Is social media an excuse to not talk/visit with family?
perennialfan275
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Extended visit from family member of DH
Comments (24)Wow! Houseguests! I don't want them and I don't want to be one, either. As for the suffering we have to endure in the name of civility and "family" - that belongs to a bygone era. Nothing against civility, but from the moment she invited herself with 2 kids, she broke the rules. I have a feeling that she knew you would be "nice". I turned our guest bedroom into a walk-in closet, got rid of the bed and am polite but firm in turning away all requests and pre-made plans from family/friends and invading Huns. Likewise, when we visit friends and family in other areas, we stay at a motel or hotel. I had to do some work to get DH on board with this, but he is oblivious to whether we have 100 people or just us, the guys don't have the onus of entertaining, cooking, etc. Oh - one more thing that always works when they stay too long - run out of toilet paper!...See Moreuninvited family 'threatening' to visit (for a month)!!!!... long
Comments (71)Won't repeat what I've already said, just to add that I bend over backwards to make guests feel comfortable. I tolerate a lot when they don't realize they're bothering me or instance. However when it gets to the point they're taking advantage of you or abusing the privilege, that's where I say draw the line. When I stay someplace, I always make the bed. It might not be to their standards, but I try. At least it's presentable. And I always assist with prep/cleanup if they invite me for a meal, try to cook a meal for them and/or take them out for a meal or something while I'm there. I look at it as simple courtesy. Few animals bother me so theirs wouldn't bother me and I wouldn't bother them if they didn't like attention. When I had the dog I only stayed with friends once, simply because I said no thanks, I had the dog with and didn't want to cause people trouble, but these folks said no problem, having him was fine. I was very careful to watch him closely and keep him in the kitchen most of the time just in case of an accident. He did well, they did well, I was nervous but still had a good time. But much depends on the people. Hope all works out. Now give those pussycats a treat and tell them the mean old dogpeople are going to stay in a kennel! :)...See MoreNeed to talk through colors for my family room
Comments (137)3apples, you *need* this William Morris Kerastan rug! It looks to have a variety of the colors you've chosen in the palette, and would finish off the room beautifully. I started with the rug first, actually choosing the same WM but in black~still love it after 7 years of looking at it every day! It's in the greatroom, which I use as my 'formal room', somewhat like you. There hasvto be ONE room in the house for adults! Choosing a rug first seems to allow everything else to fall in place so much easier. If you were thinking of adding one as a 'secondary' option, move it to the forefront for ease in decision making. I see grey is a historic color in Henrietta Spencer-Churchhill's book The Georgian Style. Who knew? Here is a link that might be useful: WM rug...See MoreAnother weekend....another excuse/issue
Comments (7)You are not a bad person. She is getting waht any person gets when they behave in such a manner. Its just sad for the kids. My husband went to pick up his kids last night and bioomom wasnt' home with them. Don't know where they went but he drove for almost 2 hours and when he got there, it was a no show. So he turned about and drove home. So now he's going to look like the bad person for not picking up his son. His daughter has all these activities from school to friends planned and is a no show for the next 2 1/2 months. Biomom calls at our house, leaves a message andyou can just hear it in her voice!!! 'oh ____ are you comign to pick up son...?" I was so disgusted. The games she plays and then she cries victim. And the kids do not know who is tellign the truth. But mommy is right, we live with her most of the time....daddy must be lying...oh he's the bad one...SIGH....i'm just tired of the bs And my heart goes out to you because you deal with more. I do not get the deal withthis 24/7 and your kids must be so tired by now with bs games like this now that they are old enough to realize. I agree with others onthis post, i wouldn't count on her unless she shows up at the door....See Moreperennialfan275
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