We don't exactly have the same issue, but we painted our fence the same shade of charcoal as the house. At least that would give you a buffer of color away from his fence color. That will keep your eye from wandering toward the fence away from the house and leaves the front door as the splash of color.

The colour they chose for the fence clashes with the colour of my door and mailbox.

I like the combination - I don't think you have a problem. Technically, red and and orange make an analogous color scheme. So, in terms of hue, the color relationship works.

Also, your door and mailbox and the orange color on the fence are in the same value range; that reinforces the relationship too.

I'd have them paint the fence one consistent color. First because I think it's a fun color combination with your door and mailbox and second because I think a fence painted in two different colors is going to create a weirder situation visually than a traditional, one-color fence.

The only problem I see with their fence is that it looks like an unfinished project. If I had to paint it, I'd paint it the same color that they have already chosen for it. It's far enough away, and obviously under another's ownership, so not really a problem unless you make it so. It's in a family of color related to your brick color.

I agree that the fence and your door and mailbox colours actually work together well for the reasons mentioned in the posts above....

I (not them), have to look at it through my 2 kitchen windows that as of now, provide me with a neutral view.

Says the woman with a raspberry front door and mailbox. :-D

Lori & othersbeat me to it - at least on my monitor the orange relates nicely to your raspberr y and brick reds. Id do same color for sake of continuity.

Having thought more about it.... I don't think their painted gate is a problem re blending with your door etc. But if you painted your side of that fence the same color as their gate, it might be overwhelming and limit your choice of colors for plants in your yard. I think it was dchall above who suggested a charcoal color for the fence... That might be a good choice - it would recede into the shadows when you plant in front of it, and be neutral enough to go with their colorful gate, your door, and any choice of plants that you plant against the fence.

Its a rather long fence so I want to make the right decision as we will be enjoying it for tens of years. The following 2 pictures are of my deck and the other is another stain they chose for the far side of their backyard fence. Both of these stains are beautiful to me. Both have orange in them, but more subdued than what they chose for the front fence. Hope you all will continue to provide me with your excellent advice and again, many thanks.

OOO-kay, I'd like to say you are lucky because you are allowed to touch their fence. Not so much here unfortunately.