OT. Why do we always want what we can't have?
daisyincrete Z10? 905feet/275 metres
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noseometer...(7A, SZ10, Albuquerque)
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Wanting What We Can't Have
Comments (5)Brought back memories of talking with my son on long drives or just hanging out together. He's 41 now but still comes by and just talks ...and tells me about chatting and learning from his daughter...and so it goes. I really enjoyed your piece, Maryanne...thanks. josh...See MoreCan't always get what you want - do you need to?
Comments (6)clueless, thanks for posting this. I am finally done with our kitchen remodel (still shell-shocked though, LOL) and this is exactly the kind of perspective I wish there were more of on this site. I learned SO much here about layout and function, but this forum feels like a home design/decorating site a lot of the time. In hindsight I got way too swept up in how the kitchen looks/feels rather than functions (at the expense of the original budget.) There were many things I came to "want" after finding kitchen forum, and most of them I did not "need" ! We haven't moved in yet, but I really hope that I will still have succeeded in making my life easier and increasing quality time with family, like sumbrm so beautifully illustrated. I'd echo what trailrunner said, too. A kitchen comes to life because of the life that happens in it, not staged life (perfect lighting/accessories/photography etc.) Don't get me wrong I thoroughly enjoy seeing the reveals that make me feel like I'm reading a design blog or Elle Decor, but I most enjoy kitchens that really reflect the unique personality/lifestyle of the home/homeowner. I'm thinking right now of arlosmom, sayde, sabjimata, and actually, trailrunner. I know there are lots of others I'm forgetting right now. (And this is hypocritically coming from someone who just put in an off-white butler's pantry kitchen like 100 other kitchens here!) It is refreshing to see a kitchen that is not traditionally "magazine worthy" like the link below and see how folks make it work for them. I bet it's inconceivable to most of us TKO'er that this woman is not posting here for how to improve her storage and layout, LOL. But then think of the food being turned out of this kitchen... Here is a link that might be useful: Tour of kitchen from article...See MoreWeek 77: why do we do what we do?
Comments (49)Christine- you saved a life! Not many can say that! I like to think I'm the type that won't panic but since I've never been in a true life threatening situation, I can't know for sure. I was an athletic trainer in high school, in football country, so I've had my fair share of calming injured persons down. This is completely anecdotal but football players are WAY more "sissy" than softball/volleyball girls. I had to restrain several girls and tell them "NO, I need to look at that ankle!" while I had to tell at least one football player to get up and get off the field! The closest "panic" experience I've had was when my 2 year old severely burned herself. I only had panicky feelings AFTER she was at the hospital. During the moment, I was in the moment, using the skills and knowledge I had to help her. Did I ever mention my original "when I'm grown up I want to be..." was a doctor? Probably helps that my dad was a first responder and I remember sitting around the dinner table and him telling about reaching into a guys broken leg and pinching the femoral artery shut. When we were at a family gathering later and he was sharing the story, others were disgusted and couldn't finish their meals!! That's when I learned that other people have a different tolerance/panic level than we (my family) do. Marrying ketshup....EWWWW!!!!!!! Look, I'll save the old, almost empty bottle (in the fridge) to use next time but mixing them? Bleh!! Shaken, not stirred? All juices, salsa, ranch, BBQ sauce, basically all condiments, chocolate milk, tea. I'm a southern gal but growing up my mom only drank unsweetened tea. It wasn't until I was a teenager that I learned that southern iced tea is generally sweet tea. Still can't stand it to this day. IF I'm going to have tea it will be iced and NOT sweet! Also, no one else has said it but can I just say that canned veggies need to die a horribly slow painful death? The only veggies I got growing up (remember mom HATED cooking) were canned. Canned corn (Meh, OK in a pinch) canned peas (SOOO mushy!!), canned carrots (OK, if I can't have fresh I actually do prefer canned to frozen), canned beets (BLEH!!! Still my most hated veggie to this day) canned green beans (THIS is LITERALLY the worst!!! Salty, limpy, bad flavor yuckiness put in a can!!!) The only one I actually liked and still buy/stock my pantry with is hominey. My canned goods storage is very different from my moms. Her pantry was/is stocked with canned veggies, soups, beans, etc. The cans in my pantry are generally tomato sauce/paste (hoping to start growing my own next year!!), and prepped beans. Pinto, black, refried, black eyed peas, etc. I really want to start my garden next year and grow tomatoes, bell peppers, onions, garlic and herbs to start with. Hopefully, years from now, my daughters will talk about mom's atrocious pantry with ready made foods because they have grown accustomed to having fresh food. :)...See MoreI'm going to entitle my memoirs "Cats: Why We Can't Have Nice Things"
Comments (150)How I Loooooove these cat stories!! I couldn't help getting a few tears in my eyes but so many more laughs!!! At 73, I can't say I ever remember a time I didn't have at least one weaving in and out of my legs, tail up, meowing either for attention or food. A few even tried to use me as a scratching post !lol My bff in IL takes in rescues, and at the moment has 21 or 22. The 100 yo historic home she bought 9 years ago came with 2 separate garages, one housing the majority of the kitties, the other is used for storage, but she always keeps the big door open a foot at the bottom, and knows *other* critters take part in the 'vittles' also. Sthe has either 4 or 5 in the house, one being a mama cat w/7 kittens, the very start of her rescue 'mission'. She gave away 2 of those kittens(after neutering!),and never stopped regretting it. They have all found a forever home with her. Her vet/food costs are insane, and when I visited in the summer we found worms in one of the litter pans, and in a two day period, took every cat into the vet to be dewormed. That was $400. It's neverending work! Whenever I call she's scooping, feeding, or rocking one of them in the old rocking chair that was moved out to the garage. She also donates to almost every animal organization known to man, even if it's only $5. She's a one-woman rescue shelter, and I wish I were closer to help. We always say we like animals more than people because animals can't help their situatuon, but people usually can....See Moresultry_jasmine_nights (Florida-9a-ish)
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