Prayers for your family, Flo. Encourage your nephew to get support for himself. And you too! That's a sad end of life scenario for her. As has been mentioned before from others experience, a UTI can affect personality in the negative maybe get her to a doctor to check and/or see what meds may help her negativity. My heart goes out to you.

I am doing everything I can think of (suggestions welcome!) to support Scot. He is a very nice fellow, but "super conflict avoidance", so hard to get him moving on sensitive topics. The main thing I can do is help him with resources and give him a place to vent. She is extremely stubborn and he finally, called her out the other day and that was a good move. He has to put some boundaries on her behavior. There are no good prospects here sadly. Just have to pray that God will show us the way. But I truly appreciate all your support, ideas and prayers!!

Psychiatric meds might help her, Flo. If she would agree to taking them.

Thanks. She has doctor’s appointment next week. I will talk to Scot about the meds. Thanks.

You, your sister and nephew are in my prayers Flo.

DD, I'm trying to LOL but it's hard right now, you are watching videos on putting up wallpaper, I'm watching them on taking it down! On my laptop, so no emojis - I could use a slew of the crazy face ones to express my feelings about 40 year old wallpaper glue!

Of course, your paper is really beautiful ; )

😂 M! Been there done that in a childhood home and it’s not fun 🤦‍♀️ cheers to projects 🥰😁🤞

Beads! I feel your pain. We struggled with paper, too. We soaked it, scored it, scrapped it, then repeated it all again. Then, the scrubbing and scraping of the old glue left behind…. It took way longer than we thought. Good luck!

I promised a pic of the chandy Allana found and I grabbed up sometime during the last two months of chaos. We had originally been looking for this branch type for the DR and I am willing to try. With that being said, I love the schonbek (?) so not sure I could let it go or if the new one would go with table base and chairs like the schonbek 🤷🏼‍♀️ the gold would definitely be better and the branch one does have a serious WOW factor!! Little K is quite attached and we could design the room around it if it stays in her room - would need to shorten one of the arms if it stays in her room. It is brass with hand made glass dangles (each different with bubbles - stunning piece!!) it is about 30” wide by 24” long - hangs 34” down with one post.

WOW! that is stunning!!

Break over, back at the glue 😣😩🤨

Very cool light. I think I like the dining room with the Schonbek best. Nicer light source and coordination with other elements in the dining room. Do you have enough head room for the tear drops in the bedroom? If s, it looks very pretty in there.

*if so…

M, you should see it in person!! Pix don’t even come close! Flo, Teardrops can move, however if we keep it in K’s room, then I would have the bar cut. It came with three. 💕

It’s heavy though so would need to find someone to thread the cut end!

Also, you can’t put shades on the rear drop one although with dimmer it might be ok. If you could post clean photos of dining room and this chandelier could do sone mock ups for you. 😊

It is on a dimmer in K’s room so that works nicely!

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Oh dear, those are too close to work with…I’ll try again

I too like the Schonbek in the dining room, and the tear drop on K’s room.

So beautifulBoth

Here it is in the dining room.

Not sure about scale.

Is pretty, but I think it is too modern for your room?

Probably just personal opinion.

Thank you Flo! It’s a hard one 🥰 I also have those black and gold Asian shutters to put up! Geez, I really need to catch up the projects 🤦‍♀️

Yeah, you’ve been lolly-gagling around about long enough! Lol

Yes I have!! 😂

Hi DD. I like the Schoenbeck in the dining room, it looks more elegant to me.

Agree with Molly. The lines of the one you currently have in the dining room plus the shades…is a more classical elegant look. The romance of the new chandelier would be better suited to a bedroom.

DD - just browsing on Lamps Plus for something else & came across this pic

LHS - Lamps Plus John Richard Chandelier RHS - your chandelier

To my ol' eyes they look identical with one exception...

LHS - $4100 RHS - $60

https://www.lampsplus.com/products/brass-and-glass-teardrop-32-inch-wide-7-light-chandelier__87w02.html

Think that should be posted on the “deals” thread…🙄🥂😂

Just gotta say that if DD’s daughter likes the teardrop chandelier ……. Perfect for her space, did someone mention bedroom? The Schoenbeck so deserves to grace your dining room. MHO

OMG ALLANA!!! Mind blown!! This is your best deal find yet!!! When I saw it in person, I knew it was something special…Should have known it was a John Richard’s!! I have been drooling for years on his masterpieces. Little K and I dim the light in her room and gaze up lovingly often 😂🥰🥳. Ok gals, gotta try this in the DR because it is truly breathtaking. I do agree that schonbeck goes more with the table base and chairs and love the colored refractions from the crystals when the sun hits in the am…so there is that 🤷🏼‍♀️

You might be able to order a shorter post for the JR chandy so it looks appropriate?

Quick update. Went to visit my Sister yesterday and had a shock. She has declined so badly I am still in shock. Her son has stepping up very strongly which is great thing. I won’t go into details here but simply ask for prayers for strength, wisdom and help for Scot as her major health care provider and for peace for our family. Very tough days ahead.

Good Morning Houzz Fam 🥰 Oh Flo! I will lift up your prayer requests 🙏 What a sad mess 😢 What a blessing for your sister that she has loved ones who care and are willing to help and that Scott also has a friend in you, Flo that will keep a watchful eye on him as the caregiver ❤️ on another note - I too had a bit of a shock seeing Chloe’s mess downstairs in her nook. Too much stuff without storage spaces. And a gal who is juggling just a bit too much to figure it out. We have permission to attack so today is shovel out, organize and find/build storage 😎little K will be my helper 🥰💪🏻 XOXO

Flo, you are in my thoughts,

Thanks all! Don’t even ask me what her apartment looks like! Yikes!

Flo, you’ll be in my prayers…sending out peace and strength to you and family for the days ahead.

Flo, I echo Ladma and Lia’s thoughts. I feel for you.💕

Sorry to hear about your sistet and nephew, so tough! Would a social worker help get her into a home? DD thought of you when I saw this ad.

Flo I too am sending prayers and wishful thoughts of better days for you and your sister and Scot. She is very fortunate, and, yes, may not realize that, but that you and her some are there for her which ever path shows the best way for them. I am thankful for them that you have taken care of yourself as you have to help others so close to you. That takes courage and diligence that is not always recognized by others around you. I’m sure you will get plenty of helpful thoughts sent your way and get through this! You are a resourceful individual. Please do not stop watching yourself as you are number ☝️ Hugs and prayers from us and the kitty gang here.

Thanx Molly! 🥰 I do need to get to the chairs! 🙄 I am wondering if I should find a better chair though…one of them has deflated springs or whatever is happening on the seat…

Go look at Chair Whimsy. She was is amazing and has great videos and seminars, blogs etc. Get on her mailing list too.

Your chair seat can be repaired.

Ok Flo, then I won’t give up on them 🥰

Flo, I'm so sorry to hear about your sister. That's got to be devastating. It is a tough situation all around and I hope your nephew gets the help he needs taking care of her and his mental health.

Thanks Pool. It is extremely stressful and very hard to find help. She is getting worse and worse and more and more crazy. I think if she keeps this up, she will end up back in the hospital or a Psychiatric ward. It’s a big mess for sure.

F l o do you think it could be medication related that she's not mixing right they gave her something they didn't know she was taking?

Flo, did you say she has a Dr appt coming up? I think Liasch mentioned UTI and that could be contributing…😢🙏❤️