Donations en lieu of gifts, at wedding, is that tacky?
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Comments (50)Natal "why did we Have to invite employees" because each of our staff wanted to throw us a party at the offices, as did our friends both from work and friends who are clients as well as personal friends....we were in our mid 40's and busy professionals. It changes things. We asked to invite the staff we worked closest with so they wouldn't feel they had to do something at work, which would have involved many other people, and to make our life easier. Perhaps that's part of the issue with the social circle we deal with, but it's kind of the norm where we live for the folks you work with to have parties for other folks they work with. When your the boss that adds pressure on the staff (social stuff...NOT FROM US) and we wanted to aleviate that. My boss was a close friend of my husband's. My close friend is a business associate of his. The older you get the more tied up stuff like that gets. And aside from one couple who we did not want to invite but "had to" (another hilarious story in itself) the people we work with are like family. We also celebrate their lifes when occasions arise. Believe it or not, it was stresful beyond stressful. We didn't need anything, didn't want anything, didn't want to make feel people feel they had to purchase stuff for the baby....it was and odd situation that neither of us had been in before and at our age it felt odd. Somehow these types of parties are so much easier when they're for 20 year olds :)...See MoreGift ideas for 50th Wedding Anniversary
Comments (20)I came to this site looking for ideas for my parents who are trying to come up with a good 50th anniversary gift for my grandparents as well. I appreciate the ideas that have been posted thus far. I do have a suggestion for the group - My mom made a cross-stitch blanket that is hanging above my grandparents' bed for one of their anniversaries. It's basically a family tree and includes a square for each person - My mom stiched i.e. "John" (son) and his birthdate and then "Jane" (wife) and her birthdate, and in between the two - their wedding anniversary date. And then below John and Jane are the three kids and their birthdates. In each person's square she stitched a little item that represents that person - like my square has a piano because I play piano... my cousin's has a baseball, etc. It was VERY well received and it's perfect because we know how when you get old you are very good at forgetting dates! I thought this was the best gift idea ever and it was very well received. And every time a new family member is added, my Mom just updates the blanket.... The problem is now, we have their 50th anniversary coming up and this past anniversary gift is going to be very hard to top....See MoreWhat to spend for a wedding gift
Comments (28)I also read this post with great interest.. not sure why LOL as I don't have children and am not all that keen on getting married myself (though not opposed to it in theory LOL). I agree with Barb that there is or should be no expectation for guests to cover the costs of their plate. At the same time I agree with mitchdesj that it is a good guideline for those of us who struggle with how much to spend. It makes sense if you can afford it-- but it surely isnt expected. As a twenty-something, I couldnt have afforded to cover my plate for the NYC and Phila "do it big" weddings I am very close with my nieces and nephews (7) and tend to be generous with gifts. I spend a little more on birthdays, graduations etc but I also spend a lot of timing coming up with gifts that support their interests, budding careers and education etc. All are too young for wedding gifts, but I expect that I will also be generous in helping them to establish and celebrate their new lives. My situation is somewhat unique though-- I don't have my own kids and I take an active role in helping to raise the nieces and nephews-- not because their parents don't or can't but more to balance their parents. I am somewhat of a matriarch in the family-- or more correctly the crazy and generous aunt. (My dad calls me auntie mame) OK, so that said, today at this point of my life, I would give $1000 as a wedding gift to a niece or nephew. For a nonfamily close friend it would be more in the 100-200 range... though I will be honest, unless I am giving "big money" I tend to give special selected gifts....See MoreIn Lieu Of a Gift/Flowers
Comments (54)Elmer, you need to expand your social circle! Debutantes "rare" in your parts? Well, let's see. San Francisco has TWO debutante balls! One is held in June and is a benefit the the California Pacific Medical Center, and the other is called the Cotillion and is held right before Christmas. In Los Angeles, there is the Las Madrinas and there is also one in the Newport Beach area. There may be others - these are just the ones I have a personal knowledge of and know those who have participated. Debutante balls are still quite popular and now everyone is getting in on the act. There are Russian and Ukraninan ones, black debutante balls, Chinese-American debutante balls - you name it someone has organized it. Girls still like to dress up in long goofy dresses (usually white, but not always - in St Louis not at the Veiled Prophet Ball), long white gloves and get to have a great party....See MoreNothing Left to Say
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