I'd love to help but you linked to your own photos on your own computer. You need to put them web accessible. Try photobucket.com and then paste the line after where it says html. Good luck!

I'm not sure I understand the purpose of removing the wall between the dining and breakfast rooms. Would you still have two eating areas? Side by side with no separation? Seems odd. Or are you thinking of expanding the kitchen and making it one big open cooking and eating space? In any case, structural changes, flooring changes, and a new/updated kitchen can't be done with 30k. I've got little ones... My priority would be to have a more open feeling in the family room, without putting the little one in a position to constantly be tripping into the sunken space. Instead of losing that 18 foot wall between dining and family (which really does a good job of alerting you to the fact that there is a change in flooring height) I'd create a very large opening it in and would try to frame it out in an interesting way (similar to your 5th inspo photo). I'd leave a pony wall so that you could do some low built ins in the family room for toy storage. Even if there is a playroom somewhere, toys migrate to living spaces and having a tucked away spot for them is crucial. Then I'd address the flooring in the entry because that angled bit would drive me batty. Beyond that I would hold off and save additional funds to redo the kitchen and dining areas if you really feel it necessary, but both spaces are quite nice already. I think you'd be wise to hold off and live with those areas as is for a while to really get a sense of what would be best for your family.

the current color is a sage green and the rest of the house is shades of beige with bright orange bathrooms (which we are redoing)Just don''t know what paint color will go with these honey oak cabinets?

You may paint the trim white if you wish but I would not paint the interior paneled wood doors. Wood paneled doors have more value than white - which are usually MDF (price them - oak paneled doors compared to MDF white paneled doors). Wood moves with changes in temp and humidity which can cause hairline cracks in the paint at the joints - and door have lots of joints. MDF is more stable to movement which is why it is used in painted cabinets and doors. On top of that, the upkeep for white doors is much more than wood, and they lack the warmth of wood. Wood doors with white trim is a good look - it combines the brightness of the white with the warmth of the wood: 2016 This Old House: Pinterest: Houzz: As for painting the cabinets - you will have the same problem as with the doors. Also, the cabinets are oak which means the texture of the grain will show through the paint - the texture, not the color of the grain shows. It will be apparent that these were older oak cabinets that were painted white. Some methods say they can hide the grain, but the cost, which will already be high, will increase $$$. The durability of a painted over previously finished cabinet is less than a factory finished cabinet. That said, many are not bothered by hairline cracks or oak texture and are very happy with their painted cabinets, or consider it a good refresh while they save for a new kitchen. It helps if the kitchen is not going to be subject to a lot of active kids or exuberant cooks. It is important to have good information to make a decision. What looks good in a pic may not look as great close up. If possible, see some previously finished oak cabinets that have been painted, preferably for a few years, and see what you think. Painting the trim is totally up to you. Many of my friends and family have similar homes and none plan on painting the trim. There homes look fine. If this was my house (and I had a big budget) I would remove / replace the kitchen light - and others, look into removing the wood over the sink - might need to figure out the crown molding there. I would replace the over the range microwave with a hood, run the hardwood throughout the main floor, do new counters and backsplash. I would not do a cool gray wall color with the warm wood doors. (I would not do gray anyway having endured a gray, cold winter and my second April snow of the year - just not my color.) The only gray I would consider would be like in my first pic, which is actually a white with a gray undertone - BM Maritime White. If you keep the trim wood, the sage like green/grays are pretty with the warm wood and they look pretty with white trim too. As the gray trend fades, I am seeing more color and green/ gray is one I see frequently. I have similar doors in my much smaller kitchen. I am satisfied with them, but have considered changing the doors out to an oak door with a more craftsman look - probably not going to happen. My older, refreshed but still vintage kitchen: https://www.houzz.com/photos/my-pics-work-in-progress-phvw-vp~110720042