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Comments (60)First and foremost GW seems to have become a way of life for me lately. There is so much great info and support that I fear I'm neglecting other parts of my life in favor of it. It's my new favorite place to be! My DH definitely thinks somethings wrong with me or that I must have an internet boyfriend, lol. I have only just recently started posting after being a long-time lurker. While I have tried to answer a few questions that I have already tackled, it is a transition to offer advise when not too long ago I wasn't such an "expert". Beyond that, the forum is truly so well endowded with REAL experts and long-timers who really know what they're talking about. I oftentimes feel like many can offer better advise than me, so why post. I must admit though, it felt great when I could really offer some info or source to someone after I've learned so much here from all of you. When I have posted a question, I always bookmark and come back to check on the responses, seems the easiest way to find them again. I have offered a heartfelt thank-you to all responders but after a couple of those, like windlassie said, I always worry that it will be perceieved that I'm not yet satisfied with the info offered and just bumping up my own thread. It reminds me of being a kid in school and raising your hand one too many times :) I know you are all talking more about the hit-and-runs, which fall into a whole differnt catagory. If you figure out how to find the site, become a member and learn how and where to post, bookmarking and a simple thank-you certainly don't seem too much to ask. The two experiences you had Bill V. blow me away. I think the annonymity of the internet unfortunately allows rude people to be just more of the same. I guess that's the downfall. But the benefits are tremendous and I for one am so happy to have found GW. Thanks to all of you...(just in case I lost one of my threads :)...See Moredeath anniversaries - do you acknowledge?
Comments (33)I do remember dates, but I don't always acknowledge them. Probably the 1st time ever that I've acknowledge a date was last year on (what would have been) my husbands birthday. I was completely blindsided by the emotions and feelings it caused ME and I knew his Mother was probably feeling a lot of emotions too! That morning I called and order a plant to be delivered to her, along with a card thanking her for giving birth to and raising the wonderful man I married. What bothers me more than someone not remembering acknowledging dates/anniversaries, is the day to day life of people that will not mention the "Elephant in the Room" and act as if the person never existed. I actually have an elephant (figurine) in almost every room in my house. *S* "When a person is born we rejoice, and when they're married we jubilate, but when they die we try to pretend nothing has happened." -- Margaret Mead...See MoreTruth or Consquences: Ways I create a loyalty bind for my child
Comments (19)My interpretation of #7 is not necessarily asking 'how was your week(end)?' but more digging for information, like 'what do you do all day?' or 'is your dad dating anyone right now?' or more personal questions about their lifestyle & things. We all want to show an interest in what our kids do, but digging for information goes beyond that. and inviting the other parent in. I guess it depends on the history, but if you move to a new house and the child wants to show mommy or daddy their new room, what harm would it be? It doesn't mean you have to invite them in every week or to stay & visit. When SD wanted to show her room to her mom, I wasn't thrilled with having her in my home, but it was five minutes and she left. and of course, she invited us into her house when she moved because DH wanted to know where SD was staying. It was how he found out that BM was living in a one bedroom loft instead of the six bedroom house she previously claimed. When DH told her SD shouldn't be sleeping on the floor, she finally set up a bed for her in an office. I don't think it's unreasonable to check out where your child is living/sleeping. and there are always going to be things that we don't want to risk never seeing again. SD took all her video games to her mom's house. Then when she wanted to play with them, she got upset because they got lost over there and she didn't have any at our house to play with anymore. DH explained that she's free to take things but it's her responsibility to bring them back or deal with the natural consequence of not having them anymore, (and of course reminded her that if she doesn't want things to get lost, don't take them) but the choice is hers and she thinks more about what she takes and won't take anything she values a lot. (I did purchase her inexpensive clothes & shoes that are her 'weekend' clothes because she can't afford to lose school clothes there.) And part of that problem has also been resolved by not giving SD things we don't want her to take. We buy things that she can use here but they are not 'her' property, they belong to us and she gets to use them. Birthday & Christmas gifts are 'hers'....See MoreJane Austen and Me
Comments (30)Persuasion is my favorite, too. I love the theme of second chances in a life that has turned out to be disappointing. It has a bittersweet quality that has always appealed to me. Having said that, I really do like them all. Mansfield Park is fascinating to me. Some of the moral issues that are being weighed in the book seem trivial to modern sensibilities, others are timeless; but I like its exploration of what it is that makes a good person, and how easily the world overlooks these true qualities. Northanger Abbey is the lightest novel she wrote. If you grew up reading Victoria Holt and similar writers as I did, you will laugh at this wonderful spoof of the gothic novel, popular in Austen's day as well as the 1960's and 70's. Sense and Sensibility is a story of two sisters who embody the extremes of a debate going on in Austen's own time. Marianne (Sensibility) stands for the Romantic movement, all emotion and aesthetic experience and the sublime experience of nature. Elinor (Sense) expresses the values of the Enlightenment, self-discipline, prudence, knowledge, and moral virtue. Each one has something the others lack, and in the story, they both learn this. I love this book, too. Emma you already know, a story of just how wrong an intelligent, overly confident young woman can be. And Pride and Prejudice you are reading now. I'm thinking that pretty soon it will be time for me to re-read Austen yet again. Rosefolly...See MorenanadollZ7 SWIdaho
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