My Friend Is Now My Contractor (advice needed)
Jeffrey Allen
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Jeffrey Allen
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Need advice harvesting my honey and saving my bees. dallas tx
Comments (4)Konrad- Yes it is in a sheetrock void in the first floor ceiling of a two story garage that will be restored eventually(old historic house). Tear out is no problem. I am most interested in supporting bees in the inner city, but these are very numerous and just cover the passionvines, good for fruiting- but have way too many and Africanized Honey Bees are just 50 miles away. Is it possible to have a small hive for them raised 10 feet off ground? Just to support the bees in this manicured area of Dallas. Thank you so much for your reply.....Sandy...See MoreNow I regret inviting my friend.....
Comments (29)I think some folk here might be overreacting. I don't know the situation but it sounds to me like you're close friends with this person and she feels close enough to you to make suggestions. I don't see that as being all bad. Does she know how important this is to you the way it's planned? When I invite people, I usually am open to suggestions. However if I am set on how I want to do it then I just say that's how I want to do it. Kind of like when we'd go out to get pizza in a group and one wanted a certain topping on everything, while others didn't want it on there. I just started ordering our own and not put it in the "buffet" and just told others to order what they want. Same thing here. I highly doubt you'd lose a friend over this if you're forthright and I don't think you have to "put your foot down". If you're open and forthright with your friend, if the friendship does break up it doesn't matter that much since if it wouldn't have broken up over this, it'd break up over something equally petty. Suggest you get together somewhere on the trip and go from there. And have a good time....See MoreNow, I need advice on painting my chairs
Comments (3)I painted some kitchen chairs black a few years ago, and had good results using satin spray paint after wiping down with a degreasing cleaner. These chairs already had a factory painted finish, so going over a wood finish might not give you the same results. I'd try it first on one chair, and if it doesn't look good, you can always get out the brushes and use a stain blocking primer and latex or enamel paint. I've used leftover eggshell wall paint followed by paste wax as well. Anyway, after spraying, I went over the chairs with paste wax and very fine steel wool (000 IIRC) to knock down the overspray roughness and give them a low sheen. They have held up well for 15 years, with a few nicks and scratches. If you want any distressing, just rub a bit harder in spots with the steel wool. Good luck....See MoreMy dear friend is being abused by her demented Mom - advice?
Comments (21)I was fortunate in that my Mom did not show signs of violent behavior. The wandering was bad enough while she was still able to walk. I think your friend needs to rethink taking care of her Mom. If she finds it hard now, it is only going to get worse. Much worse! As you know I was the sole caregiver to my sweet Mom for over 10 years and I would never ever put myself in that role again and my Mom was a dear gentle patient. Your friend's life will change forever if she takes this challenge on. You become an appendage of the person you are caring for because as the dementia progresses you have to do everything for that person. My Aunt was the violent type, my sweet gentle religious Aunt turned into a rabid animal locked in a cage. Swearing, hurting my Uncle, telling lies that almost put my Uncle in jail. My Aunt paced, back and forth. She wouldn't sit to eat, sleep. She walked and walked and ranted. She would get out of the house and walk into a neighbours house and act like it was her home and not theirs. Even after my Uncle put her in a nursing home she never found peace until she died. That is what Alzheimer's did to her. As someone above said, get the Alzheimer Society involved. They will send out a case worker but first your friend's Mom needs to be assessed by a Doctor. There could be something else that is causing her violent dementia. If I had to do it all over again I wouldn't hesitate to put my Mom into care and as I said I had it easy until my Mom got cancer and I had to give her insulin shots but taking care of a loved one with Alzheimer's will suck the life blood out of you. 8 years since my Mom passed away and I am still trying to find out who I am and to put my care taking in the past and not let it define me anymore. I must say though after the first couple of years of taking care of my Mom I became a better person and had to let go of the anger I was feeling at having to give up my life as I knew it, my savings, dating life, getting married, having kids because I chose to do this. I learned to be happy because I knew if I wasn't happy I would be in H'll on Earth. Alzheimer's in a terrible disease, much more terrible for the person that is doing the care giving than the one who suffers from it. I hope your friend gets some help for herself and her Mom sooner than later. Anne...See MoreJeffrey Allen
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