can I just say, folks
J Williams
5 years ago
Featured Answer
Sort by:Oldest
Comments (28)
JudyG Designs
5 years agoqueenvictorian
5 years agoRelated Discussions
Can I just say HI again!
Comments (5)Hi. I have kids who like me like to do stuff when they are in the mood....you can't do that and keep a clean house. We now have a pact that we focus on one room a week that must be spotless before bed. This means that our bedrooms can have a little mess (including mine) and no room can be really gross but each week we focus on either kitchen, family room or bathrooms as our must be spotless room. (The formal areas tend to stay uncluttered and clean with a once weekly swipe). It is a little silly maybe but it works. If family room is the perfect room then it must be free of books, blankets, a spare popcorn bowl and floors dusted if needed. If it is the kitchen then there cannot be even a spoon in the sink. On family room week then rinsed dishes can be in the sink as long as trash is outside etc. Bathroom week sucks because I have kids who love to drop towels, etc. but we each grab a bathroom and in ten minutes we have it picked up and all the surfaces wiped down. I would rather we wipe and clean each room every day but I've learned it is not my reality." I'm pretty good at getting rid of "STUFF" except for my DH! (Same old complaints there!)" Not great at quoting posts yet...I found that getting rid of my husband helped...LOL. Just being funny. I hope that you mean your husband isn't a declutterer or picker upper ....and I can't give you advice on that! Most of all...be easy on yourself. Work towards a very happy, comfortable home. A happy, loving family is better than a spotless home....See MoreJust a word to say how much I appreciate this list
Comments (8)Thank you Thurman for your post. I too agree that this forum/list is very useful for us step parents. Before i found this forum, i looked everywhere for books on step parenting or anything i could put my hand on to better understand my situation. Thanks to all who post here, your comments are always helpful and have helped me alot. It is true that sometimes it is difficult for others to understand the situation of being a step parent if he or she is not one themselves. I remember discussing my situation with my very best friend of 25 yrs. and her responses to my delemma were the same as many others : Why bother with that child? She is not even your biological child? etc. etc. etc. People can be mean. The only way i got to resolve my situation with my SD is really by coming to this forum and reading everything on the Internet that i could on the subject. I also truly, truly worked on detaching myself from her, by not letting her get to me as much, by simply ignoring her! So Thurman, i understand you when you say even your own family or friends don't really understand you in regards to your SD. So this just proves how we the step parents have to work on the situation ourselves and not with the objective of making the step child happy or to make them love us more but rather with the goal to make us the step parent a better person and a happier person. Go Thurman go. I also wanted to say Thurman....if you do practice some of the suggestions offered on this forum, like doing things by yourself and not always having to be in or at the events/activities where your SD, wife and son are at....you will notice that the entire family whole will not fall apart, your wife will still care for you and no your son will not love his mommy more than he love his daddy. Take care. Keep posting....See MoreI am so sick of saying that I just didn't know.
Comments (24)Aimless, I encountered a similar problem with the upper cabinets when I renovated my current kitchen. The old ones were built in place, and were a full 12" on the INSIDE. New standard factory built cabinets are 12" on the OUTSIDE. I have hand made plates that needed to be put above the fridge because they no longer fit in the plate cupboard. Out of sight, out of mind. So we never use them anymore. :( For weeks afterwards, I was measuring cabinets everywhere to see if my cabinet company had cheaped out on me. But no, I've never seen a proper sized cabinet anywhere. Stupid, stupid things that they seem to rely on the consumer not to know about. And I'm guessing you're on slab, and that's why you needed to know about your floor outlets early?...See MoreI know what I need to do, I just can't bring myself to say goodbye.
Comments (37)I'm so sorry. I was in your shoes this time last year. I knew our almost 13 year old German Shorthair Pointer was at the end of his life, and I was thinking I'd wait until after Christmas, but I realized that I needed to do it the right thing for him even though it was hard for me. We put him down on Dec. 17. :( I probably waited a bit too long, and I didn't realize how much stress I'd been under thinking about whether or not it was the right time until he was gone. There was almost a sense of relief. Missing him wasn't as difficult as wondering and worrying about whether or not I was doing the right thing. We all still miss him terribly, though. When the time comes, I highly recommend getting a vet to come to your house. It was so peaceful and less stressful than taking him to the office....See MoreM V
5 years agolshack17
5 years agochloebud
5 years agomissenigma
5 years agosimmtalker
5 years agoJ Williams
5 years agochloebud
5 years agoelunia
5 years agoNewenglandgardenerct
5 years agotatts
5 years agoKim Weaver
5 years agoacm
5 years agoLyndee Lee
5 years agoK Laurence
5 years agotatts
5 years agolast modified: 5 years agolynartist
5 years agomelinda1977
5 years agoJudy Mishkin
5 years agolittlebug zone 5 Missouri
5 years agoPugga70
5 years agolynartist
5 years agolynartist
5 years agoSouthern Bell
5 years agoPN _Bos
5 years agoJ Williams
5 years ago
Related Stories
THE POLITE HOUSEThe Polite House: What Can I Do About My Neighbors’ Trash Cans?
If you’re tired of staring at unsightly garbage way before pickup day, it’s time to have some tough conversations
Full StoryLIFEYou Said It: ‘Just Because I’m Tiny Doesn’t Mean I Don’t Go Big’
Changing things up with space, color and paint dominated the design conversations this week
Full StoryHOME OFFICESThe Great Paper Push: Just Say No
Going paperless is a heck of a lot easier when you put the kibosh on letting flyers, junk mail and more get past the front door
Full StoryDECORATING GUIDES12 Ways Your Home Can Say Happy Derby Day
Add a dash of fresh Kentucky Derby style to your home
Full StoryTHE POLITE HOUSEThe Polite House: Can I Put a Remodel Project on Our Wedding Registry?
Find out how to ask guests for less traditional wedding gifts
Full StoryLIFEThe Polite House: How Can I Kindly Get Party Guests to Use Coasters?
Here’s how to handle the age-old entertaining conundrum to protect your furniture — and friendships
Full StoryBEFORE AND AFTERSOh Say, Can You Believe These $200 Star-Spangled Stairs?
Once sporting a mucky 1970s look, this staircase can now proudly be hailed for its beach cottage charm
Full StoryCOMMUNITYCommunity Building Just About Anyone Can Do
Strengthen neighborhoods and pride of place by setting up more public spaces — even small, temporary ones can make a big difference
Full StoryTHE ART OF ARCHITECTUREDesign Practice: Why Saying No Can Be Good for Business
When talking with potential clients, ask yourself these questions to determine whether you should accept — or pass on — the job
Full StoryLIFEThe Polite House: How Can I Tell a Construction Crew to Pipe Down?
If workers around your home are doing things that bother you, there’s a diplomatic way to approach them
Full Story
Sarah