Any married couples sleeping in twin beds? Need design advice.
CJ Mac
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Approaching final design - Need advice on a couple of things, ple
Comments (12)Thank you ALL so much for the input. I had sort of hit a brick wall having stared at this layout it for a few months (and that's just this plan, it's been over two years with the previous plans!), and with your help I feel like I'm moving along! I thank you! As much as I would love to ditch all of the upper cabinets for more windows, I just can't - I need the space, and I'm really hesitant to give up that space by the range even if I can achieve balance with a hood alone. While the kitchen will be a good size, the layout does not maximize storage, it max's functionality/work flow, and I need those uppers. However, I totally see the point about the hood.. so, what about this... I have ditched the stainless hood for a wood encased hood. Again, my software limits me on creative options here, so instead of the hood being something really captivating in this picture, it is just cabinets, but I think it gets the feel across. My first reaction is good - I think it helps balance those upper cabinets to the left and fits into the rhythm of windows nicely. Or am I nuts? What do you think? And the view from off to the side: As someone mentioned, the range wall is going to be a focal point. I was originally imagining the backsplash would be the main component, but perhaps I make that the cabinets and hood design instead. And I totally agree about the architectural interest aspect Live Wire mentioned. It has been gnawing at me, and the hood could really help there. I'm considering Neil Kelly cabinets - they have many styles that really have some architectural punch and that would work well with a wood hood. And the comment about clerestory windows got me thinking... my ceilings are only 8' (in fact they are a couple inches less than 8'), and don't give me room for the transoms that I would like to have, but given I'm reframing anyway, maybe that wouldn't be such a big deal to do? Having windows to the ceiling is very appealing, assuming it won't double the cost. Did some playing and here's what it looks like... Windows to the ceiling: Ok, I really like that. These windows face SE. I don't plan on putting any window coverings on. Winter mornings will have the sun at the most intrusive angle, and here in Seattle, the sun, uh, doesn't show itself regularly enough in the winter to be a problem. =) And it is shining through some evergreen and deciduous trees, so it is filtered. Here's our view in the winter from the upstairs (yes, it has been crazy snowy here!): Here's my thinking on swapping cleanup and prep - - I really want the baking on the penninsula so I have that 3' deep space to work on. That's the one activity I really crave a deeper counter for. - I don't want my cleanup on the penninsula - that's the first thing you see when you walk into the room and I want it to be pretty tidy as a matter of course. Our cleanup area generally is not. - I really want to keep my cleanup, DW and dishes right next to the dining room and the outdoor cooking/eating space we'll have off it. - It would be nice if I could move the ovens down to that end, but the space isn't deep enough along the pantry wall and I don't want them undercounter. I don't mind much if they aren't right next to the baking area. - And finally, I want my stovetop cook flow to go right to left, so: food/veg out of frig to penninsula, to prep sink, to chopping board left of prep sink, to cooktop. I prefer that over the left to right direction. The last time I remodeled a kitchen it was pretty small, and I remember thinking, if only I had more space I wouldn't have to make all the trade-offs. WRONG! =) Dining room cabinets - Yep, there is a "floating" cabinet there. I have a couple options for that, but neither one is reflected in that layout drawing. We'll be rebuilding part of the wall and can put in some extra studs for mounting if we need to. That drawer box you refer to, lascatx, I think I am going to do exactly what you suggest, make it a shallow cabinet that opens into passageway instead of a drawer opening into the dining room. The side of the cabinet in the kitchen will be finished with a panel to match. Ok, I've gone on for ages and it really time to get some sleep! Thanks again!...See MoreNot married a year, a lot of issues already
Comments (36)Wow, I just read all the posts. Thought I'd add my comments to motivatedmother. I'm also pregnant at the moment, so I totally understand the hormonal thing, the size thing, work, all of it. Difference between us is that I'm a little older and married to the most wonderful man. That said I'm sure I'm about to make someone angry but here goes...... Actually I thought Asolo's comments were not mean but helpful and to the point. It may not be something you want to hear at the moment which is another thing. This is a bad situation you're in. I'm sorry, but if you are living at home at this age, and with 3, almost 4 children, your parents are indeed supporting you. You should be grateful for that and acknowledge them for it. They don't have to do it but they do because they love you and your children. If you wanted a marriage like your parents, it was possible, but you chose the wrong person. Actions speak louder than words and you should have chosen someone who is actually in the process doing things to achieve the life you want to live, like an education, greater job responsibility, and so on. Any adult man who plays video games is a HUGE clue on his emotional and mental maturity. Adult men who are emotionally and mentally mature spend their time with their families or doing things that will otherwise benefit the family. They are committed to their family FIRST. I don't mean to say they don't have hobbies or interests of their own because of course everyone does, however, video games as an adult man's "hobby" would be alarming to me. Video games cost a lot of money and take up a lot of time, time away from family. They are a great way for adults to avoid spending time with others, isolate yourself, or to zone out of/avoid reality. I think your husband spends his money on HIS wants (vs needs) because he's immature, another HUGE problem. He is not focused on you or the baby, or the other three children you have. He's focused on himself. This would be very alarming to me. Your parents are in an awful position and I feel for them. They obviously love you and your children and want to help you. From your husband's perspective, they are great because they support him and this relieves him of responsibilty towards you and even himself. It allows him to continue to be immature. There's no incentive to change. If he really wanted to grow up, he'd take this golden opportunity to get some skills which he could evenutally use to better his life, your life and that of your children. A mature man would be looking for ways to build a better life for himself, you and your children, whatever way he could, even getting another part time job if that's all that is available. As wonderful as I'm sure your children are, I hope you will not have any more until you are capable of providing for them yourself so they will have the best chance at a better future. You owe them that. That means more than just food and shelter. Are you saving for their future education for example? Are you saving for your own home? Your parents provided a home for you, and you should provide a home for them. Even if you continue to live at home for the rest of your life, and you work and save for them, you have chosen a difficult path. You are now responsible for 4 lives in addition to your own. It doesn't sound like you will ever have much support from their fathers. You have created a difficult life for yourself, not impossible, but much more difficult than it needed to be. Whatever the past was, you have to make today the best it can be so just do it. I think what you are asking here is how you might change your husband to be the man you want him to be. Well, unfortunately that's just not possible. You can only control yourself. You have no control over him. You can suggest, ask, beg, plead, cry, explain, reason, force, threaten, manipulate, or whatever else you want but you will never be able to change him, only he can do that. That's why we must be especially careful in who we choose to marry and have children with. We can't let emotions rule our head. Teach your children this so you won't have 4 children with their husbands/wives or boyfriends/girlfriends, plus all their children looking to you to provide for them. That's a lot of people. Remember, actions speak louder than words. Words are easy to say, but actions actually require hard work and lots of effort. Don't listen to what he says, look a what he does. If they are different what he is doing is who he really is. That will tell you what kind of a person he is and what kind of life you will have. I truly wish you the best in your pregnancy and with the coming baby. I hope you will work all this out, however it ends, and that you are able to improve the situation for yourself, your children, and your parents. Yes, I include your parents in that because since you live with them which makes them part of your immediate family life. You already know everything you need to do, the answer is in your heart....See MoreTwin beds in guest room?
Comments (34)Annie - love your room. I like the look but I really think it all comes down to how your guest room is used. Our guest room is not used very often and when it is it's either one person or a couple. Most couples I know like to sleep together. Plus, I have an antique bed that has been in our family that I use. It also would depend on what other furniture you have to use in the room and the windows/doorways, etc. In our guest room, due to the placement of windows, I'd have a hard time situating two beds. tina...See Moretwin or full bed
Comments (66)I love reading all the replies. Thanks!!!!! We are definitely going with the twin. My Mom reminded me that she has one; it's cute. So, we are using it. We will have to purchase the mattress and bedding but it won't be as much as an investment as originally. PBK has bedding that I really like but I hear that the quality is not as good. Any thoughts on other brands I should check out?...See MoreCJ Mac
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