It’s just paint....will you be doing the work, or hiring a painter? If you are doing the painting, I don’t think it needs to be a big deal. Although sometimes people (like my husband) don’t understand what a difference it can make, and I have to explain that it means more to me than it does to him. I even tell him that if I am happy with how the room looks, I will be more motivated to keep it clean. Ha! Which is actually true on some level, and generally sells him on the idea.

And then there are people like my father in law who refuses to update a 40 year old lamp (which is hideously dated) - because it still works and was a great quality/expensive lamp when he bought it. He is stubborn, and my mother in law picks her battles..

All that said, paint now, but keep in mind your daughter will be ready for a new color in another 5-8 years, so be prepared for that, too. :)

I have never really heard a rule how long a room should go between paint jobs.....if I get tired of a color, or the needs of the room changes, or I just feel like an update, I paint.

is she excited to change the color? That always helps your cause!

@CLC

" And then there are people like my father in law who refuses to update a 40 year old lamp (which is hideously dated) - because it still works and was a great quality/expensive lamp when he bought it. He is stubborn, and my mother in law picks her battles.. "

This made me laugh. I think your husband and I might have the same father. :-))

Do you really need his permission? Explain why it must be done and then just do it.

(My daughter has a bright aqua room too. She picked it out when she was 6 and still loves it at 13. I like being blasted by that happy color whenever I walk by!)

My parents built a house in 1958. At that time it was an fha requirement that the house have wood flooring. My mother hated the upkeep of waxing and polishing Which she did at night when we were sleeping. So covered them up in the 60s/70s. The living room had green shag the we raked. The salesman told my dad it would last 20 years. My dad wouldnot consider replacing them before that. But really paint is cheap change it if you want but I think the blue would still be a nice color to grow with her.

ITA with lynarist. I read the title a couple of times before I realized it said 4 years. In my mind it said 4 hours. For me, it would take as much time as is needed for the paint to dry before chaninging the color if I were unhappy with it. DH would likely never know about the inbetween color because of the turn around time and him working a regular 9-5.

"Now that she's four, it honestly doesn't suit her or fit in with the rest of our house which is mostly soft colors. A soft blush or light grey with pink undertones would be the way to go."

This statement sold me. If that's not enough of a sell, then I think there might be something else going on.

I think a bright aqua would be perfect for a 4YO. Have you asked her if she likes the color?

I can't imagine that a 4 YO would pick gray paint for their room. Really, this sounds more like the color that Mom wants.

By all means, paint, but perhaps consult with the young lady about the color. I had very firm views on color at that age: I loved all colors, just so long as they were blue or green. That was my comfort zone (still is, to some extent). Obviously, a four year old doesn't get the final say, but it wouldn't hurt to see what she prefers.

What colour does your daughter want? By four, mine were pretty vocal about it. As for DH, tell him to get ready for another paint job or 10 down the years.

I paint almost my entire house every 3 years. And my rental properties can be every year. Paint is cheap, even if using top of the line paint.

Perhaps he is balking at the manual labor? Time to put on your painting clothes girl and do it yourself! Easy job, get a friend to help you if you have never painted before.

From my experience this is a common situation when one lives with tradespeople. Their own homes are of little interest when they get there. Wall paint probably would last forever depending on how many changes in wall decor it goes through, what does that have to do with ANYTHING?? You just say I am sure you are correct sir but I am not asking you to paint this weekend because it is worn. I want it to be a different color. THAT can't change on its own. Find your daughter a play date and paint while she is gone. But I agree with those questioning your color choice. Gray?? ish. This time go with a neutral and let it last for 20 years. Change up the decor around it.

I agree. Paint the room. I'd start with letting your daughter help choose some bedding that she loves, then let that indicate the paint choices. Give her a few to choose from and let the final decision be hers. I think of paint in this way. It is about $60 for a pot of paint that is good quality. There are 365 days in a year. $60/365=$0.16 per day. Divide that again by 4 years. Is that much money worth even discussing? Not in my house. Of course, I'll happily spend over $2/day for a cup of Starbucks. In other words, paint the room. If it will make your daughter and you happy for that little outlay of money, then do it. There is nothing like paint for an instant revitalizing change to a room.

I agree paint is cheap but FYI your childs room should be hers it does not need to go with the rest of your house .My parents let us choose our bedding but the walls were kept neutral and we each had a huge cork board to add all the stuff we wanted on the walls, We still had the walls painted about every 5 yrs just from lfe/ I would just ask her what color and do it.

LOL I need to dig out the picture of my teenage son, standing in his red and black sponge painted room. It is a distant memory....

LOL, I had one, that in his pre teens, wanted everything red white and blue, like the flag. The bedding, the walls (wallpaper), and even a red white and blue long shag rug.. I also had one that wanted orange shag carpet, and everything else that went with it, and a daughter, who wanted tinkerbell spread out everywhere in her room. My taste, no, not any of it, but, it was their rooms and I let them have it. Oh, and in my house, 4 yr old paint is already going to be painted over. Not because it needs it, but because, I want a change.

A tip on "involving" the young daughter in selecting paint color. First, you go get some chips that you think she might like and go one shade lighter than the original chip you choose. Pick 3 of your favorites and then present them as her choices. This was she gets some control and you get colors you can live with!

I wouldn't hesitate to paint over a color that no longer felt right in my home. It's not a difficult job, but then again I've done a LOT of painting in my time and others may view it as much more of a chore than I do. I would not, however, give a 4-year old input on the paint color.

Life is short, repaint a color you love. Change is good :)

Just go to the paint store and pick up a gallon of paint, a tarp, a brush, a roller and a tray. Watch a couple of YouTube videos if you've never painted. Although some here say it will be done in a day, don't count on it. You'll almost certainly need two coats, regardless of what the advertisements say, and the prep work, taping and hand work takes quite awhile. Assuming you won't have to paint the ceiling or trim, allow for two days including final clean-up and putting the room back together. If the whole darn room is aqua, give it another day.

Unless you love to paint, I'm a big advocate of painting kid's rooms a neutral color and letting them have input on bedding and decorations. The only time I failed to follow my own advice was a purple disaster that I shudder to recall.