Weird self-destruct-looking switch/light on wall of old house
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I am new, and I have to vent or self destruct!!!
Comments (8)What a tough day, you are a hero, you know. And a good vent can be very satisfying. What about putting her in an Adult Day Care program every day. They are very good, it will give her a chance to get out of the house and do things, and give you the break you need. They are well worth it. Your mother sounds bored - she's needs to "keep busy" and she finds whatever catches her eye, and does it, even if it makes no sense to you. Of course she doesn't want to go to a nursing home, not too many of us wake up and decide today is the day to move to a nursing home. But it looks like it's time to get her out of your home. It's not doing your or your granddaughter any good having her there with this much chaos and anger and frustration. The tables have turned, now you and your husband have to make that decision, and see that it gets done. But..... once there, she'll be fine, she'll be happier there than at home with you. Good nursing homes have lots of activities and lots of supervision, and good care. And your weekly visits with her will be a treat, not an ordeal. Medicare won't pay for a nursing home unless she needs it for sub-acute rehab - and then only for a short time. If she has no money, Medicaid will pay for her care. If she has money, that would go toward nursing home expenses, she must get some money every month - Social Security/pension, etc. Why do you think you have to pay the entire cost? Your energy should go towards taking care of yourself, your husband and your dear granddaughter - his mother should not be at the top of the list. You know you are not going to hurt her, or your grandchild. That leaves you, and your marriage. And if your husband leaves, you know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that he'll leave his mom with you. LOL You are doing an amazing job, and have every right to be angry with her, even if she doesn't know what she did. It's still a waste of your time, money and the food you prepared. My mother had Alzheimers, for 15 years, and my dad took care of her for most of that time, and she became very difficult. After 10 years, we sat down with dad and said that it was time to move to a retirement community, he fought us for almost a year. After they moved, he loved it, said it was the best thing he ever did. After a few years, we insisted mom go to adult day care, and he fought that, but she loved it, and he could finally do some things for himself. The next year it was clear that it was time for her to move to the nursing home in their retirement community. She had become violent and was hitting him, and didn't sleep at night. She got out of their apartment a few times, even with an alarm. Even so, he fought that too, but the move went well, she was much happier and so was he. She died 9 months later. My dad lived for 6 more years. For 4 1/2 years, he remained in his own apartment, with some help after he had a stroke. Eventually he moved to the assisted living facility, and 3 months later, to the nursing home in the retirement community. He died there a year later. Both of my parents had excellent care, they loved the staff, and we were confident we'd made the right decisions. Take a deep breath, have a good cry, and hug that wonderful granddaughter and dear husband....See MoreNew Kittens- How to keep your home from destruction?
Comments (42)RE: declawing . . .when my husband's cats started ruining everything (we had plenty of acceptable things for them to scratch), we talked to a cat clinic about declawing. We said we would abide by what they said regarding whether or not to do it. They said it as long as the pain management was good, it was fine. Our cats didn't change AT ALL. They were just as perfect as always. I've read plenty of sad stories on a cat forum I was on where cats where having behavioral issues . . .and they were not declawed. However, as a compromise, I now only adopt cats that are already declawed. I'd be willing to get one intact, but DH is not. It really limits your options this way, though. I would rather just walk into a shelter and pick out a friend vs. pick among the ones w/o claws (front). My friend, a vet, says if someone is going to declaw, she thinks it should be done early in life. She says cats can start with destructive behavior at any point, too. One of my friend's cats was like this-- she only started destroying things when she was about 9! Our cats have never had litterbox or behavior issues. Temperament seems to be key in that department, along with health....See MoreWill a loft half covering my kitchen look weird?
Comments (47)Just heard from Archy! Got the preliminary drawings for all 3 levels...here's the main level. I LOVE how he dealt with the entry/my office area/pantry. We were going round & round. I NEEDED better access to one freezer I access all the time & didn't want it in the pantry with the other one. My desk (to the right of the freezer) is in a perfect area - just the right location upon entering - just dump & dash :) Deal with later. We needed the entry to the greenhouse from there to give us 2 layers of entry to the deck because of heat loss & bears. Next to the entry closet will be bins & more storage for boots, outdoor gear, stuff like that. We'll have doors so it won't look messy. I heard the bells rings when I saw this so I'm pretty sure this is a go! So hard when you only have so much room to work with & a fierce winter climate that is working against you. :) Thanks for all your input & help....See MoreHow to remove OLD switch box (1910s-1950s?)?
Comments (10)Thanks for everyone's feedback! This was helpful. Your suggestions have prompted me to think about alternative options, especially considering how difficult it would be to detach the conduit (I thought I just loosen the nut thingies, but looks like that's not the case). I figured there's no way to replace or expand the current switch box, so I'll find a way to just add a second one alongside it and use two separate switch plate covers. After opening the wall more, it seems there's just a board running between the two studs (see pic) that the current box is nailed to. I plan to get another box that's the same depth and just screw it to the same board. Punch the holes between the two boxes, connect wiring through there. Not sure how many electrical codes I'll be violating haha......See MoreUser
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