force others to acknowledge that YOU ARE RIGHT and THEY ARE WRONG. "When I am upset I articulate my feelings as such," you write, with the implication being that others who aren't confrontational are hiding their TRUE feelings, which are like the second example above. Sleepyhollow, please consider that NOT everyone is secretly cursing out their guests. People who are being polite or kind aren't always insincere -- maybe they really feel that way. I'm not saying that anyone who inwardly screams when they see their floors being dented or something is a bad person. But I also don't think it's fair to assume that anyone who doesn't get aggressive is hypocritically sugar-coating his/her real feelings. Many people prefer to be gentle in their requests and criticisms; it's part of being -- genuinely -- respectful. Believe me, I am no "sugar and spice" person -- anyone who knew me would laugh. To the contrary; I'm way too outspoken. But I learned long ago that tact and kindness not only make life more pleasant; they are a lot more effective, too. I know that if I felt that someone considered me part of a "herd" or confronted me aggressively every time s/he wanted me to do something she was RIGHT about, instead of just asking me, I would feel attacked and defensive and therefore find it harder, not easier, to listen openly to her thoughts. Consider: do you feel that your strongly-worded posts have been effective in persuading anyone in these discussions, about shoes or "niceness" or anything else? If not, perhaps you believe that it is due to others' "self-adulation and Pollyannaism." But just maybe you would have made your points more effectively and changed a few minds some other way. To what do YOU respond better yourself? Scolding and confrontation, or respect and consideration?...See Moreremoving shoes/fairly long/but it's me
Comments (1)Who knows what tomorrow may bring? There used to be a japanese restaurant in Atlanta many years ago that made you shed your foot wear at the door. It was a novelty then. We would eat there when we were in town for a play or some other such event. We were in Charleston a few years back doing the plantation tour fund raiser. It was pouring down rain when we went to one beautiful place. I can't remember the name now but it had a golf course. We had to take off our shoes at the door and don those hospital type things. I totally understood. The mud and water would have ruined their floors and carpets. Once in Russia I laughed because we were touring a palace there and we had to put shoe covers on. The shoe covers were squares of carpet pulled up by two corners and a piece of elastic holding it together. I remember thinking then that it was a good idea but wished they knew about the hospital shoe covers. I also wondered why they didn't do a similar thing at the Hermitage in St. Petersburg to protect those beautiful old floors. In private homes,I suppose "when in Rome" would be the thing to do. Just think what a whole new world of opportunities for yet another shopping trip it would bring if it became the norm to take off one's shoes before entering someone's home. You'd have to have a pedicure at least every 2 weeks and you certainly wouldn't want to wear those tacky little shoe or foot covers or anything that someone else had put on their feet. The very thought of catching a fungus or some other such thing would be enough to drive one to drink. There would be a rush to design little shoes and foot covers of every color and material. Fabric would have to be imported from all over the world. There would be a scramble of designers to come up with the best the quickest. Milan would probably devote a whole show to shoe covers alone. Television commercials would have to be made showcasing beautiful feet wearing the very latest from Paris in shoe and foot covers. Oh! My! God! we would then have to make yet another decision. Which shoe covers to take to wear with the dress. I can't think about this today. "I'll think about it tomorrow y'all" she says as she presses the back of her hand to her forhead and sighs. No wonder the Wall Street Journal was so interested. Janis...See MoreWhy is it so hard to find a nice flush mount, help me choose?
Comments (35)debi_2006, good point about the glass shade, I definitely don't want to be cleaning it constantly. LucyStar1-If you are still interested, it is the Cali Bronzed Chandelier from Ethan Allen. mamorella- The light looks beautiful in your space, it is very classy looking. Thanks! aktillery-Thanks for the photoshop, that light does look nice there. Errant/kitschyKitch- thanks, I will look into having a can light put there. We were going to have to hire someone to replace the light fixture as my husband is terrified of anything electrical....See MoreIt's so hard to find a good fedora nowadays
Comments (19)This site looks interesting. Seems to be decent quality for a mid price range. I had never heard of them but I checked their blog and Facebook page and they have a good following. This hat is made of Australian wool. They seem to cater to the young and hip crowd. https://lackofcolor.com/collections/wool/products/teak-zulu The Rancher hat is pretty cool as well. https://lackofcolor.com/collections/wool?page=1 This leather one is sold out (love) ANOTHER youngish hip store— https://www.gigipip.com/collections/fedora-hats-for-women...See MoreUser
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