Ingrid, since you are reworking this room, how about considering chairs rather than another love seat? Do you come into this room to read? I think it is also an entry, yes? I am sometimes a symmetry hater but think 2 chairs might balance the room if there is sufficient space.

I'm biased because I just finished painting my kitchen and hall this color but ... Eider white? It is a little warmer but also so pale you almost think it's white until you see it against white trim and ceiling. It does not read as beige or yellow at all to me. As to the cabinet color ... it all depends on your budget and if you like any of the woods that are available. I chose a stained wood because I like wood grain and wanted something super durable against dings and dents. Maybe see if they have any wood cabinets that are not overly red or warm, it looks like you really like gray so I'm guessing you like cool colors?

I am also always drawn to this inspiration pic of jute/sisal look with light gray walls too, but my husband likes gray as he thinks it won’t show as much dirt and wear....

I would pick a creamy white. Honestly, I think your kitchen is really pretty and stained cabinets are trending right now. When you can, I'd change out the b/s to something more current and remove the fan.