I know what you mean. One suggestion people always give is to create an folder of kitchens you like a lot (from magazines, online, wherever). Well, I did that. I had everything from cottage to modern to steampunk to industrial to eclectic to what is it/I have no idea. I had colors, I had no colors. OK, let's narrow it down. Well, that helped a bit but not much. I'm all over the place, too. Awhile back, we had a discussion where someone posted their most favorite kitchens and asked people to help them assess them. It was quite interesting as people picked up elements I wouldn't have considered. I don't recall them but it would have been things like, for example, all the kitchens have an island without a sink and all have light wood floors and all have mixed metals. It was those little things that tied them together, not the style itself. You might see if you can find it. I don't recall what was called. Sorry. You might also post photos in another discussion here to see if you get helpful analysis. I'm skeptical that someone who loves color so much would really be happy having a room with little color. I also think it would seem incongruent in your home, making it feel off-balanced. Of course, you could have wood-tone floors/cabinets or some other neutral but I'm guessing you'd be happier in a kitchen where at least the backsplash and other decor were able to be colorful. I wish I was more actual help. BTW, I love the fact that you have bright yellow/purple/chartreuse rooms. It's so fun!

OK I've changed my mind about how to approach your home. There are lots of details that have been fabricated on this house that I would change, but to get you over the finish line here is what I suggest. I think the key word here is SIMPLIFY. I would consider painting the complete home a soft greige gray color & select dark greige for the simple garage doors. Here are some colors from Sherwin Williams I tried to see what your home would look like if it was a light color & I think that grey/greige color could really update the appearance.

Several things..the island will feel less contrived if you were to replace the table with a round. The current square brings too much attention to the angle of the island. Either replace the foyer wallpaper or re-do the wainscoting to match the two—tones in the d.r. If you decide to replace the foyer paper be aware of background white/off-white/creme, etc. when choosing your paint color. I agree new fans without lights is in order. I think once you have all elements in place then would be a good time to reselect your lighting. Lighting has a huge influence on the overall look you are trying to achieve. Your home is lovely and has a very nice lived-in look. Good job!

@ptreckel I completely agree. This kitchen is beautiful and very high quality cabinets still in fanstastic shape even though they are 15 years old. That is what I want some opinions on...What kind of lighting can I throw in there? Can I just do something like this that I love? And what would compliment these in dining area? Can I just update with modern black pulls/knobs/faucet? And what kind of barstools can I do? Yes, someday new counters, etc..but not anytime soon..new paint (but i think I might love that moss green on the walls)...lights, pulls, etc. Would love some ideas on these things :) @Sherry Brighton What kind of hardware do you suggest? Black? Chrome? @Dosa Mosa Not renovating...cosmetic changes only. The cabinets are very nice..just not my taste, so looking for ways to do some changes that are more my style (Transitional) and still have it all make sense.