Thanks, aktillery!

The mattress is 25" tall. The dressers I was thinking of using are different heights. One is 29.5" tall. The other is 32" tall. Are these good or bad heights?

what a cozy room, and love the headboard!

there are rules regarding nightstands, lamps and all, and I might try and see whether I can dig them out for you...but the main thing-they should make sense and be comfortable to use. say they shouldn't be so long that they interfere with you getting out of bed. or at least one of them should be low enough to comfortably have on it water, glasses, whatever you might need in the middle of the night. your preferences plus common sense.

Your current balance is good by the way..a bit different heights, but lamps still keep it very balances being different too,

I'm partial to assymetry so I like that one nightstand is square another round

Lamps, I like as well

So..hard to be helpful lol

maybe show us the dressers? but I might like them too:)

I agree with April. I would love to see the dressers as well!

..omg. very detailed lol

https://www.thespruce.com/how-to-pick-a-bedside-lamp-350459

Thanks Aprilneverends! That link is so helpful, thanks for finding it.

Here are the dressers. They will need to quit their day jobs to come work up here, but our furniture is quite flexible that way. I do wonder if they're too tall...

My only concern with your dressers are they might look crowded and maybe too tall? Have you tried them yet? I could be wrong, I would have to see them in the space. They both look lovely.

I haven't hauled them up there yet. The green one is 41" wide, which leaves about 10" between it and the corner.

Will there be any moulding where the walls meet the ceiling? I'm not sure about the colors of the dressers, you were probably going to strip and stain or repaint maybe.

Yes, there will be moulding where the walls meet the ceiling. I'm not sure about the colors of the dressers, either! I was considering leaving the black one black, and painting the green one to match, but the sky's the limit on colors if they work for this space.

Black might not be "warm" enough for that room.

I think the current set-up with the nightstands. I like the collected look of mismatched nightstands and tables. If you decide you want taller lamps, stick with mismatched.

I like the current lamps and nightstands too

Nice find with the headboard! It reminds me of this bed I've been coveting from Anthropologie but can't bring myself to buy for $1300

What a beautiful room! So relaxing!

I very much like the black dresser as is and don't think the contrast is too harsh

As someone mentioned, hard to say without actually being in the room. Is there some way you can take a hard copy of the photo and color that current dresser there black? ha Or if you have photo shop or someone who knows how to do that.

I like symmetry. So if your nightstands are mismatched, at least try to get them the same height. And make sure your lamps match.

I'm seeing wall-mounted light fixtures and a trunk on one side of the bed. Love the room and the ceiling.

Wow! I'm amazed at your skill and patience. Beautiful work.

Thank you all for taking a look at this and commenting, aktillery, aprrilneverends, cawaps, caligirl, nosoccermom, schoolhouse, Open House, sunfeather, and nutsaboutplants. It's been pretty busy here and I've not taken the time to move the dressers around yet, but I do appreciate the comments. I too love symmetry, Open House, and I like the idea of wall sconces, sunfeather. We've done those in other bedrooms in the past. It was nice to not have lamps taking up space on the nightstands, but DH remembers it being a little more challenging to turn the lights on and off from bed, and something about their positioning made them prone to being knocked by our arms when we stretched in bed. Hmmmm... and then I have art and a mirror to hang on either side of the window... mocking this up in Paint as schoolhouse suggested is sounding like a good idea to see how everything might fit. And Caligirl, maybe your dream bed is hiding under a scratched brown finish on Craigslist. My eyes almost popped out when I saw the price of the Anthropologie bed, whoa!

Thank you for the kind words, everyone. This is probably as close as I'll get to my dream of living in a barn. :-) I'm very thankful for DH's skills. It's been an interesting road to learn how to be patient about getting all the projects done. I used to be a lot more uptight about it (and can still have my moments...) I'm learning being uptight doesn't get the work done any faster, but can certainly make me feel anxious and miserable. It's been a slow adjustment to a mindset of being grateful for strides forward, recognizing that DH truly is getting done as much as he reasonably can, and that it's come a looong way from when we bought the house 4 years ago. The kids are growing up quickly, and we need to balance our project driven selves with being present and available to them, so things can take longer on that front, too.

A while back I came across pictures from a Christmas in our last fixer upper when it was still in its "hovel" state. My aunt was visiting for the holiday, and I could tell in the photos that she and our kids were having a great time together. She didn't care that the house was a wreck. Her eyes were full of sparkle and laughter. She's gone now. (And that house with all the work we poured into it, and all the time I agonized over every little change we made to it, is gone, too.) I had forgotten much of the mess we were living in, but I remember well the wonderful time we had together that day, and that's what was important. In a few years we'll forget the discomfort of living with some undoneness, but I hope we'll have many good memories of spending our days loving and appreciating each other while in this home.