Warm toned cabinet and cool grays do not work well together. Neither brings out the best in the other and the overall effect can be drab. "Grays" that are really blues or greens with a gray undertone can work, especially if you don't mind the darker kitchen look as opposed to the light and airy look. For my own oak kitchen I have a soft creamy beige that has just enough color to set off my white trim. https://www.houzz.com/photos/my-pics-work-in-progress-phvw-vp~58830325 https://www.houzz.com/photos/my-pics-work-in-progress-phvw-vp~71048330 This person refreshed their oak kitchen with darker countertops and presently has a more green wall color - pics are in the comments section: https://www.houzz.com/discussions/affordable-update-dsvw-vd~4347799?n=13 One of the regular Houzz posters auntthelma, chose this pretty green with gray undertone with her wood cabinets: Do get sample jars and paint a large area with the sample - 2 coats if possible and look at it for a few days and in different lighting - also gray vs sunny days.

Start by priming the gold walls with white or gray primer. The gold reflections will distort the colors of new paint samples. Then change the odd-looking light bulbs to whatever LEDs you are going to use. Paint a foamcore board with the Kilim Beige, then hold it up next to the countertops. The new paint needs to coordinate with the countertops, the flooring and the cabinets. One shade lighter than Kilim Beige on the same color card is worth a good long look. Since the countertops are beige, too, they are likely to be the driver here. Cara Lewis-Watt's pale greens can be sampled on the same foamcore board. Both the SW and BM "Sea Salt" colors are quite versatile. That'd get you out of having to identify the "perfect" off white/beige that goes well with everything else.

Thank you @everdebz and @eam44 for the input. I did hire Kylie for a cabinet color consult and she did a good job (though I hadn't chosen a counter top at that point), I was more looking for a cabinet color that would be a "white" that would look good in a north facing room and this is from her consult - "SW Alabaster. This is a warm, creamy white. It will help to off-set the northern light coming in, without being as yellow as Dover White." She also suggested Westhighland White as a 2nd choice. SW 7566 but I feel I see a bit of pink...maybe I need my eyes checked. I do like Alabaster, but it seems a bit too warm for some of my counter top selections. What is the "nuance" of SW alabaster.... And does it contradict what Lori says about nuance below? From reading the chroma info from land of color expert @funcolors it seems I want "Colors with a nuance that is light and clear. Meaning choose paint colors that are clear but not vivid or bright", but how to pick one. Don't exactly understand how I figure out "nuance". Also, do I start with a paint color that will work in a northern exposure and then select a counter top to go with, or do I pick a counter top and then pick a cabinet color? I see so many counter tops that I like, yet I can't figure out how to pick the proper paint color that will work with the counter top AND the north exposure. And then to bring in a dark color for the island. Kylie suggested SW Cyberspace or SW Grizzle Gray 7068. I really like Grizzle Gray, but I am concerned it is too muddied and gray for the northern light. Will the gray stand out more? Say I chose something with green undertones (SW Urban bronze 7048) is the blue north light going to counteract to make these colors appear brown? or will the green tones be more prevalent. Bottom line I am still having a hard time figuring out what the natural light will do to the various paint colors. And because the house is under construction and my cabinet color choice needs to be made, I am not in a situation where I can wait until everything is in place.

SW Alabaster is lovely light iff white but it is in the Yellow Hue family and that core characteristic in North facing space could show more predominately. I would need to see your furnishings and rugs plus better pictures of the flooring to make a better informed choice for you. Lots of great off white choices but good to understand what you plan for the room.