Well he and a friend are moving everything into my new place and he went and had the cats vaccinated and drove them from Ft. Worth to my old house. He is herding them back up and bringing them to me. He is doing all he can to help. We are on very good terms. Truth is our relationship was not good for either of us. We have talked a great deal about it. We have already agreed to terms on settlement and I have a lawyer who has drawn it all up. My husband does not have a lawyer. I am very happy we are on good terms. He will not be coming to my place except to drop off all of my things. Our divorce is final in early November. I am happy with the way things have worked out, You guys just have to take my word on that. ;)

Thank you for sharing this Amy. Divorces can be amicable.

Yes, they can. I do not like animosity or anger. I hope that we will always care for each other given we spent nine years together. I know I have written some things that make him sound like a real jerk and he is not perfect, but neither am i. I think you have to live in a person's shoes to really know the extent of everything.

So happy to hear your relationship with your soon-to-be ex is amicable - that will serve you well in this tough transition. I must say, you are nothing if not decisive and adaptable. It is very impressive and you are off to an amazing start on this new chapter!

Thank you Ruby!

Well everything can happen once in a while even an amicable divorce so I believe you. Glad you and your cats will soon be reunited. Best in your new life!

(my divorce was much more amicable than my marriage, that's for sure.

Also divorces are shorter..historically...well mine was. You weigh twenty year of relationhip against several months or, okay, years if kids are involved ..it's more doable, to make it amicable, if both put all their mind and strenght to it. Never ever easy, but possible)

it looks like a very nice apartment, Amy! I like that little desk area.

I'm so happy for this smoother transition! It's not good for the head to live with anger. This is really good.

The important thing is that YOU are happy, Amy. I have heard of very few amicable divorces usually because one or both sides don't want it to be. That sure isn't the case with you and your soon to be ex. Kudos to both of you for being mature adults. Here's to your new exciting chapter!

I think your new kitchen looks nice and am glad to hear things are amicable with your soon to be ex. That’s a positive outcome!

I am not sure if I mentioned I was married before. I know, second divorce!!! Eeek! I am still friends with him. He is remarried and has two young boys. He is one of the best men I have ever known. I just didn't feel the romantic love I should have with him and I wanted for both of us to be happy. I am so glad he is. I want to be able to be friends with this ex husband as well. I will always have a place in my heart for him. I know he feels the same. Anger is a terrible emotion and I am glad that I am not having to deal with that emotion on top of all of the others.

Thank you guys... for understanding!

The light covers: I agree - most are not anything I'd want, at least in a kitchen, but I do kind of like this and the other night sky ones:

Amy, the people I have known who have been able to divorce amicably have gone on to live happier and healthier lives. I think you are on a good path and wish you the best.

I was wondering about your cats - glad to hear they will be with you shortly. I work with someone who split up and has shared custody of the dogs. DH and I have said a few times we'd never be able to get a divorce because the custody battle over the cats would be too difficult. Glad you had no issues with that.

Amy, your apartment is really nice! I love that it has an island and that it can accomodate a couple of stools. Regarding your ex’s, just from what we know of you here, your endings don’t surprise me at all and it’s to the credit of both of you. I can’t believe how much you’ve been able to accomplish in such a short period of time. It’s truly amazing.

Your kitchen is quite nice and it's great that it's open to the living space.

I'm glad that the divorce settlement has gone smoothly and as long as you are happy with the process and the finality then so are we. ((((hugs))))

Thank you guys for understanding. I am so relieved that my soon to be ex and I are friends. I know in a short period of time we will no longer really communicate, but I believe we will always hold a special place in each others hearts, despite the fact we were not right for one another.

I moved into my apartment yesterday. I will not be able to fully decorate for about a month. I agreed to let my husband keep the furniture through October since we have guests staying at the house through then (airbnb). I will have a couch and some lamps, end tables coffee table and tv..... just not everything I want and need to spruce up the place.

I took of picture of my kitchen, It doesn't have anything cute going on yet bc I will have to wait on all of that. I want to buy some lamps and do some other things to make it more homey. I think for now it looks pretty good. I am also including a pic of my view from my balcony. I love my new place and the ppl seem nice and closer to my age. I am glad there aren't a lot of younger people like college students here. I know how much noise I made in college and now feel so terrible for it. My poor neighbors!

Not bad for an affordable apartment.

It’s a lovely place. You are doing so well in plannng your new life. Congrats.

I think it's great! Treat yourself to a nice bouquet of your favorite flowers.

Affordable AND very nice! That kitchen island really sets the tone. You’ll do wonders with your new home.

Wow, you are so fortunate to get through all this and still be decent to each other, I'm proud of that the most.

You already have island lighting and if you were to redirect the ceiling light on the far right and maybe get a couple of lamps that can lean over the top of the cabinets for task lighting you may not have to do anything with the current lighting fixture.

We've used the adhesive puck lights in a couple of closets and they work really well.

Nice view! Which direction does that face?

Wow, that is a great view for an apt. I always assume much more urban views, esp for affordable. You seem to lead a bit of a charmed life, even in the throes of difficulties!

Nice kitchen and a great view....I know you will make your new place cozy and confortable. Just wonderful that your relationship with your ex is on good terms and that the divorce is too. Have you started your new job yet? So glad things are going better than expected.

Thanks you guys!

blfelton, the apartment windows face west.

Joanie, I start my job tomorrow. I am a bit nervous but I am sure once I am there I will feel better. Everyone is very nice.

I will keep you guys posted!

Amy

Looks very nice! Good luck on your first day at the new job.

Good luck tomorrow, Amy! Will send good vibes your way. I think you are really going to enjoy working.

Thank you!! I will let you know how it goes.

Your view is fantastic. Good luck tomorrow at your new job. You will do great.

Good luck tomorrow...you will do fine!

Gorgeous view! Hope the new job transition does smoothly and is a good fit. I know you will do well.

I'm so happy for you that you have found a clear start for your new life. All the best in your new job!

Thinking of you today Amy. Hope your first day went well!

How did it go? Do you work over the weekend also (since it’s ER) or do you have the weekend off?

Bonnie and Nuts, thanks for thinking of me today. Thank you you all for thinking of me!

Today went well. I think it should be pretty easy to catch on. Everyone was very nice and the place is super laid back. It is funny bc I am working with girls young enough to be my daughters. However, I do not think of myself as so old! One girl guessed I was 29 or 30. That made my day. I am 45. When I told her my age she told me that her mom was 45. haha

Glad it went well on day one! Only good things lie ahead for you Amy!

Thanks Bonnie!!! CPR today and then I have the day to myself. After today I am working 12 hour shifts pretty much everyday for a while. I have Tuesday off. Did I mention I have to work 12 hour night shifts too. Man, I am not looking forward to that.

I am having trouble with my cat waking me up through the night I might have to start a new post on how to deal with that. It is causing me to get very little sleep which I desperately need for my emotional and physical state. I am starting to feel drained and a bit emotional. Guess that is to be expected since it hasn't been long since I learned I was getting a divorce.

Your cat is going through a big change also. If he has never done this before, I am sure he will get back to normal soon. Mine go through phases where they start partying about 3 AM. Luckily, it doesn't happen often.

Your cats will settle down. They don't do change well.

I’m glad your first day at work went so well. Twelve hours are hard! DD does it, but not as much as she used to, fortunately. The main thing is to try to get your rest on those days off.

Love your view!

CPR must be a requirement for your job. I teach CPR and am always happy to hear when somebody becomes certified and is able to help save lives! Give the cats time to become familiar with their new home. You have received some good suggestions.

12 hour shifts will certainly keep you busy, but maybe that's a good thing. Hang in there and know that I (and many here) are thinking of you. Hugs, my friend!

I'm happy to hear your first day went well. You are really working 12 hour shifts, six days a week? Yikes!

This week I work 7 12 hour shifts. I am PRN so I am working when they need me. I have to train for two more days. Then I took the shifts that were available which has me working a lot this week. After this week, I will have two weeks off. Hopefully I can pick up some more shifts during that time. Hopefully soon I will be full time.

Sounds like a tough week, but it will be a good way to get acclimated too.

very tough. but they have amazing person for the job. I mean you, Amy. You amaze me really

please take a good care of yourself. Don't forget that important part

When you set your mind to something, Amy.. you are ALL in! It does sound like a long, tough week but your rewards are great too. Hang in there and know we're all sending you good vibes!

You rock, Amy. One million atta girls!! That hospital is lucky to have you.

You guys are so amazing. Thank you for the encouragement and kind words. Turns out I have today off. My boss changed my schedule. So, I work tomorrow, Thursday and Saturday. Then not again until Monday. I am happy to work as much as I can. However 12 hour shifts are long. The ER stays pretty busy so that helps time go by faster.

I am glad to hear this! My DD is in the ER and 3 days in a row of trauma are all she can take! Get some rest.

Happy that the crazy schedule is temporary.....also that your schedule changed so you have some time off. Fingers crossed you will soon be permanent with a set schedule.